Riana @temptasian - Tumblr Blog

Oh shiii i forgot all of the grief eventually catches up to you

Life is so harddd and pain is neverending❤️ and everyone is lonely😘

matchagirl

temptasian

sigh

Ayo Edebiri and Ebon Moss-Bachrach Cook a Family Recipe | NYT Cooking

#ayo edebiri #ohhh shes so beautiful (๑˃̵ᴗ˂̵)و

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dandeliont3aandsageleaves

*Brennan voice*

All around you is ruin. You're badly beaten and hurt. Your friends are injured, your allies are dying. You're low on resources and spell slots. The villain stands before you, about to complete their ritual and destroy the world. It would seem as though all hope is lost, when out of the dust a familiar figure appears.

Clad in a sleek black suit and a warm smile on his face, is the mayor of New York City Zohran Mamdani. He looks at you and says "let's save this city at no additional cost to the taxpayers."

Mayor Mamdani raises his hand, and casts a ninth level mass heal restoring everyone to full health.

transpar3nt-bitch

transparent deer sitting on your blog aw

draconym

It's nuts how common it is to not allow children to be angry, even (especially) in households where adults are angry all the time. As a child I knew my own anger was unacceptable--not just expressing it outwardly but feeling it at all. So now as an adult my immediate reaction to my own anger is often to feel guilt instead of like. Noticing when someone is being rude or unfair or my boundaries are being violated or whatever. fucked up.

jackawful

to this day "who is allowed to be angry" has been an incredible benchmark for teasing out who, in abusive situations with mutual accusations and DARVO happening, is being abusive and who is being abused. one of my favorite resources about this, the Creative Interventions Toolkit, phrases the question "who sets the weather?" in the relationship and I think about it so so often when I think about my own childhood. I was parentified in a way that set me up for future abusive relationships, because I had to soothe my parents' anger while not being allowed to feel angry myself. I am extremely grateful to everyone outside myself - friends, therapists, partners - who's gotten angry on my behalf about how I'm treated or let me know something I'd been excusing or blaming myself for was actually Not Okay. I guess the good news here is that it's possible to learn how to access anger again in a healthy way, it just takes support, like doing physical therapy for a muscle that didn't develop quite right.

draconym

I relate so strongly to this.

This is not to say that feeling anger is abusive; it's human to feel anger. But if you've ever felt like your anger was "unjustified" or were afraid to express it outwardly because you expected it to be dismissed ... ask yourself how you would react if the roles were reversed. I find that a lot of folks who were The Grown Up in a relationship with their parents hold themselves to much different standards than they hold other people.

I've seen plenty of situations that involve two or more people hurting each other and not admitting any fault because they want to protect their own egos. But. Notice when you think you're not entitled to be upset about something. When someone tells you you shouldn't be upset. There's a difference between taking your anger out on other people and just. Being allowed to feel angry.

I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead