My name is Kay and I'm part of fandoms like Marvel (so Fantastic Four, X-men, Avengers, Agents of Shield), Minecraft Storymode, Interview with the Vampire and a bunch of others that I can't really remember right now but I'm sure will eventually come to me lol.
I like reading (evidently), watching films (my all time favourite is 'The Incredibles'), writing and music!
I made this collaborative blog because I felt like with so much going on in the world we need a healthy space that doesn't bombard us with so much media that leaves us constantly overwhelmed. Yes, there are several issues in our world demands our utmost attention and we cannot afford to look away - not when so many people need support. But I also know that, that feeling of having a duty to help yet feeling so helpless leaves us so depleated, alone and dangerously pessimistic about our existence.
We cannot help others if we cannot help ourselves. I think the best way to get that help and support would be to find it in others. At a time where we are struggling against capitalism and all the exploits that come with it, community, solidarity and a healthy social network are one of many things that will see us through this.
We hear everyone say this but I dont think we actually take to heart just how much community matters in a system that is -by design- meant to devide and conquer.
So, that being said, here is a space that you yourselves can contribute to in order to learn more about people and maybe even find something new that you like.
You can make posts of all kinds and I'm really excited to see what this grows into. I have a vision for this where we get a good amount of people contributing to this blog with things from their own fandoms, music groups, even maybe politics. Whatever your interests may be share them!!
I hope that you guys will grow to like and believe in this idea as much as I already do <3. If you have any suggestions on changes you would like to make to the blog feel free to just say them.
I just started watching the mentalist and I've managed to binge watch 3 seasons in 2 weeks. I actually love the show so much. I need people I can talk about it with because I haven't seen many posts about the show and more people need to be talking about it.
Van Pelt is such an amazing character (dare I say the best character in the show). She's so empathetic and one of the top agents in the unit and I wish Lisbon wouldn't sideline her as much as she does. I don't know if there's a reason for that (it's still early days - pun intended) I'm only on season 3 out of 7 so maybe i'm not getting the bigger picture yet idk.
The best exploration of relationships and life in romantic comedy: 'Life as We Know It' (2010)
What is so different about 'Life as We Know It' and its approach to the rom com that makes it highly effective?
2010's 'Life as We Know It' explores how a seemingly disfunctional pair of friends cope with the pressure of raising the child of their recently deceased friends (Peter and Alison Novack) whilst juggling the stresses
that their individual lives already provide: Holly's (played by Heigl) desire to expand her buisness and Messer's (played by Duhamel) dream of becoming a full time national sports director.
The film takes the time to craft its characters' individual lives and the bonds they share with one another before really settling into any strong romantic themes.
Early in the film, we see Holly and Alison (played by Christina Hendricks) have that staple best friend moment of the post date-gone-wrong debrief and though Holly's disappointment at the fact another romantic interest has proven themselves the wrong choice is palpable, the scene -overall- remains lighthearted. This moment is simplistic yet a very clear homage to the friendships we have and the familiar way we communicate with eachother in them. It's a warm and familiar moment that clues the audience in on just how close Holly and Alison are as they trade playful jabs at Holly's date subtly suggesting that community and dependecy are at the forfront of this film.
Immediately after this moment, we are introduced to Holly and Alison's wider friendgroup consisting of themselves, Peter (Alison's husband played by Hayes MacAurthur), Messer and a few other neighbours through a montage showcasing close moments they've shared with one another. A moment at Peter and Alison's wedding with the seemingly familiar presence of Messer and Holly fighting, a dinner party with an expecting Alison and Peter, Holly and Messer meeting the baby (once again bickering).
The montage of these moments serve to show us an immitation of family amongst the group's members further allowing for those fundamental ideas of dependency and platonic love to be consolidated.
'Life as We Know It' positions its more platonic bonds as paramount to the film's essence and most important within the lives of its characters as we are first shown how these characters lean on eachother for support, community. Before any real romantic notions, Messer, Alison, Peter and Holly's (our main members within the group) lives are constructed through the lens of friendship as opposed to being angled in such a way that solely serves a romantic narrative allowing for any connection then later being introduced within the film (whether platonic or romantic) to feel grounded in something more real.
This is where -arguably- many romantic comedies fall short.
