[hypnodolls]

How do I (erotically) hypnotize others?

FIRST THINGS FIRST

The first thing (Well… one of the first things) you need to know about hypnosis is that it’s a completely natural state. People enter trances all the time without even realising that’s what’s happening.

Any time you become very focused on something, you’re in some form of hypnosis. It happens when you lose track of time because you’re embroiled in a book. It happens when you feel happy or sad watching a film because you’ve become emotionally invested in it. It happens when you daydream, or when you concentrate hard on study, or play, or you’re doing something complex but familiar that over time has become very natural to you, like driving home, singing along to a song you know well, drawing, writing, or even (if you’re a kinky sort into bondage and rope-play) tying up a loved one. 

Any time you feel like you’re “in the zone”, you’re in some form of natural trance.

Someone that tells you that they’ve never been hypnotized is probably mistaken. Odds are they have been… but not in the way they think hypnosis works. Be gentle when you break this to them. Coming across as wise in the ways of trance will score you brownie points and make it easier to hypnotize your glamorous volunteer later. Coming across as a smug know-it-all will lose you points.

If someone tells you they want to be hypnotized but it “doesn’t work on me”.. or “I can’t be hypnotized”, it might just be that they haven’t met the right hypnotist yet. Everyone can be hypnotized to some degree… it just doesn’t always follow the traditional set of feelings and behaviours outlined by Saturday morning cartoons and campy black and white vampire movies… for some people being in trance is something relaxed and detached… for others, it’s something sensual and erotic… and for others… it can follow the traditional portrayal of being mindless, compelled and mind controlled in exactly the same manner as those old cartoons and movie scenes. Right down to someone becoming your hypnotized zombie slave, intoning “How may I serve you Master / Mistress” any time you snap your fingers in front of their face. 

Because it’s a natural state, very often people don’t realise that they’re even hypnotized. A lot of people expect to feel *very* different once they’re under, and just because they don’t suddenly feel like a zombie, slavegirl or robot, they’ll think that means they’re not under.

The blame for this lies largely with Hollywood.

Classically, (In most movies and TV shows) hypnosis is portrayed as a very unusual and mysterious state of mind, where the person in trance has no awareness or control of what’s going on. They’re often presented as being little more than a puppet or plaything, and the person who’s placed them in trance, (The Vampire, The Svengali, The Stage Magician) has total control of that person’s thoughts, actions and experiences.

Now… this *can* be how hypnosis works. Especially if your subject is attracted to the idea of feeling that way, but for someone who’s just interested in exploring trance itself, and hasn’t come to hypnosis through Hollywood’s or The Jungle Book’s portrayal of hypnosis, rather than blank minded obedience, most people will just feel very very chilled out within trance.

This brings us to the *other* first thing you need to know about hypnosis (I did say there was more than one):

All hypnosis is *Self Hypnosis* to some degree, and how a person will feel in trance depends on what they expect to feel, what they **want** to feel, and who’s hypnotizing them.

This leads us to one of the most important things to bear in mind when you’re hypnotizing someone:

THE BEST TRANCE FOR YOUR SUBJECT

ALWAYS find out from your subject up front what it is she or he wants from the experience.

If your subject just wants to feel relaxed, comfortable, chilled out and safe… there’s not much point in doing an induction with them that focuses on helplessness and loss of control. They’ll become uncomfortable with the ideas you’re presenting them with, they might feel wary, they might feel irritated, they might feel scared, and either way they won’t be engaging with your words, or relaxing effectively.

Equally, if your subject is a kinky so-and-so that *wants* to feel manipulated, helpless, coerced, teased and toyed with, but your induction focuses on feelings of safety and empowerment… they’ll probably find the experience very dry and boring, as a result they won’t engage effectively, as a result, they won’t achieve the kind of trance that you’re both interested in exploring.

ALWAYS tailor the experience to your subject so you can be the hypnotist of their dreams.

