The Happiness Ambassador,

I have been meeting since 2012 with "My Mastermind Board of Influence" I will be sharing with you some of the information and creativity that has been create, discovered and shared. I greatest wish is to share this amazing groups insights with you.

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What is Happiness

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What is Happiness

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How To Be Happy

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Risk Success by trying to Look Good

I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order that I may learn how to do it.

-----Pablo Picasso

Being authentic and wholehearted is perceived as being too risky, so we settle instead for looking good.

A major goal in life for many people is to “look good.”  To live in a beautiful home looks good. To work for a high profile company looks good. To drive a Mercedes or Tesla looks elegant. To wear the right clothing makes a strong impression. To own the right accessories, Cartier watch, Mont Blanc pen makes a statement.  Wanting to look good and needing to look good are two different things.

When a person needs to look good all the time, they don’t have the courage to be successful.  Their frustration level, and tolerance for setbacks and challenges is low.

They don’t have the heart to be vulnerable, to sweat for success, or to risk giving their heart for success, to risk a failure or to speak their truth.

Think of it like this; people who are always concerned about the need for looking good are never going to stick around after an accident.  If need be their translation is, “ if at first you don’t succeed, destroy the evidence, or if at first you don’t succeed, blame someone else, or if at first you don’t succeed pretend you didn’t care enough.  

People who need to look good are afraid of making a mistake, their afraid of failure, but this puts them at a serious disadvantage, because creative risk taking is an essential key to growth and success.

True success is about finding something you believe in so much that you are willing to risk giving your whole heart for it. True wisdom is knowing you have committed your whole heart into any situation, any failure, and any conflict in order to achieve your personal best. 

To tap into your inner courage for success you have to open your heart to give your relationships their best chance for success, you have to work from your heart in order to live your best life, and you have to follow your heart to live your best life. The biggest risk a you can take is not living from your heart.

Their are two types of risk; (1) the risk you can afford not to take, and (2) the risk you cannot afford to take. Wisdom is knowing the difference.  

A person who puts their faith in looking good will be less courageous than a person who puts their faith in something they value and believe in.  Looking good has no room for courage, team, or authentic success.

The best things in life are worth giving your heart to and worth looking bad for, it is a risk that a person cannot not afford to take.

Risk

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.

To reach out for another is to risk involvement. 

To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.

To place your ideas, your dreams before the crowd

is to risk their loss.

To love is risk not being loved in return.

To live is to risk dying.

To hope is to risk despair.

To try is to risk failure.

But risk must be taken, because the greatest hazard

in life is to risk nothing.

The person who risks nothing does nothing, has 

nothing, and is nothing.

He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply

cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love....live.

Chained by his certitude, he is a slave, he has forfeited freedom.

Only a person who risks.....is free.

--Unknown

Teresa Proctor, Ambassador to Happiness

Corporate Culture Strategist

http://www.teresaproctor.com/behappy/

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Little girl Kayden sees and feels Rain for the first time

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Assassin's Creed III - Lindsey Stirling

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Compassionate Rescue

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Teresaproctor.com Tea Time Chat with Teresa Success and Stress Teresa provides you with several tips in defining success and handling stress. Ambassador to Happiness

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Social scientists have determined three sources of supreme contentment: genes, events and values.

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Key to Success Trusting Your Emotionally Intelligence

  By building your emotional intelligence you will obtain greater happiness and success in all relationships, balance you work and life easier.  Acknowledging and improve your relationship with your emotions you will be able to ask for support, when necessary and be more understanding towards others.

Emotional intelligence is understanding that you have the ability to manage and use your feelings and thought to move you forward to greater success.  By continuing to develop your emotional intelligence you are choosing to make better decisions, improve your communication skills, be more authentic, and respond in a more clear and concise manner.  You will open the door too more creativity and inspiration.  When you mange your feelings, you will respond with clarity and be able mange yourself, others and bring more balance into your work and life. Developing understanding and trust in every relationship comes from realizing your emotional intelligence is your key to tapping into your own wisdom.

