If you want that you can start by referring to them as people and not as "autistics". Asshole
I’m going to let the aggression of this ask slide, because I presume you are not familiar with the autistic self advocacy community.
I am an autistic person, thank you very much. I’m not so much an outsider as a person who grew up in the system. I do not *have* autism, or carry it around with me like a piece of luggage. I am autistic and perfectly content the way I am.
The autistic community as a whole prefers identity first language because we do not think of autism as something that can be separated from our person. It’s a pervasive disability that affects literally everything we do and every aspect of our brain. To separate that from ourselves is to see autism as an appendage rather than a neurotype.
You cannot separate a person’s autism from a person any less than you can separate a sexual orientation or race from a person. Would you call African Americans “people with blackness”? No, because race is not something that can be separated from the person.
It’s a case in which political correctness swings back around and starts being politically incorrect again.
Autistic people choose to use identity first language for the following reasons
they do not think of autism as a negative thing
they do not think of autism as a disease
they grew up in a cure culture where everyone acted like there was a different person underneath “autism”
they want to reclaim a word that has been used to harm them
“with autism” implies that autism is a hindrance that holds people back from expressing their true person rather than a part of their person
There are many self advocates I can direct you to.
Ask an Autistic: A youtube channel from an autistic person’s point of view
ASAN on identity first language
Autistic Hoya (link 1) (link 2)
Radical Neurodivergence Speaking
From a Parent’s perspective