Ref scissoring - I'm curious when the phrase came into use. I read plenty of lesbian smut in the late 90s and don't remember ever seeing it used. It's always struck me as a position designed for porn (maximum display possibilities) rather than participant pleasure.
I’m honestly not sure. Like you, I’ve been at this since the 90s, and I didn’t see it as a term used for a sexual position used by lesbians until relatively recently, the last 3 or four years of which it has become heavily used.
However, if the massive amount of messages I’ve received on here are any indication, you and I are completely wrong and scissoring has always been a thing and a glorious thing at that.
So, to every woman who does the scissoring thing and it works for you, I’m happy for you. I am. Anytime you can find mutual pleasure in consensual sex, it’s a good thing.
However, I do find it hard to believe that most women would get a lot of satisfaction from the position. There are always exceptions to the rule, of course, and, if there’s someone out there reading this who is the exception, good for you; please don’t message me about it. I’ve had enough personal testimonials to last me the rest of my lifetime, and your righteous indignation at my blanket statement that scissoring isn’t a thing for most lesbians is really uncalled for since, you know, it’s a blanket statement of generalities and not specific to you.