Are you there?

Stay a while, if you please. Just cleaning up my planet.

[just-shower-thoughts]

Adulthood basically comes down to a nightly decision: sleep or hobbies.

[amnestyusa]

TAKE ACTION: Tell North Dakota Sheriff to refrain from excessive force against Standing Rock water protectors at #DAPL http://bit.ly/StandingRockCALL

[traumaanddissociation]

“To deny someone’s feelings or experiences it to literally deny their reality.” ― Danu Morrigan, You’re Not Crazy, It’s Your Mother #quote #reality

http://www.facebook.com/pages/p/357814604319972 (via traumaanddissociation)

[prorevenge]

Sometimes the customer is wrong for unrelated reasons.

Due to the well of my friends’ “def not an axe murderer” date recommendations drying up, I have turned to that most sacred of modern relationship institutions: online dating. As a very busy person trying to get it in with other very busy people, I prize honestly and directness above all else when it comes to profile creation. I include full body shots in my photos, try to minimize the use of MySpace angles in selfies, and write at the very top of the summary/caption/profile that I am fat. Not “curvy,” not “thick,” not “lots to love”–I’m f*cking fat. I’m not ashamed of it, but I also known that weight is a dealbreaker for lots of people. I don’t want to waste anyone’s time.

About a year ago I met “Evan” via Tinder. We exchanged friendly messages for a few hours one night and agreed to meet up for drinks the following evening. I waited for a full hour past the designated time, and just as I was getting up to leave, the texts started rolling in.

“I can see you sweating from here.” “How long does it take you to roll out of bed every morning?” “Is there an earthquake or are you just getting up for more pretzels?”

Really idiotic, juvenile shit. Four separate numbers, commenting on things like my clothes, which clued me in that the senders were nearby. This went on for 15 minutes before I finally saw Evan, trying to hide in at a corner table and giggling with a group of buddies. I made eye contact, saw that he saw me, and then walked out. The texts kept up until I blocked the numbers a few hours later.

I ran into Evan about 3 weeks later. We got on the same elevator, and he tried really hard at being super interested in the emergency phone instructions. I just confronted him, and he admitted it was just some “game” that him and his friends play. He knew I was fat before agreeing to meet up; they all did, because that’s what they do. Match up with fat women, then either ghost them or “troll” them at the meet-up. It was also kinda obvious he’d never seen any consequences from this bullshit, as he was sweating pretty hard and looked more humiliated than I felt. I just said whatever and walked out, expecting to never see him again.

About a month ago, some local foodie wrote a great review of the restaurant I own, and we’ve been slammed ever since. In the past, I stayed mostly in the kitchen, but I’ve been doing more and more front-of-house stuff lately, and Valentine’s Day I was working a bit of a split between the two.

I saw Evan just as he was pushing in his date’s chair. My name isn’t on the restaurant, and he didn’t see me. I checked the section up at the hostess stand and saw that one of my favorite old-timers, Nan, was going to be his waitress. I went to the bar till, took out $400, put it in her hands, and said, “This is going to be your only table for the rest of the night. You are going to make this the worst date he has ever been on.”

She spilled every single thing she brought out to the table, all over him. I was waiting for him to blow up on Nan, but he bottled it up, obviously trying to make a good impression on his date. She seemed like a perfectly lovely lady; I told Nan to make sure everything was good for her and terrible for Evan.

She poured ice water on his d*ck. She smacked the back of his head with the edge of a tray. Spilled soup on his shirt. Dropped every fork he asked for. I personally oversalted his food, used the shit liquor for his drinks, used flour instead of sugar on his dessert. To be honest, I don’t know why he didn’t just walk out. He must have really wanted to f*ck this woman.

Finally, he cracked. Demanded Nan find the manager and bring her out. I was only too happy to emerge from the kitchen with my chef’s coat and say what, I’m not ashamed to admit, I’d been planning out all night.

“I would have said hi earlier, but I didn’t want the earthquake to disturb your dinner.”

