Networking Nightmares
Itās 5pm and Iām already anxious. My mind keeps swirling through the fictitious scenarios, that only make me more apprehensive. āI canāt just walk up to people and introduce myself.ā āThat would be social suicide!ā
Just a pinch of my thoughts and emotions as I prepared myself for the Young Guns Network 3rd Birthday Special last Thursday. Like most people I would like to categorise myself as an outgoing person. Something which you will think is true, until you attend a networking event, an obligation for those of us who are starting out.
It doesnāt matter what industry you are entering into they are all the same and we all hate them. A room filled with a concoction of novices and those who are just elite enough to have us feeling slightly inadequate.
Glancing back at Thursday I canāt help but feel that I should have made the most out of being in a room filled with music professionals and having unrestricted access to them! That is why I decided to write this blog post. I want to help those of you who are starting out like me. As well as any one who, at the thought of a networking event, has their heart sink and their palms become unattractively sweaty.
The thing we seem to fixate on is looking like an idiot, standing there mindlessly grinning at someone or shaking their hand for too long. The simple fact about these events that we are told time and time again, is that everyone is there for the same reason. To gain more contacts! I know it is clichĆ© but itās true. Try not to let that fact escape from your mind as you nervously approach the evening. Thatās why I would recommend the Young Guns Network events to anyone starting out in music. They were very relaxed and friendly. Plus (more importantly) they provided free drinks, which definitely helps the conversation flow!
Donāt forget that it is normal to feel nervous at the prospect of putting yourself āout thereā, most people will be feeling exactly the same. Unless youāre some kind of social king/Queen and you completely embody what it is to network. I have a friend from uni who loves networking he has no problem walking up to people and introducing himself. Infact he came with me to the Young Guns Network 3rd Birthday Special and 30mins into the night and had his sleeves rolled up and a pocket full of cards. If you are like him, then this post is not for you.
Watching him work the room last Thursday was inspiring. I was envious of the confidence he had in himself. A part of him didnāt care what the other people thought of him because he knew what he thought about himself was true. Really thatās the key to it all, not just networking but to success. You canāt spend your life worrying about the viewpoint of others or you will turn around one day and realise that you are still at the same point in life you were years ago. You will then realise, no one has an opinion on you really, because theyāre too busy worrying about what you think of them!
Try to keep the latter in mind as you go into your next networking event. Easier said than done at times I know. But how can you grow if you donāt venture out of your comfort zone? Even as a child you had to take great risks and deal with uncomfortable moments. If you hadnāt, you wouldnāt be who/where you are today. Why stop your growth just because adulthood teaches us to retreat from our fears.
Just stay calm and remember as the great Muhammad Ali once said; āA person who has never taken risks, has never accomplished anything.ā










