#workplacebully

[dreamlaunchcoaching-blog]

To the Bully

I want to be clear and direct in this so there is no confusion. Fuck you! Fuck you, you cowardly, insecure, weak, pathetic, loser of a human being. Fuck you. You have caused incredible emotional damage to others because you are weak, cowardly, emotionally bankrupt and pathetic. You live an empty life, devoid of happiness, love, and joy. In a worthless attempt to fill that void, you try to steal happiness and love from others. You are too weak to attempt to rise up to the level of your targets so you try to bring them down to your sad level. How wasted and vapid a life can it be to take delight in hurting others so you call feel strong?

That strength you feel is an illusion. It doesn't exist. I feel bad for you. Clearly, you are in pain and I hope you are able to get help. But that is no excuse to hurt others and scar them for life. Real strength would be protecting those weaker than you. Real strength would be helping others to heal. Real strength would be recognizing the pain within yourself and finding positive ways to remove it, rather than letting it fester and destroy you like cancer.

Your actions have scared many people. I hope this causes you to feel shame and remorse. I hope you are able to make amends with those you have bullied before they do something irreversible like killing themselves. I hope you are able to find redemption before one of your targets Scott Farkuses you.

You need help. It is not normal for people to derive pleasure and joy from making others suffer. There is some disconnect in your psyche that makes you think bullying is ok.

You bully in the schoolyard, you bully in the classroom, you bully online, in the workplace, and at universities. You are old and young, man and woman. You are the coward of our lives. And deep down you know it. You know you are weak. You know you are petty. You know that you will fold like a cheap suit the moment someone stands up to you.

If you are a bully, get help. Change your ways. The world does not need you. No one needs you. We will not welcome you into society the way you are. You owe your targets an apology. You have destroyed their self-esteem and self-worth.

I hope this makes you feel guilty and attacked. You deserve it. May you suffer as your targets have suffered yet may you find the strength and humility to accept the consequences of your actions and ask their forgiveness.

Links:

https://www.kidscape.org.uk/advice/advice-for-parents-and-carers/supporting-a-bullied-child/

https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/bullies.html

https://www.dosomething.org/us/facts/11-facts-about-bullying

https://www.girlshealth.gov/bullying/stopping/seeing.html

https://www.ncab.org.au/bullying-advice/bullying-for-kids/how-to-help-a-friend-being-bullied/

https://www.bustle.com/articles/116010-6-things-not-to-say-to-someone-whos-being-bullied

[katz2013love]

Karma

  Voices stir inside her mind

as daunting tasks soon drop behind

contempt and rage beneath false smiles

while contemplating her doom exile

As shown upon a twisted face

the hate surreal and such disgrace

who’s deserving of such ill fate

as shadows creep and irritate

Which lessons will you teach today

Destiny Karma soon at play

as sunlight hides behind clouds of gray

come seek me out I’m not…

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[work-warrior]

A World Without Bullying

Next week Work Warrior will start a series on common bullies found in the workplace and what you can do fight against the bully.  However, this week, I want to encourage you to think about a world full of bully free workplaces.  I envision it to look something like this:

We'd gather around all in a room fasten our belts engage in dialogue.  We'd all slow down, rest without guilt, not lie without fear, disagree sans judgment.  We would stay and respond and expand and include and allow and forgive and enjoy and evolve and discern and inquire and accept and admit and divulge and open and reach out and speak up.

We'd open our arms we'd all jump in.  We'd all coast down into safety nets.  We would share and listen and support and welcome, be propelled by passion, not invest in outcomes. We would breathe and be charmed and amused by difference. Be gentle and make room for every emotion.  We'd provide forums. We'd all speak out. We'd all be heard. We'd all feel seen.  We'd rise post-obstacle more defined more grateful. We would heal be humbled and be unstoppable. We'd hold close and let go and know when to do which. We'd release and disarm and stand up and feel safe.

At the risk of sounding like a teen of the 90's, Alanis Morissette's Utopia describes a workplace free of bullies.  Emotional safety is demanded.  Opinions are respected. Unstoppable teams would be created and expected.  Now, I challenge you to think about what your workplace utopia would look like.  Work Warrior is about to dive into a series that highlights how to stop workplace bullies.  We need you to understand why it is important. We need you to have the courage to say enough is enough.  Stand up for those that can't find the strength to stand up for themselves.  My call to action involves you thinking about the endless possibilities that can arise from healthy workplaces, filled with fearless, strong, and skilled teams...

Until next week!!!

Marianne