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hey girls

asking for help is not something i'm good at, but i just paid rent for august only to find out that my boss/landlord (same guy) is cutting my hours by more than half, so he'll be paying me less than he's charging me in rent. which is also going to fuck up my food stamps because the government hates poors. i have a small network in the city that i am reaching out to for a new job, but that's a process and my expenses are time sensitive.

I have a 7yo daughter, of whom i am the sole custodial parent. her other parent doesn't pay child support and i don't have the money to sue them for what they owe already. things are tense, to say the least.

i need between five hundred to a thousand USD to survive the month. i know we're all drowning out here but please reblog this post if you see it. it would really make a difference. we love you all <3

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tesmotismo

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tesmotismo

this post is getting buried i guess. if anyone at all sees it please share, it will mean so much

tesmotismo

THANK YOU ALL WHO HAVE DONATED THUS FAR!!!<3<3<3

i've been told today to not expect any more consistent hours from my current job. i have two interviews next week for jobs i can almost certainly get, but ofc i wouldn't get a paycheck until after rent is due.

my landlord also has decided that the security deposit he originally waived still needs to be paid, which is almost another full month's rent. i'm going to update my goal here, please keep sharing and donate if you can, every little bit helps more than you could know<3

550/2100

tesmotismo

we really appreciate everyone who's shared this but we haven't gotten any more donations.

550/2100 still

tesmotismo

we've had a couple more donations come in, but we're less than halfway there and approaching the midpoint of the month. I have new job interviews scheduled for next week, but even if i get either i won't see a paycheck until next month at the earliest. please please chip in whatever you can, every dollar helps!!<3

$815/2100

missstrogen

Got misgendered (as usual) in a grocery store by a kid, and that made me think a bit.

The thing about misgendering is that it's not people being wrong or doing an oopsie like i have G cups.

If you refer yourself to my tits it's pretty easy to figure out that i'm not a guy, and that's the thing like people call me sir they aren't being like. Ah Yes of course a Man (on account of the G cup tits. they're hard to miss)

Like when they see me they see a tranny, and their brain rings the Tranny alarm, and that's why they call me a man. because they know i'm not one and that upsets them because they think i'm supposed to be one.

Anyway yeah, i think thats the thing to remember about getting misgendered, like, a lot of the time, people know. People know, and they're doing it Because they know, because when they see a beautiful girl that's a little clockable, they can only see someone trying to Trick them into seeing a woman when it's actually a man (perhaps even one could say a trap).

I think it's important to remember that it's a purposeful act, both politically and personally, I think it helps to remember that they don't see a guy when they look at you. They see the tgirl that you are and that's what makes them upset.

Remember that when they treat you like that it's because you're what you wanted to be, and it makes them fucking pissed.

readtilyoudie

Often when discussing treaty rights with whites, Indians find themselves being told that “We gave you the land and you haven’t done anything with it.” Or some commentator, opposed to the welfare state remarks, “We gave the Indians a small piece of land and then put them on the dole and they are unable to take care of themselves.”

The truth is that practically the only thing the white men ever gave the Indian was disease and poverty. To imply that Indians were given land is to completely reverse the facts of history.

- Custer Died For Your Sins by Vine Deloria Jr.

tepkunset

Of course, as much of the previous research has shown, federal lawmakers who initially enacted blood quantum statues and Bureau of Indian Affairs administrative officials who drafted blood quantum rules and regulations did so, in large part, because of reasons related to property. That is to say, the seemingly cut-and-dried math of blood quantum was a cynical, underhanded way to minimize the funds, benefits, and resources expended on behalf of Native nations and their citizens. The formula seemed to always end up as subtraction, magically reducing the actual number of communities and individuals eligible to receive federal financial support. As the population was fractionated and subtracted, the expenses associated with the trust obligation diminished in tandem. These bureaucratically vicious yet bloodless means sought to erase entire peoples and thereby reduce the federal budget allocated under treaties and statues to native affairs. Interestingly, and not surprisingly, federal and state officials creative applied precisely the opposite social and racial arrangement to African Americans. In that instance, blood quantum was all about addition. By devising the infamous one-drop rule that maintained a single drop of African blood made a person Black, the government sought to increase the number of persons who could legally be held in bondage, thus setting up a maniacal system to maintain slavery as an economic institution in perpetuity. After emancipation, the calculation continued to support patently discriminatory Jim Crow legislation that severely constrained the civil and human rights of African Americans even after the Thirteenth, Fourteenth, and Fifteenth Amendments to the Constitutions had been ratified in 1865, 1868, and 1870, respectively, in the way of the US Civil War. As Vine Deloria Jr. succinctly put in 1969 in Custer Died for Your Sins, “Because the Negro laboured, he was considered a draft animal. Because the Indian occupied large areas of land, he was considered a wild animal.” In a society that valued property over virtually everything else, more draft animals were required to maintain and grow the economy, and fewer wild animals were necessary because they were considered nuisances or threats. Thus, blood quantum was a powerful economic tool created by the US government to control resources and property by simple addition or subtraction, depending on the need. It was never about kinship or humanity.