I will savor the look on Evan’s face for the rest of my life.

He was a little too flummoxed to explain, so I pulled a chair up to the table and introduced myself to his date, Amanda. Told her how I met Evan. Showed her some fun old messages. Then I told gave her a voucher for a free meal on her next visit and told Evan to get the f*ck out and never come back.

He deleted his Tinder profile.

[dredsina]

I have no concept of the pain scale, like…I just realized that last week I said I was in especially awful hip pain and when my pt asked to rate it I said “3”. And then this week I said I felt a lot better than last week and when she asked me to rate it I said “3”. I really don’t know what the numbers are supposed to be. I know it’s supposed to be out of ten but like. I think I rate the pain by what time of the day it is. Like “i will rate the pain I’m in at a 5 at the end of the day, so compared to what my pain level will be later, what I’m feeling right now is a 3.” I also think i rate in overall pain rather than specific pain? Like, systemically I’m at a five. Some parts will be worse or better but i just rate it all at five because that’s the average

[clovercoin]

Here’s a pain scale that actually makes sense.

[pir8grl]

MUCH better than those stupid smile faces.

[theadventurepants-blog]

This is amazingly helpful.

[tiptop-and-others-deactivated20]

Please show this to children. I could have used this when I was in the hospital with mastoiditis.

Like your asking a child to tell you what level of pain they are in?? All I know if I want to scream and go to sleep

[micdotcom]

Laverne Cox speaks out against Trump’s rollback of protections for transgender students

[vegandelights]

Vegan Coconut Chickpea Curry!

[ablackwomansurvivingrape]

Resources for Male Rape/Abuse Survivors: Articles,Books, Webpages and Blogs

[naamahdarling]

ablackwomansurvivingrape:

Articles & Links

RAINN’s Article on Male Sexual Assault

Male Sexual Assault

Men And Sexual Trauma

Male Rape & Assault: Dispelling the Myths

Myths about male rape LINK CORRECTED

Silent Victims: Bring Male Rape Out of the Closet

RELATIONSHIPS; COUNSELING MALE RAPE VICTIMS

Sexual abuse of males, prevalence, possible lasting effects and resources

Male to Male Child Sexual Abuse in the Context of Homophobia

Treatment Needs of Sexually Abused Men

Female Perpetrators and male sexual abuse victims: Society betrayal of boys

Male Rape survivors

The Hard Truth About Girl-on-Guy Rape

Against his will: Female-on-male rape

Books For Male Rape/Abuse/Incest Survivors

Books for Male Rape Survivors

Male On Male Rape: The Hidden Toll of Stigma and Shame

Understanding Male Sexual Abuse: Why Male Victims Remain Silent

To the Survivors: One Man’s Journey as a Rape Crisis Counselor with True Stories of Sexual Violence

Echoes of Innocence - Survivor [Kindle Edition]

Male Rape: The Emergence of a Social and Legal Issue

Women Who Rape Men (Female Sex Predators)

Not Quite Healed: 40 Truths for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse

The Male Survivor: The Impact of Sexual Abuse [Kindle Edition]

Evicting the Perpetrator: A Male Survivor Guide to Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse

Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse

Opening The Door: A Treatment Model For Therapy With Male Survivors Of Sexual Abuse 

Male Survivors: 12-Step Recovery Program for Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse : With Exercises for Personal Growth 

One out of Six and Many, Many, More: A Collection of Poetry from a Male Survivor of Sexual Abuse

In Cabin Six : An Anthology of Poetry by Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Adult Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse

Silent Rage: African American Boys and Sexual Abuse [Kindle Edition]

  Blogs and Pages for Male Rape Survivors

Breaking the culture of silence-a place for male survivors to share experiences, connect, and heal. You are not alone. Defunct, now a spam blog.

Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse 

MenWeb - Men’s Voices: Surviving and Living Male Survivors of Childhood Sex Abuse

Mpower- Supporting Male Survivors of Abuse Goes to a blank index.