Here’s a (none exhaustive) list of possible trance “Flavours”

Safe & Protected

Aroused & Erotic

Blank & Mindless

Dazed & Drugged

Playful & Naughty

Captive & Helpless

Detached & Passive

Disarmed & Seduced

Beautiful & Sensuous

Emotionless & Empty

Empowered & Focused

Submissive & Obedient

Energised & Meditative

Objectified & Impersonal

Brainwashed & Mind Controlled 

Vulnerable & Scared

YOURSELF AS A HYPNOTIST  Speaking of being the hypnotist of their dreams, this brings us to the most important thing to remember about yourself as a hypnotist, and that is:  Confidence is key.  When guiding someone into hypnosis, they need to be relaxed and at ease. If it’s your first time hypnotizing someone and you *tell* them that, then no matter how much they like you, they’re not going to feel particularly confident in your abilities. If you don’t know what you’re doing, or you’re not quite sure of how it works or what will happen and you say any of the following:  “Can I try to hypnotize you?“  “I’ve never done this before…"  “I don’t know if this will work…"  “Sorry, I don’t know what I’m doing…"  “I don’t really know how this works…"  Then you’re pretty much shooting yourself in the foot.  Even if you’re not entirely sure of what you’re doing, what direction things are going to go in, or whether or not it’ll work, you need to present a confident face to your subject. This puts them at ease and creates the expectation that everything will be going swimmingly.  Using words and phrases like “Try” “Unsure” “Sorry” “Don’t know” “Never” and “Newbie” will kill any confidence in it working.  Alternately, if you say any of the following:  “Would you let me hypnotize you?“  “It’s easy, you get hypnotized often without realising anyway"  “You like feeling helpless? Well you’ll find trance *deliciously* helpless"  “You like feeling relaxed? You’ll find this more relaxing than anything!“  “After you’ve been hypnotized, you’ll feel like you’ve had the best sleep"  “In trance you’ll feel all your favourite things.“  You’re creating the expectation that not only is this going to work, but it’s going to be deeply enjoyable for your subject.  There’s actually some NLP (Neuro Linguistic Progamming) in there. That’s not something I’ve studied it in any great depth, but in essence you’re using predictive language to create assumptions and shape expectation. In the examples above, you’re basically telling your subject that:  a) This is going to work.  b) It’s going to be very enjoyable.  c) I’m very confident that it’ll work (So you should be confident in that too.)  Simple, right?  Speaking of “Right?” that’s another thing. 

TRICKS OF THE TRADE  If you can get your subject to agree to you several times, that places them in a more acceptant, agreeable and directable mindset. If you get them to say “Yes” three times, that naturally places people in a state where they’re more likely to continue agreeing.  This is why it’s important to build trust and rapport with your subject. If you know up front that your subject wants to feel enchanted and intoxicated… but doesn’t want to feel *too* out of control or sexual, then you can build the start of your induction out of ingredients that you already know.  Hypnotist: Would you like me to hypnotize you now?  Subject: Yes okay.  Hypnotist: And you’re happy to feel enchanted, a little dazed, and intoxicated, right?  Subject: Yes.  Hypnotist: But you don’t want to dance around naked *just* yet… right?  Subject: Heh, right.  Even though in the example above, something has been presented that the subject might not be keen on (dancing around naked), it’s been highlighted as something they *won’t* be doing (making them feel happier), a joke’s been made about it (making them feel amused and comfortable) and they’ve still followed up the question with an affirmation, right? ;)  “Right?“  “Yes?“  “D'you follow?“  “Are you with me?“  Are all phrases that invite agreement from the subject. Society and language being what they are, many english speaking people have been trained to agree in response before they’ve even analysed what it is they’re agreeing to.  Anyway. You’ve discussed with your subject what they want from trance and how they want it to feel. You’ve hopefully put them at ease by making it clear the trance you’ll be doing with them is tailored to their own specific interests. Now how do you begin?  Again you need to tailor your induction to your subject. 