—“Moving Past the Flawed Equations of Blood and Property” by David E. Wilkins, in Beyond Blood Quantum: Refusal to Disappear

tlirsgender

Forcemasc could be compelling if it was actually forceful + degrading Like we could rub salt into the same general social wound as (forceful style) forcefem (i.e. humiliation centered around femininity) but the most sauce I see anybody doing with it is like "ooh I'm gonna shave your head I'm gonna make you a gross ugly boy >:)" this is nothing. No. We need to sexualize the social pressure to perform masculinity. THAT'S something. Mainstream gay porn already plays with this more than the average tumblr tboy can handle. I know it's because they just got jealous of forcefem and tried to match but c'monnn

tlirsgender

Out-mascing the forcemasc posters while not even being a man I'm just a butch dyke but like. It's so cringe the way they want to be edgy without hurting their feelings. Hold him down and inject T in him yourself. Call him a faggot when he cries about it. This shit is so easy

trangoldin

Gamergate did not actually matter at all wrt USAmerican politics or culture and its funny how the meme is being kept alive by people who want to imagine that youtuber drama can change the world

trangoldin

LIKE COVID??? girl a million people died, the global economy tanked, and you are comparing that to a think that Toddintheshadows made a couple tweets about

trangoldin

Like if you want to pick a flashpoint in the first half of the 2010s, the murder of Trayvon Martin and the following shitshow are right there but then the conversation would have to be about deeply embedded racism rather than like, fucking forum lore about video games

trangoldin

#I'd say the beginnings of BLM and colin kapernick kneeling were real cultural turning points#people wanted (and still do!) to kill that guy bc he didn't stand during the stupid national anthem#idk being 14/15 when Micheal Brown was killed and seeing the response to it radicalized me

The actual "how do people not know this" issue here is the fact that so many people seem to think BLM sprouted out of nothing after George Floyd's murder rather than that being the most recent instance of a series of highly publicized police killings starting with Trayvon, extending into Ferguson, and then snowballing into the 2020 uprising that now is so often just dismissed as "Woke 1.0"

what-even-is-thiss

Car-centric infrastructure pisses me off but it also pisses off car owners and they don’t even realize it.

Do you hate traffic? Yeah. It’s because of all the cars.

Do you hate noise? Yeah. It’s because of all the cars.

Do you hate so many people under the age of 30 dying? Yeah. It’s because of all the cars.

Do you hate lung and heart diseases? Yeah. It’s because of all the cars.

what-even-is-thiss

Why is suburbia boring? Because of all the cars.

Tired of having to drive around your elderly, young, and disabled relatives? Blame all the cars.

Tired of air and water pollution? Yeah a lot of that comes from cars.

Tired of potholes? It’s because there’s so many cars.

More severe flooding than there used to be? Because of all the asphalt for the cars.

Is your city losing money and can’t afford to maintain suburban sewer and sidewalks? Cars.

Your town keeps knocking down all its historic buildings to build more parking lots? Yeah I think you know what to blame. It’s the cars.

traniform

it pisses me off that everyone proved women like miss forcefem and sam candles completely right

traniform

like these women among many others talked about how the specter of the pedophile is almost never used to protect actual children and csa victims. they talked about how the word "pedophile" is used as a trojan horse for harassment against vulnerable groups. they talked about how no one group is intrinsically evil, no one group is solely responsible for csa, and in the former case, that the sexual abuse of children instead stems from a larger problem within society where children do not have the autonomy to remove themselves from dangerous situations without putting themselves in an even more dangerous situation.