Male Survivor- Overcoming sexual victimization of boys and men 

Living Well Resource for men who have been sexually abused or assaulted 

Men Raped Support Forum

SurvivorsUK -Help and counselling for male survivors of rape and abuse in the UK

Mankind- Resources and support services for male survivors of sexual assault and abuse

I checked all the links and noted the defunct ones and provided fresh links if I could find them.

This is important.

[labelleizzy]

tw: rape, rape survivors, male rape survivors

[juliaelizabethstasio]

おはよう☆彡金沢へ。

[dappledwithshadow]

Koloman Moser, sketches for Jugendschatz, 1897.

[class-struggle-anarchism]

so today the president of the US figured out that protests get organised by people

[bryonycloud]

[paynearok]

Tumblr: #this fucking donut #can we talk about this fucking donut for a minute #can we #because on this donut #the sprinkles just comfortably melt into the icing #you can tell that they are so perfectly in tune with each other #and they’ve come so far from when the sprinkles just sort of sat on top #barely touching for fear of rejection #just ugh I can’t #otp: comfortably melting

[thenoodlebooty]

4chan: here’s a picture of someone putting their dick in a donut.

[latinagabi]

reddit: that donut needs to go back into the kitchen and make me a sandwich.

[salt-water-chardonnay-blog-blog]

academia.edu: Here is a pdf of the seminar paper I wrote about the erotics/poetics/semiotics/science of donut eating.

[nega-che-chalaga-deactivated201]

deviantArt:I did not steal this donut. I traced it so now it’s mine.

[farufox]

It got better

[logical-ladle-deactivated201401]

Fanfic.net: The donut is the setting for a high school AU, were two sprinkles meet and realise they have more in common than they ever thought possible, however, the mean chocolate sauce has caught wind of their secret relationship. Will they be able to make it together before it’s too late? M for a lemon flavoured donut.

[strongintherealgay]

This has officially become one of my favorite posts.

[lanadelphoxx]

I JUST REBLOGGED BUT FANFIC MADE IT PERFECT

[althor42]

Ladies and gentlemen, I present you with: The Internet.

[skadi-again-again-deactivated20]

archiveofourown.org: Graphic Depictions of Gluten, doughut/sprinkles, doughnut/glaze, doughnut/sprinkles/glaze, doughnut - character, sprinkles - character, glaze - character, dsg threesome, first time, morning doughnuts, AU - doughnutverse, omg i don’t even know, knotting

[flippyspoon]

[scientificphilosopher]

The Charming Doodles Charles Darwin’s Children Left All Over the Manuscript of ‘On the Origin of Species’

In contemplating family, work, and happiness, Charles Darwin proclaimed: “Children are one’s greatest happiness, but often & often a still greater misery. A man of science ought to have none.” And yet he and Emma had ten. Adept at weighing the pros and cons of family life with equal parts earnestness and irreverence, he clearly concluded that the happiness far outweighs the misery.

There is no more endearing a testament to how this balance skews — to both the exuberant happiness that children bring and the benign misery of the innocent waywardness — than the doodles Darwin’s children left on the back-leaves and in the margins of his Origin of Species manuscript draft, recently digitized by the American Museum of Natural History in collaboration with the Cambridge University Library.

via: Maria Popova at brainpickings

[just-shower-thoughts]

Molly Pitcher brought water to the troops in the Revolutionary War, and made history. They say well-behaved women rarely make history, but she made history and behaved exactly like a well.

[takeyourselfback]

someone: i’m going to be as offensive as possible because i think it’s funny

other people: ok, we can't stop you, but publicly offending large groups of people may lead to personal and professional consequences

them: wait no that's not fair

[korybing]

A postcard design for a collection of postcards designed to be mailed to your local representatives! It will be available in a pack with other postcards illustrated by @kelmcdonald, @spikedrewthis, and @bluedelliquanti at Emerald City Comicon, booth 208 and booth 212! It will most likely be available afterwards too, but I don’t know quite yet!