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[mykastory]

답답한 놈...

Worked for almost 24 hours straight.. mad crazy on two rush translation jobs... kept going back and forth on each one..

S offered to help with one of em, but I wanted to finish it myself.. also.. didn’t wanna rely on him and then have him let me down...

거의 밤새다 싶이하고, 담 날에도 또 계속하고..

S texted again in the afternoon.. he offered to help, again, but I told him it was okay and to 빨래나 해

“ㅋㅋ 네네”

I know how lazy he is before work and didn’t wanna make him work before work...

Thought he’d at least call to check up on me before going into work..

Nope.

But whatevs, maybe he didn’t wanna bother me cuz he knew I was working.. or maybe he didn’t even think twice about it.. yeah.. that’s more likely -_-

Finished around 7... Texted him with a 개피곤 emoticon..

30+ mins later

“done? come have a beer”

-_-

“can’t move right now. maybe later.”

almost 2 hrs later

“ㅋㅋㅋ”

땡

It bothered me a bit but I was too tired to care..

Fell asleep and woke up when he called after he got off work

“were you sleeping?”

“yeah..”

“sorry..” *starts yelling at one of his co-workers to grab a cab that’s going by

-_-

“going to hongdae to have some 양꼬치 w/ coworkers”

“ok..” wide awake now

“빨리 자~”

“...”

“wanna go eat peking duck tmrw?”

I had previously told him that I don’t think I tried it before..

“sure...”

“peking duck 먹고 영화 보고 데이트 하자~”

A couple days ago he had said that we should 오랜만에 go on a date

“ok..”

“빨리 자~”

“뭘 다 깨워놓고 yelling in my ear 하고!!”

“ㅋㅋㅋ sorry”

“ugh~ 또 늦게까지 술 마시고 내일 늦게 일어날거지? ㅠㅠ”

“내일 실컷 자~~”

“not me, you, dumbass”

“아니야~~”

“go have fun”

“ok~ 자요~ bye”

I hung up.

Maybe I’m just extra 예민해 cuz my brain is fried and I’m running on about 3 hrs of sleep..

But is it too much to ask for a little

“끝내느라 고생했어~”

or a

“수고 했어”

or even just an

“aww~”

???

Sometimes he’s so dumb and thick that it’s frustrating.

진짜 모르는 건지.. 아님 알고도 귀찮아서 안 하는 건지..

I guess this is one of the downsides of dating a guy that’s younger than you..

But it’s not even that..

여자 경험이 없어서 그런가?

I mean.. A takes care of me pretty well..

He knows when I’m down or blue and he checks up on me periodically when he knows I am or am having a hard time..

S?

psh

힘들게 일하고 있으면

“열심히 일하고 맛있는거 사줘~”

*sigh

I know he’s joking, but.. 철 없는 놈

What’s that song?

I wish I was strong enough to lift, not one, but, both of us.

No.. If I’m wishing for things, I might as well wish that he was strong enough to lift both of us..

I wanna be taken care of, too...

왜 이렇게 서운하지? ㅠㅠ

I wish he was more attentive and more affectionate and just smarter in general about how to treat me...

The other day, I read him parts of my blog.. all the stuff that happened before we started going out..

We both got a kick out of it~ He’s like,

“참 맛깔스럽게 잘 쓰네”

It was fun thinking back to those times and as I was reading, he would tell me what he was really thinking at the time, etc...

다 읽고 he was like

“I had no idea I put you through so much”

“이제 알면 잘해”

“ㅋㅋㅋ 알았어요~”

That lasted maybe.. 2 days?

After that, I was out with a friend and I called him, but he didn’t pick up..

Called him again 2 ish hrs later..

Still won’t pick up..

“설마 아직도 자?”

No answer.

Another hour or so later I texted him cuz I was getting worried

“... everything ok?”

He called me.. apparently he woke up a couple hrs ago but had his phone on his bed and on vibrate and he was cleaning...

“무슨 일이 있었겠어~”

-_-

이럴때 진짜 짜증나..

Isn’t it a natural reaction to worry if your SO goes mia for hours on end like that?

I’d be 서운해 if he didn’t worry about me after not being able to get touch w/ me for hours like that..

Or at least say sorry for not answering!

Isn’t this the dick-ish stuff that he asked me to call him out on?

What drives me crazy is that he probably doesn’t even realize it... If I told him how I felt he’d probably be all

전화 못 들을 수도 있는 거지~

I offered to help, but you said no..

I texted back late cuz I was busy at work

I remembered to call you when I got off work to tell you I was going out...

어디까지 봐주고 이해해야하고 어디서 선을 그어야 하는거야...

I’m so frustrated.. ㅠㅠ