and you proved them right! you used them speaking up about this subject as an excuse to harass them. you made a spectacle of their every move, you branded them with words like "pedophile" and "predator" so that you had a justification to stalk them, to keep tabs on their every move. you saw that finally you had a woman you were ALLOWED to stalk without being called a fucking creep. you finally had another woman to put into your modern day freak show. and even so-called "feminists" took that opportunity with glee.

honestly there are no words in the english lexicon that could fully describe how fucking vile you people are. you act so high and mighty and throw tantrums when you get told that your virtue signaling helps nobody and makes it harder for actual victims to speak up. you stalk and pile up as many accusations as you can against the victims that call you out on your bullshit. you're so miserable that you need your fucking punching bag or you'll die. and god i wish you would die

heavyweightheart

we really can’t overstate how damaging it has been to indoctrinate the public with the idea that if they let themselves eat as much as they want, they’ll eat too much. human bodies, when permitted over the long term to eat as much as they want, actually get really, really good at calibrating their hunger and satiety, and will over time eat exactly the right amount for themselves. the common conception of a balanced eater as a minimal or restrained eater is absolutely wrong. balanced eaters eat quite a lot (compared to diet cultural ideas about right intake amounts), and they do so consistently and permanently. healthy, balanced eating isn’t some tightrope walk, it’s a gigantic net of total permission to eat.

stylo-90

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arcanobabble

People have been so thoroughly taken in by transmisogyny apologia that they think fairweather allies who only care as long as they're at risk of being collateral damage will be the foundation of making change. People are so beaten down by desperate appeals of "this will hurt real cis women too!" that they can't even imagine the media saying "by the way, this is fucking awful when it happens to trans women too".

And that's what we need. We've spent years pointing out all the ways that increasing transmisogynistic crackdowns might impact anyone but the most targeted; can we start trying to help cis people actually empathise with us?

Can we talk about how these acts are, in fact, still vile sexual harassment even when they happen to a trans woman? Can we put forward the voices of transfems with just as much empathy as we give to cis women? Can we try to make people feel anything at all?

Or... Are we going to make another appeal that "cis women may be targeted" to bring in a load of "allies" who only have an interest in themselves, who are still transmisogynistic enough to actively pose a danger to the transfems we're actually trying to stand up for?

yardsards

was doing a first aid course and it kept talking about how when applying first aid to a child you have to ask the PARENT for consent and how the child's consent is not enough unless you cannot reach the parent. and then immediately after there was a unit on shaken baby syndrome, and then mentioned abuse as a common source of children getting injured. and they didn't see the irony there. i later asked the instructor what to do about parental consent if the medical emergency was from the parent abusing the child and she was like "you still need to obtain parental consent. you can report the abuse though" not even acknowledging how fucked the whole system is. i hate it here. youth rights now

hiccup-queen

if a 17 year old walks into my emergency room and says rheir dad broke their arm, by law i have to contact the parent for consent, thereby telling the parent where they are. The best i can do then is call the police to come get the parent when they show up to drag the kid out (and no guarantees the police will do that! They may say the kid is lying and send them on their way! Not even mentioning the rest of the problems with police!) There are ways around it in larger, better-funded cities who can appoint someone through the courts if that happens, but im in bumfuck nowhere.

the only exception is pregnancy care if they're 14 or over. Even then the parent has access to the medical records and can easily find out.

We need to protect the rights of minors.

bauliya

so women are supposed to grin and bear the books, the comics, the movies, the plays, the tv shows, the stories, the sci-fi, the translated ancient poems, the fucking millennia of men writing about their self inserts torturing women and it being declared as High Art by other men, we’re supposed to read it in our free time, study it in classrooms, include their styles in our own writing, accept their cultural influence as natural, watch it in the cinema, write about it, talk about it, accept it, aspire it, but men can’t tolerate three seconds of female wish fulfilment of a woman snapping the wrist of a creep without feeling personally kicked in the balls.

darkshrimpemotions

This reminds me of something I observed in college while I was doing my honors thesis on women in modern horror films. I watched a LOT of horror during that time as part of my research, and sometimes that was done with my family around.

And my dad and brothers? Were deeply disturbed by the movie Jennifer’s Body. I was flabbergasted. It’s not scary! It’s not even that gory. But they were horrified by it. These men who grew up on 70s slashers were legitimately shook by 90 minutes of Megan Fox eating a few teenage boys, mostly off-screen.

