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Boys!

By: Rebecca 

BOYS

Every girl at some point in her life will encounter them. Here's a little piece of my mind on how boys work, and what's even up with them! Bearing in mind, I am a 15 year old girl - never had a relationship or a first kiss for that matter, and have only had 'things' with guys. Read on to hear some of my thoughts! 

/ leading on /

The first topic on the list to cover. Basically, all boys ever do to me is lead me on. Not sure why boys do this, but it's hella frustrating for a small, shy girl like me. With some guys, we become really close, and everything is awesome! Then you start to develop feelings for them, and you sort of know they have something there for you too. This happened to me twice, so after a while I confronted the guys about this. I asked one, 'why did you never ask me out?' and his response was 'I didn't want our friendship to suffer' which was okay with me. But then the second guy, he just does it to me all the time and I don't think that's okay. Ladies, if you feel you are being lead on to a guy, try not to feed him what he wants. Find someone else, and make said guy feel worse for not treating you right!

/ falling too hard /

I'm sure everyone has been there before. You get really attached to a guy, then all of a sudden you're thrown in the deep end of feelings and you have fallen hard for this fella. Basically, to keep this from happening, you have to figure out 'does he want this thing too?' I will normally jump to conclusions, and think that we're automatically born for each other. I just have to take a step back, and re-evaluate if this is even worth stressing over. To all the chicka's out there, if you think you're falling too hard for a guy, just have a little think if there might be some one sided expectations there. They can mentally destroy you, so just make sure you're keeping yourself in check.

/ the assholes /

In movies, these guys are the type to keep things interesting. Then again, they can be the terrible, horrible ones that make your life hell. To break it down for you, if the guy is making you feel like shit - leave. It doesn't matter what it is - if you think your relationship isn't being fair and equal, you have every right to leave this dude. The sad thing is, I have watched a friend go through this. They know what the other person does, but they keep going back to them. I know it's hard, but you can't do that. If you left for a reason - stick to your decision, and if you two can resolve the issue, then do it. It just depends on the scenario, and if it is possible to overcome the differences. 

/ mc dreamy /

Now this fella, he is one you're going to want to eat because he looks so damn fine! I have seen a few of these roaming around, and you literally want to drool and pass out because he is honestly gorgeous. Sometimes I won't really picture myself in a relationship with this hottie, I will just picture him, shirtless, and melt a little inside. It's perfectly fine to check these guys out often. Do it ladies! Look at them! ;) Honestly, what's the harm in having a little pleasure? You wanna look at him - go for it. Doesn't pay a cent to look at someone.

/ the bad boy /

They're out there ladies. Just a few things to say to keep you all in check. If you want to go for one, or one goes for you just think is this the kind of boy you want to be with? Honestly, I personally wouldn't like a bad boy. One that smokes, does drugs, and hangs out with the 'wrong crowd' isn't my idea of a perfect guy. If that's your idea - then go be with him hun! No disrespect to anyone, that's just my opinion. Just have to watch out a little bit with a bad boy. Anything illegal - I would say just forget it honestly. It's easier if you do, and you don't get into trouble if you're caught. Simple as that. So just watch yourself ladies! Stay good.

/ mr lonely /

This guy will honestly be the most amazing, kindest, sweetest guy out. But don't be fooled - this has happened to me. Basically, he really wants you and will be literally Mr Perfect. In all honesty, he is probably just lonely, or recovering from an ex. You have to be a little cautious, and not let yourself into a trap. The only way to do that, is to just take a break, and think about him, and what he 'wants' from you. This guy will most likely be in the category above of leading you on, and sometimes it will not be the nicest thing to go through. Just take some time out, and assess this guy. You'll figure out what's best for you c:

And that concludes all the boys I can think of right now! Hope this pretty pathetic advice helps someone out there. Follow Willow And Bide for more! 

