#whyworldwhy

[xxperience]

There are days when everything seems to be out of place

when everything seems to be going against you

like its you versus the entire universe

and you’re there - all confused, disappointed and feeling horrible

[the-scotticombs]

Just unfollowed two of my fav blogs...

CAUSE THEY FUCKING SUCK NOW!!

[grooting-brb]

The spotify page for Imagine Dragons... Does not include Ready Aim Fire. Tsk tsk.

[livingcoffey]

WHY IS EVERYTHING AROUND ME ABOUT BABIES?!

[boredbutneverofyou]

do u ever just cry bc you find out he's gay

[forthecalloftherunningtide]

Hidden homophobia

So let's talk about my parents. I'm very lucky to have my parents. They're good parents, and nice people.

But, and there's always a but. They are homophobes.

I don't think they even intend to be homophobic, but they are, and it's so obvious that they are that I don't actually know how to have conversations with them on the topic of homosexuality and gay marriage or anything like that.

They're both rational, logical people, but when it comes to this, they seem to put aside their rational side and just accept the social norm that isn't even really a social norm any more! I don't understand it.

The other day my mum was talking to my brother who is 12 and it was just the most irrational prejudiced thing I've ever heard her say. They were talking about kissing, I think.

Brother: Kissing's stupid.

Mum: Oh, one day you'll want to kiss girls.

Me: Or boys.

Mum: *makes exaggerated urgh noise like kids do* you don't want to kiss boys do you?

And then today I was having a conversation with my dad, my first uh-oh iffy feeling was when he said "gay nutters". Which I think was just referring to a group of people who happen to be both gay and nutters, so that's ok. Sort of. But not really.

Anyway, then he said something along the lines of "I was reading an article and this woman was talking about her wife... but why do these people want to be the same but want to stand out for being different." (please excuse the fact that doesn't make much sense, I have a bad memory for stuff like this) NO DAD. NO! THEY DON'T WANT TO BE THE EXACTLY THE SAMEOR EXTREMELY DIFFERENT. THEY WANT TO BE EQUAL. ACCEPTED BY SOCIETY REGARDLESS OF WHO AND WHAT THEY ARE.

And I think that it's people like my parents who are the problem. Not the uber religious idiots who claim homosexuality is wrong. Not them. No. It's the perfectly ordinary, nice, normally rational and logical and sensible and not 'follow the herd' mentality people. The people who don't even realise that they are being homophobic or prejudiced. It's the everyday categorisation of gay as a synonym for not acceptable.

If I was gay or bi, I would be really afraid of coming out to my parents. Not because I think they would hate me, they would never do that, but because I'm fairly sure that they would say something along the lines of "No, you aren't gay, you're too young to know these things. It's just an experimental phase." And so I'm glad I'm straight, because even thinking about my parents (who I love dearly and are wonderful people) not being able to accept that I'm different to them, well, it hurts me, and if I was actually in that situation I would likely lose all hope for humanity.

  And that is why so many people are scared of coming out of the closet. Because their parents or friends will have a similar reaction. And it is wrong.

[catniipped]

I found out that when you go to copy something off my blog, the highlight turns orange. I'msofascinatedbythisIcan't--. //goes back to answering questions in her corner