THE INDUCTION  Back to the trance flavours above. Once you’re ready to begin hypnotizing your subject, try to use language that reflects their chosen flavour. If they want to feel dominated and overpowered: be dark and dominant. If they want to feel safe, be reassuring and calming. If they want to feel objectified: talk at them like they’re an obedient thing before they’re a person. You’ll find you have much more success that way than if you use the same induction on *everyone.* 

Do they want background music? Put some on.

Do they like the idea of focusing on a pendant, or crystal? Get one.

Are pendants a little too cliché? Use a candle instead.

Is the idea of focusing on *anything* like that kinda laughable? Just have them close their eyes.

Are they a visual person? Describe a relaxing scene.

Are they more tactile? Describe enjoyable sensations.

Do they want helplessness? Describe a bondage scenario.

Do they want relaxation? Describe a beach or a warm bath.  I’m assuming first time round you’ll be doing some form of progressive relaxation with your subject. It’s not too flashy, but it’s what a lot of people expect. (Though if your subject **expects** a rapid instant SLEEP induction, then by all means, do that with them!)  Spend about 5-10 minutes talking softly to your subject, guiding them and relaxing them as much as possible.   You might notice them twitch a little (a sign the muscles are relaxing)  You might notice their eyelids flickering (a sign in some of entering trance)  They might grow totally still and limp.  They *might* be kind of a fidget (annoying, sure, but not everyone will immediately go into deep comatose states.) 

HOW DEEPLY HYPNOTIZED ARE THEY?  In the early stages of trance, a person feels disarmed and agreeable. After a hypnotic stageshow in which they were lightly hypnotized, they might carry out every suggestion they’re given, but come away from the stage saying “I was just playing along. I don’t think I was *really* hypnotized"  In medium states of hypnosis, people feel very focused and involved. They’ll say after the show that whilst perhaps they knew they weren’t *really* Lady Gaga, they kinda felt like they *had* to dance and act like her whenever they heard a hypnotic trigger or piece of music.  In deep states of hypnosis, people can feel so enchanted and hypnotized that they believe almost everything they’re told (within reason). After the show they’re likely to admit to believing for a while that they *were* Lady Gaga, that the audience were totally naked, or that they firmly believed that the hypnotist was the cutest guy they’d ever met. 

GETTING THEM DEEPER 

There are lots of tricks you can use to get a subject’s trance deeper. 

One tool is “Fractionation”. This is using contrasting states to deepen the level of trance. 

For example… 

I often have my subjects picture a scale from 0 to 10. 

0 is wide awake, full of energy and bouncing off the walls.  10 being totally enchanted, obedient in every way. 

(Or whatever analogue fits their preferred flavour.) 

If my subject says she’s at a 5 or 6, I’ll ask her to allow herself to drop to their deepest level of relaxation every time I say “Sleep" 

Then I’ll tell her she can easily follow my words into or out of trance. To begin with, I might start counting them out of trance, counting fairly quickly from 5 to 1, then telling them that at 1 they feel more or less awake… the only difference being that they’re calm, and still, and their eyes are closed. 

Demonstrating that trance is easy to come out of by following my words naturally creates the counter belief that trance is easy to get into by following my words deeper. 

Then I’ll say "Sleep” and tell them to notice that they’ve gone from almost awake… to very very calm and still.  

Do this a few times, counting near 0 and telling your subject that she can move and stretch and open her eyes and smile… then telling her to “SLEEP” and telling her that she’s too calm, too dreamy, too dazed and too still to do anything but breathe, relax and follow. 

If your subject likes the idea of feeling helpless, you could initially place control over their depth with them, telling them that as they count, they take themselves deeper or bring themselves out of trance. If this works, you can then tell your subject that they *can’t* bring themselves out now, and that any attempts to do so only take them deeper. 