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Acoustics and Covers Playlist

By:Hayley

This is my current go to playlist for when I want to study or just chill out with a cup of tea.

What Makes You Beautiful- The 1975

Do I Wanna Know- Hozier

Stay With Me- Ed Sheeran

Burn (Live)- Ellie Goulding

We Can't Stop- Bastille

Best Song Ever- Gabrielle Aplin

Summertime Sadness- Miley Cyrus

Take Me To Church- Ed Sheeran

Riptide- Taylor Swift

West Coast (Acoustic)- Lana Del Rey

Listen to the playlist here!!!

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RAPE

By: Hilarie

I'm not one to advocate change for every unjust act committed against women. However, I find the recent onslaught of rape extremely disturbing. Thus, this week, I'd like to talk about R.A.P.E. 

"Anaconda" by Nicki Minaj. Seriously. "Spaceships" was definitely a favorite of mine. But "Anaconda"? I don’t think so. What if females and males who sang such songs were raped? Would they like the brutal, raw taking? From the songs they sing, I think so. These songs encourage both sexes to violate others. But, is it really a true representation of how these artistes feel?

Mankind has long had a deep appreciation of the female body, apparent from the nude paintings in museums ie Louvre, to even the portrait of Rose in Titanic. Is this the cause for men to take women as and when they deem fit?

Furthermore, I'd also like to say that I find it absolutely ridiculous that girls are blamed for rape. Scantily clad girls are blamed for indecency; hence they deserve to be raped. I’d say men are weak creatures who can't control their desires.Female believers of Islam are dressed decently, yet they too are raped. Is it really women’s fault? How far has society progressed?

I understand that there are many articles teaching girls how to protect themselves. This only proves the universal love we have towards each other. However, I feel that this does not really help. Why is society teaching girls how to protect themselves? Shouldn’t they be teaching males to respect women?

As such, I'd like to pose the following questions:

Rape has prevailed since the dawn of time. Why has it taken so much precedence lately? 

Are women's passivity an indication of our tolerance towards such violation?

Why is it that many years later, men still decide the worth, rights and status of women?

Many girls may feel that “oh it is hard”,” let others do it” or even “but my peers would make fun of me…” to stand up against violation committed against females. Girls, you aren't alone. I too crave for the attention of boys. They make my ovaries want to explode. But hey, the feminist movement in the 1960’s was a concerted effort by women like you and I. You don’t have to run around screaming “Freedom for women! Freedom! Let’s burn our bras!” Every little step counts. Every single one of us contributes to how society treats women. Let’s do something today!

If you have any burning questions or strong feelings regarding my article, please direct them to my personal blog: fightsonhighstreet.tumblr.com

Thank you!

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Tips For Getting Through a Rough Time

By: Hayley

I can hardly believe that it is already the October issue. Much love to all of our readers and followers! Anyways, the past few weeks, I have been struggling a lot. I’ve had a lot going on in my personal life; I’ve been stressed with schoolwork, and have had a lot of anxiety and issues with self-esteem and just feeling good in general. Here are a few of my simple tips for achieving feeling eased, serene, and happy.

//Exercise// I have a bad habit of neglecting exercise when I’m in a bad mood, and I eventually find that it only contributes to the unhappiness. I found that I felt much happier when I dragged myself out of bed and to the gym. You will never regret working out, you’ll only regret not doing it!

//Eat Clean// It is so tempting to binge when you’re having a bad week. It might feel good in the moment, but it will only feel worse when the binge is over. Eating clean and healthy foods will keep you feeling refreshed, light, and focused.

//Journal// Writing about your problems helps. I’m always so worried about being too reliant on my friends when venting about my problems. I know it’s not true, but it’s just a weird thing I have. Writing is guilt free and therapeutic. Whether I’m venting, writing poetry, or doodling, my journal helps me get through my hardest times.

//Watch Movies// Watching a good movie can take you to another world away from your problems for two hours. I keep my Netflix queue stocked up with classics, comedies, and horror movies. 

