yeah, and i'm not referring specifically to you when i say not to justify the abusive shit bc i've never seen you do that, and i'm also not specifically referring to this ship, as i've never really looked too closely at it. so i've never really analyzed it or anything. i'm just talking about shipping "problematic" ships as a whole. and i know for some abuse survivors, ships like this are a coping mechanism and that's completely okay. but, like what you were alluding to, you just have to
(i hit the character limit, fuck you tumblr) acknowledge the fact that other people, other abuse survivors, don't see it the same way and could be triggering for them. and basically it all comes down to the most important thing you could ever do on tumblr, other than not being asshole, and that's to tag your shit with the appropriate "cw" tags.
Oh i know you weren’t referring to me love, i get you. We’re on the same level here. And exactly. Gladly, some people are tagging their anti stuff so i can block it just as i always tag the ships, especially ones i know might bother people. Every abuse survivor deals with things their own way, and i will definitely make sure that ones who don’t perceive certain ships or actions or cope the way i do never have to read anything or see anything they don’t want to, because i’ll have that tagged. Not that i’ll be posting fic, i honestly haven’t read much fanfiction in a good while now and i haven’t read any for this ship because who knows what i’ll come across on either extreme and i’m exceedingly picky about what i read in general, so i won’t be reblogging in any of that.
But yeah, basically, all of this.
Fun fact is i’ve run into more support (even with survivors of abuse like myself) over this than i have negativity....and that gives me some hope. Because i’m honestly stressed and feeling sick right now. (fuck this anxiety tbh because putting myself out there and asking for opinions was not fun. NOT. FUN.)