(Be aware, you should only use this particular method on someone who *likes* the idea of being locked helplessly in trance.) 

SUGGESTIONS AND DEPTH  In a light state of hypnosis, you can affect someone’s behaviour.  In a medium state, you can affect their memories and drives.  In deeper states, you can affect their senses and experiences.  In order to build depth throughout your sessions, with most subjects you’ll want to start at the lighter end of the spectrum, as opposed to immediately aiming for deep and potent suggestions.  Light Suggestions

You’re too relaxed to move, trying to move only relaxes you more.

Any time I say something’s “Bound” that part of you will stick in place.

Any time I use the word “SPANK” you’ll slap your own arse.

You have tourette’s syndrome, the moment a rude word enters your mind, you speak it. You deny that this is happening. 

Medium Suggestions

Any time I say the word “Blank” your mind becomes neutral and empty, like your thoughts have slipped out of great.

Your name is forgotten, when you try to say it it’s on the tip of your tongue… but you can’t quite recall it or speak it.

You feel very submissive and obedient.

Any time music plays, you can’t stop yourself dancing.

You’re a nudist. You love being naked. You don’t see the point in clothes.

You’re a slavegirl, you love to obey in every way. 

Deep Suggestions

You’re a rubber sexdolly. All you want to do is be fucked.

Even though you’re nude, you believe that you’re fully dressed.

Any time I use the word “Brink” you’ll come to the edge of orgasm.

Any time I use the word “SPANK” you’ll feel your arse being slapped.

Your clit is turned off, playing with it is about as sexy as playing with your own elbow.

Your clit has been relocated to the tip of your nose, rubbing *that* is now the sexiest thing in the world. 

Use deepeners, stick to your subject’s favoured areas, and work your way down the depth scale and you’ll soon have a subject trained to experience whatever hypnotic phenomena you wish them to feel almost immediately! 

WAKING YOUR SUBJECT

After you’re done playing, in most cases you’ll want to remove the suggestions you gave your volunteer during playtime. Here’s a (paraphrased) wakener that I was introduced to by Rich of UK Southwest Hypnosis:

“5. Rising from trance now. 

4. All suggestions being washed away, returning to normal. 

3. Feeling restored and refreshed. Cleansed by crystal clear spring water.

2. Taking a nice deep breath of energy giving Oxygen. 

1. All heaviness dropping away. Feeling light and wonderful. 

0. Wide awake. Eyes open. Recalling as much or as little of your trance as you like. Feeling great!”

Following that, have a post-trance chat with your subject and make sure they’re feeling good. If they like the idea of forgetting their trance, it might be they don’t even recall that they went under. In most cases people will retain a fair degree of recall though. 

SAFETY

Depending on your subject, hypnosis can be a very powerful tool. As such, you should treat it (and your subject’s mind) with the right amount of respect when you play. You wouldn’t go nuts with a hammer and saw whilst decorating your bedroom, so there’s no reason to go bananas when playing with the mind of a friend or loved one. 

If your subject gets a headache from all the mind fuckery, bring them completely out of trance, (this will usually mean removing all suggestions as you do it.) and take a break. Trance can be a mental workout so it’s not unusual to feel tired or fuzzy after a while. 

A safety suggestion I give most subjects is “If you should receive a suggestion within trance that would endanger you, or seriously upset you, you can easily resist and say "no” to it. Suggestions you like though, you’ll be totally unable to resist.“ Sure this spoils the illusion of being an all powerful hypnobastard a little and makes it clear we’re not going to have our wicked way if that would make our subject uncomfortable… on the other hand, it’s more likely to make them trust going into trance, knowing that they do have that safety net there if they should ever need it. 

Don’t feel like you need to leave your subject with a list of triggers or behaviors to ensure you’ll have full control of them in future. If they want to be controlled by you. They’ll be controlled. If you end up being more possessive than they find comfortable, you’ll creep them out, it doesn’t matter how many times you tell them "You’ll love and obey me and ONLY me” they’ll probably just get uncomfortable. 