Take for instance another well-renowned Heigl romantic comedy: '27 Dresses'. Our main character -Jane Nichols- is introduced to us via the familiar trope of "always the bridesmaid never the bride". And through the seemingly never-ending montage at the start of the film featuring Jane donning various bridesmaid dresses and a -by the end- plastic smile, it becomes clear to us that her perpetual singleness is her defining quality in '27 Dresses'.
By making this the case, the romance aspect of the film can be easily addressed and explored. It's not lazy per se, it's just conveniet. Convenient in a way that mildly diminishes other aspects of the character of Jane's existence as her life is overtly angled in a way meant to aid a romantic plot-line.
This isn't complete yet as I haven't had any real motivation to do so but I though because I'm trying to be more consistent with positing so that this blog can take off a little I would post at the very least what I have already.
And also if you have any comments or any improvements I could make or ideas I should consider please do let me know. I'm not like an academic film critic this is more or less me just writing a review at best so do take that into account.
(this is a re-upload from a different account, it's still incomplete but I'll finish this one up soon!!)
A = Affection (How Affectionate? How do they show Affection?)
Miles can be extremely affectionate but you won't really experience all the love he has to offer unless he trusts you. It might be a struggle to get him to trust you but once you're there, it's cuddles, hugs and love 24/7. When you two are walking, out of instinct he hold your hand. Sharing his new art ideas with you as a way of showing he trusts you. But if you don't rlly like affection then Miles is more than okay with that. He shows you he cares by saying phrases of endearment, going on a nice outing (could be a date) or trying out new hobbies together.
B = Best friend (What would they be like as a best friend? How did your friendship start?)
You two became friends on one of his graffiti nights. He was on his break and went down to the local bodega to get a sandwich when he saw you also getting a sandwich so he asked you what you would suggest getting. You told him your regular order and he ordered that. From there the conversation flourished and he told you about his art. The beginning of a long lasting friendship (soon to become relationship???). You and Miles' friendship would be full of laughs and banter; never a dull moment when you two get together. You two go own little adventures. Might be as close as the local bodega or as far as New Jersey (which isn't that far but use ur imagination).
C = Comfortable (How comfortable are they with you? What do they do that proves their comfortability?)
Miles (once he trusts you) is very comfortable with you. If he doesn't trust you/ doesn't really know you, he will seem quite distant and aloof ,but never rude, towards you. Miles shows you a lot of his art ideas as a way of showing comfortability because of how close he holds art to his heart this is his way of showing vulnerability. He also is more himself in the sense that if he has any "odd" habits, he is less afraid/ ashamed to do it in front of you. You two probably exchange music playlists or give each other movie/tv show suggestions.
D = Domestic (Would they like to settle down? How are they with house work?)
(I'm ngl im not the best when it comes to writing marriage relationship type settings it make me kinda uncomfy so imma try but sry in advance if it's bad)
I think Miles would be quite indifferent when it comes to being in a relationship (marriage etc) and having kids. But if he does get in a relationship, he would ABSOLUTELY adore his partner. He would surprise you with little gifts. Sometimes hand-made sometimes store-bought. After patrol or just a night of fighting villains, he would show up to your place with flowers and that million dollar smile and you would let him in and fix him up. Miles is good at basic house work (probably because his mum taught him from a young age). He does the dishes, laundry, cooking but can't stand doing the vacuuming because of his how sensitive his hearing is. Really good cook; do not test him when it comes to the ways of the kitchen. (He's not better than Rio though).
E = Ending (If your relationship were to end, how would they break up?)
Miles would have to really think this through, he wouldn't just do it on a whim he would've been considering this for a long time. He might have been confident when you two started but as the time goes on, he becomes more nervous and starts beating around the bush. That is until you tell him to spit it out. He takes a deep breath and the words would rush out; by the time he finishes saying what he needs to say he is sobbing. After he gets himself together and you have comforted him, you two have a civil conversation about it. He would try and continue to be friends (and it might work) however chances are that it becomes awkward between the two of you.
F = Future (What would your future together look like? What would the aura of your relationship be like?)
You can expect your relationship to be filled with a lot of spontaneous adventures (like previously mentioned). You two value spending time with each other; this could be by just doing mundane things together like cooking, watching movies, taking a walk, you name it. It's a very chill relaxed fun-loving vibe in your relationship.
