My boyfriend Z and I are still trying to move on from the domestic violence situation we dealt with last year with his ex. We’ve been working to get our feet under us, and the best thing for us now is to move to another place.
Due to complications from the COVID Z's ex gave us in 2024, we’re no longer physically capable of completing the move ourselves. We’re selling most of our furniture, but we still need help with what we must keep.
Currently our goal is $6000.
This is to cover a deposit, first month's rent, truck rentals and hiring help, plus a vet visit for our senior cat and paying off the last of our bills.
We are taking commissions AND donations. Since the abuser in question made it clear he was keeping tabs on the GFM Z was hosting, I’ll be hosting a new one, because I don't care if he reads this.
My commission info is here and I am currently giving a $5 discount to anyone who pays via cashapp.
We must be out of our current home by 3/18/2026.
My cashapp: $SalemHarlequin
My paypal: paypal.me/SalemBlair
The GoFundMe: Here
0/$6000 [GoFundMe donations included]
[[Cost breakdown under the cut]]
$2.5-$3k will go toward a deposit and first month's rent to our new place.
$250 - Our senior cat, Fantasia, needs to see a vet. He's come down with some kind of cold with sneezing and excessive mucus from his nose. I want him on the mend before putting him through the stress of a move.
$1,000 - To hire movers. Z and I are both physically disabled after Z's ex gave us COVID in 2024, destroying our bodies and exacerbating the chronic illnesses we already had. Based on the cost of labor in 2022 when Z first moved to our current house, it was about $500 per team, and it may take multiple teams or excessive costs for one team to both load and unload the truck. We will be moving VERY far from our current location, possibly out of state.
$500 - A rough estimate to renting a U-Haul for the distance required.
$750- Estimated cost to disconnect and reconnect our heat pump.
$500- to help us pay off the current electric, water/sewage and garbage bills that will still be due once we leave.
this is my friend z and his partner whom i’ve posted about before. they’re both lovely people and they’ve come so far since last year, but they could really use a boost right now to get over the hump of moving. anything helps.
My boyfriend Z and I are still trying to move on from the domestic violence situation we dealt with last year with his ex. We’ve been working to get our feet under us, and the best thing for us now is to move to another place.
Due to complications from the COVID Z's ex gave us in 2024, we’re no longer physically capable of completing the move ourselves. We’re selling most of our furniture, but we still need help with what we must keep.
Currently our goal is $6000.
This is to cover a deposit, first month's rent, truck rentals and hiring help, plus a vet visit for our senior cat and paying off the last of our bills.
We are taking commissions AND donations. Since the abuser in question made it clear he was keeping tabs on the GFM Z was hosting, I’ll be hosting a new one, because I don't care if he reads this.
My commission info is here and I am currently giving a $5 discount to anyone who pays via cashapp.
We must be out of our current home by 3/18/2026.
My cashapp: $SalemHarlequin
My paypal: paypal.me/SalemBlair
The GoFundMe: Here
0/$6000 [GoFundMe donations included]
[[Cost breakdown under the cut]]
$2.5-$3k will go toward a deposit and first month's rent to our new place.
$250 - Our senior cat, Fantasia, needs to see a vet. He's come down with some kind of cold with sneezing and excessive mucus from his nose. I want him on the mend before putting him through the stress of a move.
$1,000 - To hire movers. Z and I are both physically disabled after Z's ex gave us COVID in 2024, destroying our bodies and exacerbating the chronic illnesses we already had. Based on the cost of labor in 2022 when Z first moved to our current house, it was about $500 per team, and it may take multiple teams or excessive costs for one team to both load and unload the truck. We will be moving VERY far from our current location, possibly out of state.
$500 - A rough estimate to renting a U-Haul for the distance required.
$750- Estimated cost to disconnect and reconnect our heat pump.
$500- to help us pay off the current electric, water/sewage and garbage bills that will still be due once we leave.
this is my friend z and his partner whom i’ve posted about before. they’re both lovely people and they’ve come so far since last year, but they could really use a boost right now to get over the hump of moving. anything helps.