Don’t hypnotize pregnant women for none-beneficial, none-therapeutic reasons. (Unborn babies can detect the emotional state of their mother, so it’s unethical to mess with that.)

Don’t perform age regression on someone who you suspect of having a traumatic childhood. 

It’s best not to hypnotize someone with mental health issues who’s currently on medication for it. Trance can be an emotional rollercoaster, and just as you wouldn’t ride a rollercoaster if you had a heart condition, you shouldn’t be experiencing a barrage of hypnotic highs and lows if you’re in a vulnerable mental state. 

If your subject does experience an abreaction (which is a sudden flood of strong and possibly upsetting emotions, sometimes triggered by repressed or unpleasant memories) if possible, tell them you’ll be putting them back into trance briefly, so you can wake them up feeling better. Let them know everything’s fine. Use whatever method you can to get them back into trance then tell them: “On waking, you’re going to be your normal self, feeling refreshed and happy in every way, leaving all negative feelings, worries and sensations behind in trance. If you want to recall and discuss them later you’ll be free to do that. For now though, they’re all melting away, and you’re going to feel totally fine and back to being your normal self when you wake.”

Hope this guide helps you on your way, hypno-fans! 

Enjoy!

Lex

Entrancement / Hypnodolls / Hypnofantastico

[necromancelena]

Any hypno sites you recommend?

I didn't know there were hypno sites! I just like the concept A LOT but I've never really like. consumed anything like that. and I like it when a story has someone get hypnotized a little bit.

[cadyrocks]

The issue is that the hypnokink space, even more than one might expect, is absolutely lousy with predators, missing stairs, and other people who have been thoroughly excluded from "polite company" but nonetheless have a major presence. To the point it's often easier to recommend people to stay away from than people to seek out.

Also, my information may be a bit out of date, so take it with a grain of salt.

@jukeboxemcsa writes really excellent bite-sized hypnosis stories, occasionally blogs about ethics, and I have, to date, never heard a single negative thing about them.

@hypnoobiwan is a pretty big and to my knowledge trustworthy name in the community. Wrote "Mind Play", which I'd recommend as an excellent beginner's guide to hypnokink.

@writtenbynath is good people.

Lex of Entrancement UK... I have one personal gripe with him but to my knowledge he's a good guy. More or less the person doing excellent erotic hypnosis videos; his style is very recognizable.

@sweettist is cool last I checked

@sleepwithgiggli can almost certainly recommend more good resources, she's cool.

It's been a while since I checked but Vive Hypnosis is legit in my books.

The /r/Hypnohookup discord server is (or was, haven't been there in a while) one of the best discord servers for hypnokink. This is not a high bar - put a pin in that - but the community is nice, they take abuse seriously, and the moderators aren't using that to build a cult of personality. It's, at least, not overtly unsafe.

At the same time I feel the need to point to some very significant names to stay the FUCK away from.

Nimja is a predator with a history of playing with people he knew weren't adults.

NeuralNets/NNPP is a narcissistic abuser and cult leader with an extremely long and negative history. I'd say stay away from him, and also stay away from anyone who shares his stuff a lot.

Bambi hypnosis is a serial recruitment cult whose stated goals include overwriting your personality. They're bad news. Ditto "CORE".

In general basically anyone doing serial recruitment (a practice where you include suggestions in the hypnosis to share it with others; things like "good girls make more good girls") should be viewed with significant caution. It's a dynamic that almost always leads to abuse, "sub-collecting", and unpleasant results.

More generally, almost any discord server that's built around a content creator or specific genre runs an extremely high risk of being a cult or at least cult-adjacent. It's an unfortunately common failure state for hypnotists to realize that they have immediate access to people best described as "groupies but more so" and then act deeply unethically with that knowledge.