G = Gentle (How gentle are they mentally and physically?)
Miles is extremely gentle mentally. He is always there if you need consoling. Ready to show you sympathy whether that be through holding you or just being there and offering you words of encouragement (if you're opposed to physical touch). Physically Miles for the most part is very gentle however there are times where he gets over excited and forgets himself (which is always very cute to watch). He wouldn't physically harm you though during this bursts of happiness. There are times where he gets angry and might say some hurtful things. This mainly happens because he bottles up all his emotions and when it's too much, he just lets it all loose. But you are more than understanding and let him talk about his emotions. Other than that he is so gentle physically and mentally.
H = Happiness (How happy are they? How happy are they with you?)
Miles is such a happy human being it's unbelievable and it's so contagious! Just his smile alone is enough to brighten up your whole mood. He is such a happy person that seeing any inch of sadness is enough to break your heart. If he's that happy on his own then imagines how happy he would be with you. He is so happy to hear from you through text or calls. Always looks forward to the next time you go out together.
I = "I love you" (How quick do they say it? How much does it mean to them?)
He takes his time saying the word. He understands how it's not just something you say to any and everyone. That phrase means a lot to Miles as well. I believe that he tell you he loves you randomly but it would definitely be like a month or two into the relationship. It would slip out during an intimate moment or a moment where he is really happy. But whatever way he does it, he means it whole-heartedly and it sure does mean the world to you.
"This is nicest thing anyone has ever done for me, thank you baby. I love you so much."
J = Jealousy (What are they like when they are jealous? How easy is it for them to get jealous?)
Miles doesn't get jealous easily (mainly because he doesn't notice when people flirt with you). But when he does notice, he gets the slightest bit sad but highly annoyed. Every time a person flirts with you, it's met with exasperated breathes and dramatic eye rolls from Miles. You tease him afterwards about how jealous he was but he always denies it.
K = Kisses (What are their kisses like? Where do they like to kiss you? Where would they like to be kissed?)
Miles' everyday kisses are sweet and quick. Usually on the lips, cheek or four head; the type of kiss you give you s/o before you leave for work. But when you and Miles are alone and feeling very passionate, deep kisses on the lip are the go-to. If it's a more steamy setting/environment, deep lip kisses and sloppy neck kisses are first choice. He loves to be kissed on the head, nose and behind the ears. Despite how oddly specific these kiss points are, he loves them. Just a sweet kiss on those places is enough to have his legs swinging back and forth.
L = Love confession (When did they confess their love you? How did they find out that they liked you? How did they confess?)
Miles is 101% scared to confess his feeling for you to you. But he's even more afraid to confess them to himself. Being spiderman comes with a lot of risks one of them being he may loose you. If him not confessing his feelings to you keeps you alive and out of harms way, as much as it may pain him, he will do it. But lets say that the stakes aren't that high. He would probably be super nervous: he had already called you way ahead of the day of the big announcement and now he was currently waiting for you. Bouquet of your favourite flowers in hand and an envelope with a letter (he had decided that he could express his feelings for you better through written words rather than spoken). The crisp evening autumn air wisped around the both of you once you arrived. He handed you the letter with shaky hands and (unbeknownst to him) held his breath. You read the letter and once finished planted a kiss on his heated cheek. It was safe to say any tears shed that evening were of joy and relief.
M = Mornings (How are mornings spent with them? Are there any morning rituals?)
Mornings with Miles (omg it rhymes :))) ) are extremely calming and and can sometimes can be giggly. I don't think they would be very common however (:( ). Miles' parents aren't extremely strict but they definitely have reasonable rules set in place when it comes to partners staying overnight or vice versa. Overall, the morning would look something like this: you would probably wake up first because lord knows that baby sleeps like a log because of all his spider activities. You go to get out of bed but immediately get dragged back in by Miles who is seemingly awake. Stifled laughter (mainly yours) filled the air and you attempt to gently wrestle you way out of his long limbs only for his grip on you to slightly tighten. Laughter at five o'clock? That was only the start of it...
(Again so sorry for not finishing this one, honestly kinda forgot I hadn't I'll finish up as soon as possible!!)