Similarly, my all-male reading panel for my thesis? Were so disturbed by my synopsis of the film Teeth that they couldn’t even talk about it. One of them said he couldn’t look at his wife for a week after reading it.

Again, grown-ass men who study and teach media for a living. Who definitely watch and enjoy horror movies. One of whom was a huge Tarantino buff. We watched and read worse in his intro to mass media class! But one movie about a girl whose vag could bite was enough to haunt him.

Then of course you have things like the Gone Girl backlash–men yelling that Amy Dunne is evil and women clamoring to assure everyone that they know she is not someone to emulate–the backlash against Carol Danvers, and, more recently, the griping from MRAs against the upcoming film Hustlers, which is about strippers scamming their Wall Street clients.

My conclusion? Most men–at least most straight, cisgender men, who are both my sample population and most of the ones whining that Carol is a “villain”–are perfectly fine with, and desensitized to, media where men do violence to women (horror movies), or men do violence to men (horror and action movies). They’re even sort of fine when women do violence to women (“ooooo cat fight!”).

But they get intensely uncomfortable when women are depicted doing any kind of violence to men, especially in films that tilt the balance of power to the other side of the m/f gender binary beyond a single moment or scene.

So woman as flesh-eating monster with men as her preferred cuisine? Woman who responds to unwanted sexual contact by biting it off? Woman who frames her cheating husband for murder? Woman whose response to harassment–behavior that many of the loudest whiners know is both creepy and reflective of their own thoughts/actions–is to break something?

Too scary. Unacceptable. Disturbing. These men hate being presented with the idea, even in fiction, that their position of power is socially constructed, that it could easily be flipped the other way. It terrifies them.

In feeling that terror, they experience a tiny modicum of what living, existing, moving, being perceived as a woman in the world is like.

And they flinch every time.

tzikeh

Here have a newspaper comic from 1993

spontaneousmusicalnumber

A frustrating part of the mainstream vegan “love all animals and protect the environment” mindset is the fact that things need to die in real-life ecology all the time but deer hunting season makes icky feelings and carp culls aren’t cottagecore

spontaneousmusicalnumber

The vegan “any animal death ever is morally wrong” mindset doesn’t hold up when:

We don’t have any of the large predators we used to (black bears, mountain lions, or gray wolves) but still retain large deer populations. If nothing is removing animals, they’ll quickly overload the carrying capacity of the environment and have massive losses to starvation and disease that can also pass on to livestock. Human hunters replace the large predators that our landscape can no longer support.

It’s kinder to euthanize an un-releasable hawk rather than try to find it a permanent home with humans. Wildlife rehabs have extremely limited space and resources and are usually run entirely on donated money and volunteer time. Only a few are large and stable enough to care for permanent residents long-term, and those spots are few and far between.

An invasive species poses a danger to threatened native wildlife. I will admit- Australian possums are adorable. But not in New Zealand, where they’re an invasive species that eats the eggs of ground-dwelling birds that previously had no such predators. The landowners I worked with replanting native bush, all native Maori, had no qualms about setting the dogs on them.

I don’t know how to end this except. Sometimes things just gotta die and acting otherwise just isn’t a realistic expectation.

spontaneousmusicalnumber

Highlights from the notes over the past 6 months include a lot of angry vegans saying “you’re blowing things out of proportion, no vegans actually think like this!” and a lot of people who work in conservation and education saying “Every day. I have to fight people who think like this.”

As a bonus this post was originally inspired by the vegan who called me racist for saying we should kill invasive species

dogpuppy

opha

this is a statement from victryena, a trans woman of color who was mass harassed by (mostly) white trans women on twitter for reposting a protest sign saying "white trans people are oppressors too". the sign itself was a response to septembersister, a black trans woman and refugee in canada, having her speech suppressed at the vancouver transgender march protest. here is her full speech, made later. i am platforming them because they need to be heard, and the content of their words is urgently relevant to the current state of transfeminist discourse.

opha

Transcription, since it's too long for alt text:

Trans people of color are underrepresented and outnumbered. When we stand up and make ourselves visible, we put ourselves at risk of disproportionate scrutiny and harassment, not just from transphobes and bad actors, but also from those within our own community. When we want to make ourselves heard, we're told that now is not the time. We're told it's stirring up drama, in-fighting, and bad optics. Even how, and when, we express our grievances is policed. When we use provocation, it's inflammatory and lacks nuance. When we use satire, it's offensive and unproductive. When we share our personal experiences, it's the oppression olympics. When we share statistics, it's sowing division. When we clarify ourselves, it's back-pedaling. When we defend ourselves, it's doubling down. When we criticize too harshly, we're asked to placate. When we don't criticize hard enough, we're ignored outright. When it's said by a large platform, it's engagement baiting and fed posting. When it's said by a small platform, it's buried and forgotten. When it's said by a SWer, it invites shame and disparagement. And when we're lucky enough to survive beyond all of the compounding systemic barriers placed upon us (before, during, and after transition), we're seen as the example and not the exception. It's suffocating, disillusioning, and isolating. Even within a community that claims to include and support us, we have no voice. Acknowledging the intersectionality of trans people of color, especially those who are black and indigenous, is not something new within progressive spaces. And it does not take anything away from the very real experiences of white trans individuals. But it also does not absolve them from, or grant them immunity to, the same racial prejudices and biases held (subconsciously or otherwise) if they were cis. Having a marginalized gender identity does not come with the awareness of marginalized racial identities. White hegemony and oppression do not disappear when recontextualized within a transgender space, just like they don't within queer spaces more broadly. It still exists including through unexamined racial privilege and how that shapes behaviors and attitudes, and how trans white voices dominate discourse and dictate the overarching priorities of the trans community while excluding, dismissing, sidelining, and being blind to, trans bipoc perspectives. And that was made very clear from the responses throughout this entire discourse, including the same familiar displays of white fragility and conservative talking points used when confronting racial inequality more generally. To me, and all the other trans bipoc, who read every defensive reaction, deflection, straw man, dismissal, bad faith interpretation, condescending interjection, anecdotal fallacy, pedantic argument, disparaging comment, accusation, and personal attack. Every "well actually", "not all white people", "all lives matter", and "we have bigger problems". Only for those same people to inevitably virtue-signal about how their peers need to do better when one of them is outed for racism (if at all). The irony and hypocrisy has not been lost on us.

This isn't a call to action for the greater society to solve all the issues that every trans person experiences, nor is it the business of anyone outside of the trans community. It's a conversation for the trans community specifically and a direct call to action for white individuals (across all gender identities) within the trans community to take a moment of self-reflection and to have a willingness to listen with an intention to learn. Why should those in power care about the struggles of trans people as a whole when they themselves are not directly impacted and have larger problems to address? How can trans bipoc be expected to wait until the broader trans issues have been solved to finally have a voice? Especially when our own white trans peers disparage and deprioritize our grievances in much the same way? Why is the consideration of trans bipoc experiences sidelined as a secondary goal to the broader effort of transgender liberation instead of being seen as an integral and interwoven part of it? In the US, the women's suffrage movement failed to maintain intersectionality and abandoned racial equality in order to secure the white vote first. There's no need for straw man arguments when an actual equivalent example already exists. Acknowledging and platforming the most vulnerable within an already marginalized group is not a means of division, but rather an explicit act of solidarity. It's not just about not oppressing those among us with less privilege, but uplifting them with the privileges we do have so we are all empowered to fight together. None of us will be heard until we are all heard. And none of us will be free until we are all free. The trans rally sign that read "white trans people are oppressors too" wasn't even mine (mine said "trans joy"… lol…), but I understood the subtext (and context) enough to take it in good faith, and to advocate for the very real sentiment behind it. Is the semantics and optics around how we define and confront racial prejudices and systems of oppression within our own community really that much more important than the act of actually addressing it? Let's not wait until another white trans person gets outed for racism, or for another trans person of color to get dogpiled by their white peers into silence, to have this conversation again. Trans lives matters include trans bipoc lives. Trans bipoc rights are also trans rights.

notbop

My brain has been rotted by literature. Every time i close my eyes i see it: the leap from quantitative to qualitative change

notbop

I try to sleep and all i can do is toss and turn while i consider the movement of human knowledge from perceptual to conceptual, and the application of that knowledge in the practice of making changes to the surrounding world

bitchautism

new thought I just had: what if there was a world where we never invented triangles

tesmotismo

this is actually the basis for a foundational epistemic thought experiment.

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