Be very careful of anything that looks or feels like a harem or cult - even if you enjoy the aesthetic (no shame, I certainly do) the underlying relationship model is unhealthy and needs to be cleanly separated from non-play activities.

Be careful of anyone who makes audio files but isn't offering clear content warnings with what that content aims to do. Know what you're putting in your head.

One more tip. "Hypnosis can't make you do anything you don't want to" is a common statement, and it's mostly true. A person in trance still has some control and won't typically integrate suggestions they find abhorrent. HOWEVER. Trance is an altered state where you are more suggestible, and you don't actually need trance to manipulate people. Negotiate your scenes beforehand; if someone tries to renegotiate things mid-scene, that's a huge red flag. Know your boundaries, and don't let people push at them.

I hope this helps, and if you have any questions, feel free to let me know. 🙂

[sweettist]

Thank you!

I write mostly about real hypnosis sessions.

If you like hypnotic fiction I like Read Only Mind.

1. The tagging system is easy to use.

2. There are actually a decent amount of hypnotic works on there that involve consensual hypnosis.

As for good, ethical hypnotists who have a body of work, I always recommend @ellaenchanting.

[ellaenchanting]

That's incredibly kind @sweettist - I'm delighted that I've made a good impression. Thank you! :) (And I agree with the above- Caleb/Kael scene writeups are excellent ways to learn about/discover hypnotic possibilities!)

I'm going to mention some other folks to check out that haven't been mentioned yet:

@tennfan2 , @sex-obsessed-lesbian , and @rightthewaydown all have some really excellent basic trance files that are done mindfully and have clear warnings - sites here for Tennfan, here for SOL, and here for RTWD.

Both @theleeallure and Secret Subject are both pros that I admire - both for their skills and their kink education. Lee has pro sessions and recordings available - you can find more about her stuff here. Her amnesia book is incredible. Secret Subject has files and educational videos here . She has a whole educational playlist that's well worth looking at.

@h-sleepingirl has an Hypnokink education podcast and Patreon - she also writes educational books and excellent stories you can find at www.readonlymind.com. Her page is here . I'm going to second @sweettist 's recommendation for ROM- a great site with a good variety of stories. If you're into consensual hypnosis stories, also check out the @consensualhypnofics Tumblr.

Hypnohedonista and Sinister Denial make video hypnoporn under the label Mesmerotic- their main website is here. Spellbound studios also make hypnoporn- their site is here. All of these folks do hypnokink as a hobby outside of making videos so you can definitely tell the difference between these videos and some of the more fantasy-based ones out there.

I know some of these folks better than others- and some of them they may do kink in different ways than I do- but they all seem very safety and ethics conscious - as well as just generally talented. I'd recommend all of these as a good starter list for new people to check out!

[rainytigerdinosaur]

Adding to the stay away from list.

Hypdom has done a good job keeping quiet and hiding, even running the safe hypnosis Tumblr, but he's done some monstrous things. A quick check into his files reveals a lot of his predatory nature with suggestions like "once you start one of my files you can't stop until it's finished" among many others. He's slick and manipulative but absolutely don't get involved with him.

The Professor I believe is a newer one, but he's had at least one sub come out against him talking about how he uses Bambi files (avoid!) and drugs to pull girls into a "Bambi sex cult."

A few extra tips also:

Content warnings are great, but don't blindly trust them. Many predators tag their files but frequently leave out important tags or don't give proper warning to the intent of the files. You'll also see a lot of "Teehee may be habit forming, has brainwashing. Teehee wouldn't want that!" that predators use both to justify their actions ("it had warnings!") and to lure in victims ("brainwashing is sexy!"). Best practice with files is to *always* check the suggestions first or have someone else you trust check them for you. In an ideal world, we'd expect verified scripts to be attached to every file, but we're not there.