you can download current and past hi-res versions of these over at my ko-fi (ok to print for personal use): https://ko-fi.com/mxmorgan/shop/freedownloads
you can also snag shirts here which go to various orgs: https://mxmorgan.threadless.com/collections/pride
these get reposted a whole lot from here to reddit to twitter to tiktok and on and on, and i don't personally care whether or not i'm credited. i made these for everyone to use, enjoy, and find meaning in them. i appreciate folks who do credit me, but if able, please at least link to the threadless shop in the previous post - folks can get an official shirt where 90% of earnings go to trans led orgs focused on mental health (which is an important matter in general, but very personal to me) and not from a scam bot site selling AI-churned maga garbage where you probably won't get one anyway. i also suggest downloading the files from my ko-fi - they are free/PWYW and you can use them to make your own shirt, patch, embroidery project, whatever. tips are always nice, cuz i do like a pizza now and then, but never required for download.
final thought - breaking the pride tradition and more than likely won't make a new piece. the top one from TDOV is all i'm making this year. i have my focus on other projects currently and i don't want to force a poster design. these came from a specific head space and my current head space is Very Tired lmao so i wanna work on other things. 👍
the best fanfiction you've ever read was written by a woman in her 40s before she made dinner for her kids. it was written by a teenager after school when they should've been studying for a history test. and a barista came up with the idea while they cleaned the espresso machine and busser fact-checked it on their break and the post-doc edited between writing grant proposals and the nurse apologized for typos in the notes after a long shift and behind every drabble and one-shot and multi-chapter fic there is a person with a wonderful and interesting and chaotic life and it is such a privilege that we get to be apart of it because they decided to do this thing we all share, for fun.
u can be boiling alive in your mind for months and then on a random tuesday ur head gets so clear and life is worth living again and you're like damn what was all that about then
we gotta get back to torrent distribution, i just watched someone eat eight grand in bandwidth charges because they ran a direct-download piracy site with local file hosting through cloudflare. torrents were invented literally for this exact reason
i have a file or folder on my pc that i want to share with other people. let's call it gayshit.mp3
unfortunately gayshit.mp3 is 750mb and im not paying for discord nitro so i need another way to send it
i put it into qbittorrent and it makes a torrent file. this is essentially a very small file that points to gayshit.mp3 so other computers can find it. kinda like a treasure map
i send this tiny file to my friend, who loads it into qbittorrent. their computer takes a moment to find mine over the vast expanse of cyberspace and then (as long as my pc is running and the file is still where it should be), it gets copied from my hard drive to theirs
this is the cool part: if somebody else loads that tiny file, they can download it from both of us. if i'm offline but my friend is on, the third person can still get it. this also means that if two people have separate halves of the file, they can download the other half from each other. as long as some combination of people have the pieces between them, they can all have the whole thing.
crucially this does not require a server!!! you can just upload the file to a few people and as long as they keep it, it's still accessible. as long as somebody, somewhere is still connected, it's available forever. the only way it goes away is if everybody disconnects from it.
not really sure how i feel about quitting tumblr anymore tbh. it might be more of a moderating-my-feed-more-strictly situation.
i still don’t see myself being on here as avidly as i’ve been in the past, but at the very least there’s some projects i want closure on before i’d want to leave.
post your meta about how danny becoming dan makes sense please!!!!! 🙏🏾
aight bet.
this is going to be a bit ramble-y and I will be going into more depth on the sociological aspects than I would otherwise because, though I do not write for the white gaze, I am painfully aware that I am in the presence of White Gays™ who will misinterpret or attempt to deflect criticism of their favorite white boy if i hold up an unflattering mirror to a character they project on to. So its just easier to head off some of the pseudo-intellectual arguments before they start. I am not going to debate yall about this. If any of yall take issue with me speaking frankly about white people. Cope. <3
now on to the meta:
Why Danny becoming Dan makes sense, actually.
To better explain i think it requires a peek into how I see Dan as a character. And how why he's like that is a completely unsurprising result of Danny + Grief.
So Dan is all Big and Bad and wants the Whole World to Know. He wants to either destroy or enslave humanity.
And like. 🤨🙄😒
But the main thing is, that like all who seek power especially men, power seeking/hierarchy assertion is a fear behavior.
Like yeah yeah "rage at a world that abandoned him" or whatever but like. Anger is a secondary emotion. Bro is covering for grief and fear. 🤷🏾♀️
Hell the comics even confirm this with (spoilers) Vlad calling him out for the same things that he does.
But even beyond that i dont excuse his power seeking behavior to Plasmius's influence.
Danny has that in him too.
Because Dan's whole shit is an act of Ego Protection.
Bro is Desperate to keep that grief buried.
He needs everyone to be scared of him. He needs everyone to feel as bad as he does.
But on God and the Ancestors, that man is One (1) Hard Read away from breaking into tears. The only thing stopping that from happening is that, unfortunately, he has enough power to never be forced to sit with himself in that way.
