𝔗𝔥𝔢 𝔍𝔬𝔲𝔯𝔫𝔞𝔩
I had a journal when I was 12, and I burnt it.
I am in 6th Grade, when I struggled to make friends due to countless reasons. First, I was a low-key bully; second, I had terrible communication skills; and third, I was arrogant and boisterous; the traits which my teachers at school found very annoying, I mean, any person would, right? Even the mischievous students in school who were infamous for their actions also didn’t like to be with me. People actually thought at that time that nothing ever affected me, yet the truth was, during that period, I was often confused as to why don’t people like me? Was it because I’m unattractive? Or was it because I’m too open and loud? I remember speaking with my siblings deeply about how I genuinely want to be quiet and private because I can’t take the feeling of being labeled as the “chaotic” one anymore. But all my efforts had been in vain as I really couldn’t control myself.
I was honestly getting really frustrated; imagine being a 12 year old with no friends, and being hated by every person you know. I could say that I was a cheerful kid, I did not care about what other people say, but experiencing negative energy from people, almost everyday, really took a toll on me.
I was on my way home one day when I saw something that caught my attention. It was a book entitled, “The Diary of a Wimpy Kid”. The book was in a terrible condition almost as if it was on the verge of disintegrating. I took it home with me, and I started to read it. Reading the book made me ponder and realize that the main character of the story is very much like me, a teenage boy who wanted to feel loved and secretly yearned for people’s validation. This was when I had an epiphany, which led me to make my own journal at that time.
I remember writing down all the people I hated, and the person who stood out the most was my 6th grade classmate, Charles. He was the main reason why I wanted to make a journal. It made me feel like my journal granted me the permission to talk ill about him. Why do I hate him so? It’s because Charles was the biggest bully in our class. He would always humiliate and ridicule me in front of the crowd. A lot of people also disliked him, but because of his dominant personality, there were more who were afraid of him. This allowed him to gain connections and accomplices. Unlike myself who had none, since even the notorious students at school disliked me. Life is unfair, huh?
It was sudden, but news about me having a journal started circulating in class. A lot of my classmates were getting curious about what was written inside it. I would always tell them that it had nothing related to do with them, when in fact, it was all about them; how each one of them made me feel the smallest.
I was becoming dependent on my journal, it came to the point where I would write even the slightest details or shift of events. My journal became my coping mechanism that hindered me from talking to anyone, not even to my own family. I started to realize how it was becoming a toxic habit, but still, I couldn’t stop. My journal was the only thing who assured me that it was okay to be vulnerable.
Then in a random day, something weird happened. Charles suddenly asked me out of the blue if I could hang with him. And through that encounter, we got to know and understand each other better. At first, we would only meet a few times a week; then without us realizing, we were already hanging out every single day. Truthfully, I was unsure of him at first because I know his caliber. But one day, after the school year has ended, he told me to come with him. We went to the university field, and we talked there for a while. He told me in the most serious tone how he always felt like most of his friends were only choosing to remain friends with him because they were afraid of him. He then added how he eventually considered me as a real friend, but not just a regular friend, he told me that I was his best friend. I realized at that moment that we’re the same. We never allow people to enter and know us too well and so, we remain unheard. But that day, we have finally been listened to.
However when he told me this, my guilt got the best of me, which was why I told him about everything. I confessed how I disliked him because of everything that he did to me. I also told him about the journal. I remember him getting pissed and hurt upon discovering everything, but he couldn’t blame me as he knows quite well how he has treated the people around him poorly, including me. But the notion didn’t stop us from becoming friends. It actually strengthened our bond more as we were no longer keeping secrets from each other.
Graduation day arrived in a snap, and that was when he told me that he will be leaving the country to study abroad. I didn’t know how to react; I knew I was going to miss him, but there was still that little piece of me who was kind of glad that he would be away from me. Not because I still hated him, but rather, I think we would grow better if we would stride our journey in separate ways. We both said our goodbyes after the ceremony and once I returned home, I’ve decided to burn my journal. I think it was time to let the past go, it’s better to move on and focus on my future ahead.
Years have passed since our graduation when I got a call from Charles. We got in touch with each other and he told me everything that he had been up to nowadays. He even admitted how he wished to have spent more time with me back then. Charles proudly tells me that he still considers me as his best friend, despite being far away from him. Although, I can’t say the same to him, since I really don’t consider anyone as my best friend to begin with. But Charles would always be one of my most treasured friends.















