overcoming work experiences
Apparently there is a saying of "Employees don't leave companies, they leave managers"...which logically does make sense. But I didn't actually experienced it until now.
I transferred to another team internally 6 months ago.
My previous direct leader has left some traumatic experiences during my stay there. He is not a bad person and I actually admired him at some degree of the way he thinks and constant focus on improving his leadership skills. Like I said, improving.
To me, his leadership skills lacks behind a lot. Super a lot. He always care about being a people pleaser and let cross functional teams constantly belittle us and always try to victim blame us. He said some red flags shit before to me as well. I tried my best to not let his words get to me but it did. Traumatized me even when I moved to a different team.
My new leader. super sweet. empathetic. chill. patient. I am his first direct report - not sure about his previous job though. I can connect with him more than "project talks" and relate so much personally. He proved to me for the past 6 months what it is to be a leader. His actions has helped me get over the "trauma" of being afraid & constantly doubting myself. Afraid to speak. Afraid to be seen. Afraid what is to come after.
I can happily say I know my worth now more than I ever been. Though I need to keep working on myself to speak up and stand up for myself. BUT, I am happy where I am. happy to keep learning. happy to keep being mentored under his guidance.
