@tolightamatch replied to your post: “So I’m not sure yet, but I think the former potential date and I are...”:
She works with you yeah? Maybe she just wanted to guve you a heads up that she was at work & thus wouldn't be able to reply right away? I would maybe follow up on the potential date again but in person if possible.
No, she was a guest a day before I went to Disneyland, and we just sort of hit it off. I just figured that since she had gotten off work since then, and never texted back, that she was done with me (the tribulation of depression is thinking that EVERYTHING bad must be because of me).
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@whim-without-gumption replied to your post: “So I’m not sure yet, but I think the former potential date and I are...”:
I really don't think you've done anything to mess up here. She seems to have a lot going on in her life, and is choosing to treat her interactions with you rather casually.
I know you’re right...I just tend to view every possible failure as my own. World War II? I wasn’t even alive yet, but part of me feels like it’s my fault.
But I don’t only know you’re right because what you say makes perfect sense; I know you’re right because as I was on my way to work last night, she texted me (I’m not silly, though, I didn’t actually read it until about an hour into my shift since I don’t text and drive and also because that’s the first time since I got to work that I had to digest whatever she had sent...I didn’t want to read until I had time to reply so I wasn’t leaving her on “message seen” (or whatever it is that it says on her end once I’ve opened the message).
She thanked me for telling her about the guy coming in and talking smack (apparently she’s already out of that guy’s house as of Wednesday but struggling to find places to stay and...I live with my parents I can’t exactly offer their house, I did that once for someone and the parents were not happy about it and...well, rightfully so). She also said she still wants to go out.
So I may not have bought that Flash plush for myself after all. She seems to like sloths, and this one wears a tie like I do at work, so...it just seemed like a groovy thing to get her. Even if things don’t work out in the long run, I hope she enjoys it if/when I get a chance to give it to her.
But...between her trying to find a place to stay, and apparently having just put down a down payment on a car, she’s struggling right now. She has talked her boss into letting her work double-shifts to earn more money (and also mentioned a second job, or maybe just a second location with the same company, which I didn’t know about before we texted last night), and I agree, I’m not the top priority right now.
Which is, as the British would say, altogether right and proper. She’s working to get her own stuff in order, and I’m a distraction from that. Perhaps a welcome distraction, but a distraction nonetheless. And I’ll be happy to distract her when wanted, but otherwise let her take care of business for herself, because I’m not exactly in a position to “rescue” anyone, and she may not need “rescue” in the first place.
It’s not like I’m in a hurry. It’s been almost 11 years since my last date. I can wait a while longer until it’s a good time for her. I don’t exactly have other women lining up to out on a date with me, so the odds of her “missing her chance” are VERY slim.