//Go on Tumblr// But instead of looking at depressing black and white photos and melancholy quotes, look at happy things! Beach pictures, movie and TV show things, and inspirational quotes! Blogging is a great distraction and way of self-expression.

 “This too shall pass” is the quote that my mother tells me whenever I go through a tough time. I write it over and over again in my journal, and remind myself every morning I wake up. Things will always get better! Remember to take care of yourself and love yourself because you deserve it more than you know. Much love!

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Dubstep // Techno // Club Music

By: Rebecca 

Recently, in the modern world, dubstep music has become the next big thing. A Man named Sonny John Moore AKA Skrillex become very popular with his different and unique beats. One where 'the bass drops' and it is a very funky experience. At first, I was not very keen on all the club music. I thought it had no meaning, and it wasn't very real.

In the beginning of 2014 though, I discovered a man named Oscar Wydle who created a vine on one of his new remixes. The vine video was 7 seconds of Oscar lip syncing his recreation of the song Wrecking Ball, by Miley Cyrus. I thought it was very good, and continued to research him and what he does.

Oscar Wylde is apart of a two man crew named Caked Up. They create remixes of songs, and I thought they were amazing! Awesome to dance to, and a great way of having fun with friends by jamming out to his music. Please go through the remix's by Caked Up, and enjoy the different genre of music.

Caked up:

1. Bang Bang Caked Up Remix

2. All About That Bass Caked Up Remix

3. Fancy Caked Up Remix

4. Wrecking Ball Caked Up Remix

5. Let Her Go Caked Up Remix

6. Applause Caked Up Remix

7. Gas Pedal Caked Up Remix 

8. Royals Caked Up Remix 

9. Roar Caked Up Remix 

10. Twerk Like Miley Cyrus Caked Up Remix

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How to Cope: Moving Away to College/University

By: Hayley

 My last week at home before I move two and a half hours away to attend college has been challenging, to say the least. I figured that I would share some of my thoughts on everything with you lovely readers, perhaps even instill in you some insight and calmness that you need right now, or will in the future.

 I can’t believe this moment is finally here. Nobody was lying when they said high school flew by. Four years seems like a long time, until you’re sitting in your bedroom listening to music and packing up your life to fit in the back of your parents’ car. This time has made me so nostalgic about growing up, and I have been reflecting a lot on not only my four years of high school, but just my life in general. On the one hand, I’ve been sad that I’m not a kid anymore, and my turn to navigate the big scary world is approaching more quickly than ever. And then on the other hand, all of this reflection has inspired me to write. I’ve been writing and drawing in my journal non stop on my feelings, dreams, and fears. No matter what is driving it, I feel like I might as well just soak it up and keep writing. It will be nice to look back on my musings during this time when I do finish college. 

  Then there are the nerves. Oh my, the nerves! The past few weeks I’ve had trouble eating, sleeping, and just functioning like a normal person! The thought about living on your own for the first time is something else. Although there is nerves now, soon there will newfound freedom, responsibility, and self discovery. Plus think of decorating an adorable dorm room and if you have roommates, every night will be like a girls night! When you think about entering a college on your own and knowing nobody, think instead about how you will end the year with new friends that will last a lifetime. It’s corny, but so true.

  And lastly. saying goodbye to loved ones has been one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. But me knowing that I was leaving at the end of August played a big role in having the best summer I could possibly have with all of the people closest to me. And when I get sad thinking about being away from those people, I just think about the first time you see someone after a long time. You know what I’m talking about. When you see them and you can’t help it that the biggest, goofiest smile spreads across your face as you embrace them and just feel a joy and a warmth that brings the comfort and happiness that your soul needs!

  I wish lots of love and the best of luck to anyone out there who is in the same position that I'm in. Everything will be wonderful and okay and we must always remember that the only way this will be the “best time of our lives” is if we fully embrace it.