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19 / mod tense - he/him - trans guy - vent/ramble blog

[razortouched]

In case anyone was wondering about the current state of transfeminism, one of the most praised transfeminist authors just boldly and unapologetically referred to someone as "tdickmatized".

We're supposed to take seriously the critiques of a woman who is coming up with new derogatory terms for transmascs in relation to their genitals.

[tensewantposting]

bundleofstyx faked getting a threat letter from the fbi and then lied about it i don't really care for any of her stupid horseshit about transgender men. she faked a threat letter from the fbi. does nobody remember this. also like she's right about a lot of things but she's deeply unprofessional and the way she talks about transgender men is honest to god disgusting and. let me repeat this again. she faked getting a threat letter from the FBI . literally nobody i see talking about her acknowledges this

[tensewantposting]

so many forms of (cisgender) masculinity are predicated on false virtue. in my opinion.

[alienlike]

either this means “trans men can’t be gay” or “trans men are women” like what else could it mean

[heseemstobeeatingsomething]

trans men can't call themselves fags because only AMAB people are fags. Trans men can't call themselves butches or dykes because that's misgendering themselves. They can't call themselves femboys because that term only applies to trans women apparently. Also trans men can't be trannies because that term is more associated with trans women. Trans men shouldn't be allowed in women's spaces like gynecologists offices or domestic violence shelters and they shouldn't be allowed in queer men's spaces like gay bars because gay men don't like pussy and they shouldn't be allowed in trans spaces because trans women built the trans community all by themselves and men shouldn't take it from them and trans men shouldn't have their own spaces because they'll inevitably become MRA TERFs. On account of all the male privilege. Because this is definitely not proof that trans men face transphobia and sexism just like other queers. We're so privileged that everyone is allowed to hurt us and exclude us with no repercussions, the mark of a truly privileged group of people.

[paxamericana]

[aritany]

[hunter-rodrigez]

[tensewantposting]

"emasculating" transgender men by pointing out their features (height, "femininity", "weakness", disgust with our bodies) is absolutely not on the same level as "emasculating" cisgender men and it actually. um. how do i say this. really isn't feminist to leverage these features against transgender men you don't like. in fact it's deeply misogynistic. let's not be stupid now

[tensewantposting]

everybody who commented on this post about cisgender men needs to send me like $400. each. yeah fucking obviously leveraging feminine features as something to be shameful of in men is inherently misogynistic but i implicitly assumed you all were smart enough to realize that that was kind of inherent to what i was saying. give your local transgender man like $50 and shut the fuck up for once? i'm not talking about cisgender men because they are deeply well protected by society and emasculation to them is already seen as being unfair and cruel. for some reason transgender men just seem to exist to you in a space that doesn't matter

[tensewantposting]

every morning I wake up and drink enough caffeine to make myself sick and then I get people on my post defending the poor defenseless cisgender men from emasculation by repeating the same sentence 50 times

[tensewantposting]

"emasculating" transgender men by pointing out their features (height, "femininity", "weakness", disgust with our bodies) is absolutely not on the same level as "emasculating" cisgender men and it actually. um. how do i say this. really isn't feminist to leverage these features against transgender men you don't like. in fact it's deeply misogynistic. let's not be stupid now

[st4rboyloser]

there will be no context given

[acalanthe]

Winslow repost just to say that my comms are open!!

[what-even-is-thiss]

Seeing people say that trans men don’t experience specific oppression because “women don’t have power over men” wow boy do I have a long list of things you could be made aware of my friend

[st-dionysus]

It seems we are staring this new year the same we did last. With a Black trans man found dead in New York. And like last time, no one on social media is talking about it, because we don't talk about dead trans men.

Danny Siplin was 33-years-old, he was a community builder, a dedicated son that drove his mother to work every morning, and he loved the snow.

He was found dead near his car on a bridge in Rochester. Police have alleged there was no foul play involved in his death, but details of his death have not been released to the public. The media reporting his death misgendered him on TV and in articles. He was described by his mother as someone who "give the shirt off [his] back,".

Sam Nordquist's body was found almost a year ago, also in New York, also after he had gone missing. Sam Nordquist was de-gendered by the New York Times, which initially had correctly referred to him as a trans man before changing the language to "person". Sam, a 24-year-old Black trans man, had been tortured and raped for three months before he was killed and his buddy dumped and dedicated. The media also failed him, not just by misgendered and de-gendering him but also by using photos of him pre-transition. Something that his Wikipedia page has also done.

He was described by his mother as someone who "give the shirt off his back,".

It has also been almost two years since the murder of TK Hill, a 35-year-old Black publicly transgender man, who was shot and killed in front of his home at the start of 2024. TK had been a community organizer and an LGBT salon owner. TK Hill was also described as someone who would "give the shirt off his back,".

As I mourn the death of Danny Siplin, I am still mourning the death of Sam Nordquist and TK Hill. I mourn the deaths of all trans men whose names go unspoken, whose names go erased, who have been defined as people who give and give and give - even when they had very little and faced such great and terrible adversity.

[tarragonthedragon]

idk i just feel like "it is more acceptable and in fact encouraged to mock anything enjoyed primarily by women" and "being enjoyed primarily by women does not make thing feminist and righteous" are thoughts that can and should coexist

[tarragonthedragon]

oh and also "even if the thing is bad your criticism of it can come from a place of patronising misogyny"

[tensewantposting]

mod of this blog is too much of a nerd to be the product of roachification even if i try really hard. #sad!

[lonelydesolate]

oh look! something approaching actual thoughtful analysis on anti-transmasculinity from a popular transfeminist. i wonder if -

oh okay. oppression specific to trans men can manifest sometimes as them being thought of as childish deluded unserious and in need of correction. ANYWAY here's why these loony whiny corny stupid liberal tboys dont know what theyre talking about and need me to give them a Real Term to talk about their own oppression.

[bdbdbdbdmn]

✍️trans men ✍️ are naughty little boys ✍️ who need to be disciplined ✍️ taught lessons ✍️ and punished ✍️ those bad boys ✍️ always try to get out of their homework ✍️ and they never study ✍️ for transgender ✍️ because they're badly behaved ✍️ and stupid ✍️ and crybabies ✍️who have no idea how hard the real world is ✍️😥

have you also noticed that otherwise pro-trans transandrophobes sometimes talk to and about transmascs as if they [the transandrophobes] were the mean parents of an unruly and spoiled child [transmascs], while also dismissing that that's also an effective strategy for cisgender general transphobes to harm transmascs?

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Voting ended onApr 9

[sodomit]

It's called "transandrophobia" and not "trans emasculation" because it describes the way trans men not only are denied the socially positive parts of manhood, but forced into the socially negative ones.

If you focus on how trans men are not seen as proper men and don't engage with the topic further, you'll miss how we aren't really seen as proper women either, due to being perceived as tainted and made dangerous.

Transandrophobia discusses how fear of manhood impacts the social position of trans men.

[mysharona1987]

[punkrock-loser]

every week or so some rando comes into #transandrophobia and says essentially this: "TMEs you need to listen to me. you're all whiny entitled privileged manipulative cunts. you need to stop being so offended whenever a transfem speaks. it's all your fault." but it's dressed up in a bunch of nice flowery condescending words and "i'm just trying to help you!!" and it's so annoying can we stop doing that thanks