If you don’t believe being asexual has any negative affect on people I was told by a psychiatrist that none of my relationships count because we didn’t have sex, and I can’t say I’m gay since I don’t want to have sex with girls.
and I was taken off my antidepressants because they may be lowering the libido I never had in the first place (plus various other reasons, but still immediately, cold turkey, which should NEVER happen unless they’re switching you to something else)
But aphobia doesn’t exist and asexuals are privileged, right?
Sorry to add to this but I wanted to say since I’ve had bad experiences with mental health professionals and biphobia, I usually get asked “but are you sure you are sexually attracted to both sexes, are you sure it’s not just an emotional attraction?!” Like my dude don’t you think I can tell the difference between wanting to date someone and wanting to be friends? Also, due to be gray ace 90% of the time I am not even attracted to anyone but like sure, make me feel guilty that I can’t “prove” my bisexuality.
Sorry too but to add on, being aro isn’t much different. I told my therapist and she was immediately concerned that my meds were repressing “all my emotions” and wanted to take me off them. My insurance ran out and I went off them bc of no money before that happened. She also suggested dating someone anyway to “fix” the “issue” and expressed concern that my emotions (romantic feelings) weren’t present because “I’m suspicious and untrusting of everyone and don’t want to try hard enough.”
Having your orientation medicalized and invalidated is bad enough, but its fucking dangerous to have your meds taken away because you’re not performing relationships the way some doctor thinks you’re required to.
Aaaand this is why we need the bi/pan/ace/aro alliance.
this is why we need to recognize more queer experiences and identities than gay and lesbian, through increased awareness, information and representation.
My hand slipped… (P.S. It’s transparent!)
Join the alliance!!
I love it, I have joined the alliance effective immediately, I love all my ace/aro/bi siblings.
solidarity, baby
And this is why i never mentioned im aroace to my now ex psychiatrist even though he tried to ask sometimes. He took every word i said as an excuse to change my (perfectly working!) meds and if he’d taken me off of some completely because of my sexuality i probably wouldnt be here today.
Even in the gender clinic when i started T they said it might increase my libido, so what would i do if im not aroace anymore? Wouldnt it make me happy? No it wouldnt. And as if my lack of attraction would suddenly go away? My libido did increase yes but im still not attracted to anyone, i still have no desire for sexual relationships. My asexuality isnt something for doctors to fix.
I told a therapist that I’m asexual and they suggested that I might suffer from schizoid personality disorder solely bc of my lack of a sexual orientation.
Years after that I talked to another therapist and he told me that the only reason that I believe I’m asexual is bc I apparently have “borderline personality disorder” and that it is very common for people with bpd to struggle with their identity and thats why I must be so confused. He literally said he knows what sexual orientation I have better than I do.
Hey looks like you met my therapist with that second one. I have bpd and he told me that's why I think I'm ace and sapphic, and actually I'm really just sexually attracted to men and don't realize it because I'm just a silly confused obviously unstable girl 😌
