We all have this idea in our heads that the perfect relationship is being happy and content with someone you love. I have that perfect relationship. I was happy and content. But somehow when other people step-in it becomes a whole different story.
As much as I want everyone to know that I am currently in a relationship, I can’t say it. “Being a Christian we are supposed to be in a relationship with someone who is a Christian as well”, that’s what my friends at church say. But the guy I ended up with was not yet a Christian, actually he is considering to be one. Since he wants to be in the same faith as I am.
When I told my friends at church that I was dating that particular guy, i was overwhelmed by the response I got. It’s not like I was rejected by the group, but they told me that he is still not a “Christian” that we don’t stand on the same belief. It was good that it was not me who forced him to go to church. But his intentions was not because he wanted to know the Lord, he wanted me to accept him. Then I thought, “then we are just like the other religions out there.” How can we show love to others if we are already judging a person we haven’t even met yet?
I know what they are telling me are all because they care for me. What I thought was basic and simple before became complicated. When I told my boyfriend about this, he was disappointed. He felt rejected and judged by the people I know. It was not his fault that he was my boyfriend. I even thought that he was a blessing that he came into my life.
What I know as a Christian, we must show love for one another. Another thing they pointed out was “he was an unbeliever. The Bible was clear that we should not yoke with unbelievers.” Take note: Unbelievers. What I have learned from church is that unbelievers are people who do not believe that Jesus Christ is his/her Lord and Savior and that He died in place of our sins. I know my boyfriend fears the Lord. And like a baby Christian, he is trying to work his way through his faith.
I don’t want him to think that because of me he is losing interest in knowing God. I do not want him to be disappointed telling him these things that my friends say. I want him to know with love that those are just presumptions; Needless word to be listened to. They have enough being judged by the world and entering to God’s world then being judged by His people. As Jesus Christ said, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind, and your neighbor as yourself.” (Luke 10:27; Matthew 22:37-39) We as Believers in Christ should show more and should show love to these people.