So he is constantly coping.
He cannot deal with his own reality so he does everything in his power to avoid it, much like how Teen Danny has a dedicated part of his brain for Not Thinking About What He Is.
The one time he was forced to really think about himself/his nature Spectra damn near had his ass because it fucked him up so bad
So he has the same coping mechanisms as he always had. For one.
He has the same fragile ass ego, tho aggressively protected, for two.
And now on to the third part of my power point presentation.
Like, hey, sidebar: Danny's moral compass is typically other people most often Sam or Jazz. And btw offloading his moral/emotional intelligence onto the women his life dovetails really nicely with my final point.
Which is that, for all of his good qualities, Danny is still socialized as a Statistically Average White Boy.
And while this doesn't guarantee that you turn out evil there's a couple of things that you just gotta accept about that.
Male socialization in western cultures does not allow for emotional development. You are not taught to express yourself. The only acceptable emotion is anger.
There is the Male Socialization of Dominance as a Means of asserting status/manhood.
And despite what the melanin deficient leftist population would like to believe *****this doesn't exist in a vacuum from race*****
But i will focus on the parts most relevant re: racial socialization for Danny.
Because while in all likelihood that he's walking around with a thousand and two unconscious biases (keep in mind i am talking about canon Danny not the perfectly woke version that lives in the fandom's mind) brass tacks there's certain things white people and white men especially (tho white women and femmes are NOT EXEMPT) are conditioned to believe about the world.
One of which is the deeply individualistic belief that you are Entitled To Revenge.
My toxic trait is that im lowkey Pro Revenge. But this stance is for minorities specifically. And no being a white woman/femme/afab does not count. Talk to me when your voting block can compete with Black women re: progressive political alignment. ✌🏾
Because, as we all know, the thing about white supremacist capitalist patriarchy is that it hurts everybody. Even those who receive dividends from it.
But white people are Severely Individualism Pilled and so when they feel the Steel Toed Boot of The System crushing their windpipe they feel Uniquely Slighted.
As if No One Has It As Bad As Me or, alternatively Anger at An Uncaring World.
The narcissistic "woe is me" bullshit that acts as if the world continuing to turn when your life goes bad and the general apathy of the masses is the result of an inherent depravity in the world as opposed to everyone being caught up in their own bullshit. Largely do to trying to survive under the same oppressive system that caused the pain in the first place.
People would have a lot more time to care about the plight of strangers if they were not being made to fight for scraps.
And yes "anyone can feel the pain of an uncaring world" but white entitlement allows for so much insulation from Systemic Violence that the idea that Other People Are Going Through It Too but Would care if given the chance eludes them.
Because white people pain is real pain. (unlike the pain of minorities caused by systemic violence) but white people's voluntary isolation (because holding on to cultural identity and community makes you Other) makes it so that pain, tho real, is an individual problem.
Whiteness has no tools for mending grief because that does nothing to reinforce hierarchy. It has no use for a broken worker.
And so white people though they will acknowledge the pain of other whites with thoughts and prayers have no means of actual communal grief and healing.
So when Danny lost his support system he was up a creek.
Not to mention him ending up in the custody of Vlad of all people meant that there was no fucking chance of him learning any kind of healthy coping mechanism.
So you have a young white man who is going through grief, feeling very isolated, who is by the nature of his socialization inclined to respond to respond to extreme emotional distress with repression or anger, and who's standing in society would (at least subconsciously) condition him to believe that it is his right to lash out against an uncaring world.
Who suddenly had the power to do so with the twitch of his finger.
So basically a young white man, who already wasn't popular at school but "was such a nice boy" and experienced real grief from the sudden violent loss of his support system and anger at living in a world that is cruel and unfair and doesn't care that he's hurting, chooses to externalize it in the form of mass murder. (Bonus points: he's literally the embodiment of his own suicidal ideation.)
(No literally the first act Dan ever did was kill himself. But the Phantom half isn't able to die. So he's just endlessly externalizing that pain. Kind of on the nose tbh)
So no i am Not Surprised At All that Danny would turn into Dan given the circumstances.
Tldr; sorry to tell you but Danny fits 3/4 of the profile for a school shooter and the loss of his community and support network would likely be enough to tick the last few boxes 🤷🏾♀️
crazy how if you do your chores and obligations first thing on a day off you can enjoy your free time more than if you feel like you’re procrastinating your chores and obligations the whole time. i will not be learning from this experience
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