1) if i died of suicide before i was able to fully come out, and the people who knew me best understood that while i might not have had the language to describe i probably would've been a trans woman if i had lived longer, then i would 100% with them posthumously calling me a trans woman.
2) people speculate on dead people's gender and sexuality all the time. there are people throughout history who, while not using the exact words we use today, would have been the equivalent of gay, lesbian, asexual, transmasc. why is it only offensive when people talk about someone possibly being a trans woman?
3) "no means of fighting back"? being a trans woman isn't an insult or an attack. if anything its a compliment and a mark of pride and honor. what does it say about you that you think someone is lesser for being labeled as a trans woman?
4) i think cybersmith disagreeing with me just proves my point even more