Are you tapping into your wisdom?

Do you listen to your feelings?

Do you ignore or indulge in your emotions?

Are you empathic towards the feelings of others?

Are your actions and values in alignment?

Are you open to asking for support and guidance?

The key to achieving success is being emotionally intelligent. By understanding and being aware of your feelings and those of others you will succeed at work and life. Take the time everyday to record your thoughts and feelings, you will gain valuable insights and wisdom. 

When you are blocking your emotions you have difficulties learning and this destroys your confidence and impedes your self awareness. Leading to feelings of uncertainly and irritability. For example; stress might be an invitation to make changes, pain is a sign to release something, doubt might be your signal to make a better choice and fear is a cry for extra help. Oh, and let’s not forget the ever present reminder that you are not living within our your values, guilt.

 When you are aware of your thoughts and feeling, your emotional intelligence, you feel confident, optimistic and you are able to balance your work and life better.  Your emotions are  positive and will provide you with the edge you need for greater success.

Harmonies Work and Life.

Just a thought.

Teresa

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Riding the Wave of Success

Change challenges us as, Charles Dickens said, so brilliantly in the Tale of Two Cities, It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness......  Change brings up old fears, self doubt, past wounds and for many we just want to run away and hide.  But, the key to riding the wave of change is to know how to go with the flow and move your the inner blocks.

In our western culture we want to, “be in control of life.” Meaning, we try and make life bend to our will.  As opposed to the eastern philosophy of flow and flexibility.  In order for you to ride the wave of change successfully, you need to accept, what you can control and what you can’t control.  The waves of life are constantly evolving, it is controlled chaos and yes you do have a responsibility in how you choose to deal with the constant chaos of change.

Yes, these are the best of times and the worst of times.  Look around you, we are closer to worldwide democracy and yet we also live with the constant threat of terrorism.  We have access to greater wealth and resource and yet we still have children starving and homelessness in wealthy nations.  We have better health care and still people are dying due to preventable and curable diseases.  With increased prosperity comes higher crime rates and in turn higher employment equals record layoffs. And of course more opportunities to ride the waves of change.

To be successful and to stay sane you have to change with each wave. Many of my clients spend time each year creating budgets for the following year only to find themselves surfing with the wrong board with in the first three months of the calendar year.  Every wave is different; change is constant and continuos.  You have to learn to surf each wave as if it was your first time to take on the big one.  The rapid motion and the unrelenting pace of change adapts to your world, which makes it difficult to feel safe and secure in your own life.  Job security is a thing of the past. You enter into a marriage thinking it will last forever, when in reality many marriages end after two years.  We want the wave of economics  to continue to be stable, but there is never enough insurance to cover every possibility.  We get to a point in our lives where we want to settled down and for most of us we will be moving on average every five years.  Most of my clients tell one of their biggest fears, is not having control of their lives.

“Being in control,” is very high on well-being surveys. For many, “being in control” meanings being happy, especially in the western culture. The trick to surfing the waves is to know what you can control and what you can’t.  The waves of life are an evolution of evolving change and chaos.  In other words, you change as the waves change and the wave changes as you change.

No matter how big or small the chaos of change you are surfing in, you have the ability to choose your thoughts, the ability to handle your emotions, you know when it is time to speak and when it is time to close your mouth.  Being successful at riding the wave of change requires some discipline and the confidence in knowing when and how to assert yourself.  Many people block their ability to ride the wave of success by trying to hard to be in control. When you try to control the wave you lose the ability to be creative in the moment and you stifle all possibilities of catching the next wave. Your inflexibility will lead to missed opportunities and slow down the progress of important projects. Control destroys your connections. The key to catching the next wave successfully is having the courage to let go of control.  Sometimes even the best seasoned pro surfers have to remind themselves to stay in the flow. Success isn’t about being in control, it’s about being wise.

Just a thought

Teresa

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