I'm always working on being kinder to (myself) my brain librarian.
My ADHD working memory recall (which holds information temporarily, and the encoding process for long-term memory. This can lead to forgetting daily tasks, missing appointments, or losing the thread of conversations.) has never been good, and it's always a struggle to accept that it's something about myself that I cannot change.
I think this quote in The Raven King says it best:
“It wasn't that Henry was less of himself in English. He was less of himself out loud. His native language was thought.” ― Maggie Stiefvater, The Raven King
I was fortunate enough to be diagnosed with ADHD when I was 6 yrs old, and I've worked hard though out my life to externalize information through lists, reminder alerts, scheduling, and routines to recall plans to a point where that isn't a problem, but conversations (especially if it's a debate) can be a mess, because first I need to find the info in my head, then I need to process it in order, and then I need to figure out the best sentence structure to convey it so it doesn't come out in a total idiotic mess, and that often takes my brain awhile! A lot of time people have moved on in conversations, and I'm still thinking about it.
Honestly, the most frustrating part of it all is people projecting onto me during these times. When I'm still processing I get comments about being slow, un-opinionated, boring, uncaring, or upset and they are never correct, I'm just dealing with my awful Working Memory Recall.
Anywho, I'm interested if anyone else has to deal with this so reblogs to help get it out there would be lovely, thanks!