If a file has any sort of "contact the creator" suggestion, it should be viewed as a red flag. Not always is it actually a red flag, but it's very very very very common for predators to use "contact me" suggestions to find victims. (Hypdom's Sigil is a good example of this with "This is the best file you've heard" and "You're going to want to send me a message telling me how much you enjoyed this file" suggestions.)

Be safe! Vet your files and hypnotists! If something feels bad after a trance, something bad probably happened!

[wakewithgiggli]

I just noticed my name is up there. Thank you for that! I want to reblog this consent and content warning (how I could rant about how terrible content warnings often are…).

My usual advice for files is to listen to them backwards - jump to somewhere near the end, listen to that, then go back a bit earlier, listen, then go back again, and so on. This approach has two purposes:

a) shady stuff is usually added after the induction when they think they have gotten you deep, and

b) you whet your appetite for the content without being in trance for it. You might think it's bad to ruin any surprise or suspense, but hypnosis works the opposite way than you expect - when you know (at least roughly) what's coming, and you want it, you will go deeper than with stuff you aren't sure about.

Sure you might feel like you want the surprise and excitement of not knowing, but you also want to trance, and this partial listening method will work better for that and because the story structure of the trance is broken up (you are looking for anything suspect), you wont know everything that is coming. Trust me, it's a good approach.

And I second the wariness about any "contact the creator" suggestion. In fact. I'm wary about text inductions on tumblr which contain an instruction to reblog the trance. That looks innocent and has no contact with the hypnotist, but it plants a target on your back: an unscrupulous hypnotist gets to see who is suggestible to them, and who is eager to follow exhibitionist commands, so they might start talking to you afterwards with underhanded motives.

I love to reblog inductions, but so many have that suggestion in them or others like it so they don't get reblogged. It might be fine, but it's enough to make me wary. And you can't be too wary in the world of hypnokink because as @rainytigerdinosaur says, it's a scene filled with predators.

For live hypnosis, I recommend trusting your gut. If you aren't sure and excited about trancing with someone, don't trance with them. Then be clear about boundaries.

I'm going to say something which sounds harsh, but it's born out of a lot of experience. I urge you to trust this:

Always, always have at least one boundary that you really believe in (one of mine is no addiction suggestions), make sure the hypnotist knows about it, and then if the hypnotist crosses that clearly stated boundary even once dump them. Break things off with them without prejudice.

Trust me on this. A hypnotist will only cross a clearly stated boundary if (a) they get carried away and can't control themselves, or (b) they regard your boundary as an obstacle and want more control than you want to give them. Or I guess (c) - a combination of (a) and (b) (actually ridiculously common).

Believe me on this: if a hypnotist crosses your boundary even once - do not accept any apologies or excuses they give. If you give them another chance, it will always happen again.

The number of hypnotists I have played with runs into triple digits, and I wasn't always as careful and wary as I am now, In fact, I was downright promiscuous (hypnotically speaking). I did used to give hypnotists another chance when they crossed one of my clearly stated and expressed boundaries. And I paid a price for it. Every time, every single time, they kept doing it until I broke contact with them completely. Never once - not once - did accepting their promise that it wouldn't happen again ever prove true.

You might be tempted to think, "it's their first accident, just one mistake, I'll give them another chance." But you have to realise: you are not the first hypnotee they have played with. They have played with others before you. When they cross your boundary, it's not a first offence. It's happened before, probably many times, and they may even be practiced at it - especially the excuses afterwards encouraging you to give them another chance. They just want someone to get off with or have power over.

Now if a hypnotist is proactive about consent, and crosses boundaries they couldn't have predicted, you can give them a second chance. They aren't mind readers, and can't know exactly what will work. Especially if you are working together on exploring what you both enjoy and are capable of. Accidents happen, and discovery can be rewarding even if sometime's there's discomfort. So, if there is good communication between you and the hypnotist, good rapport, that's a relationship worth keeping.

But for situations where you have expressed a boundary and it has been crossed, ignore all explanations about how it happened. You don't owe that hypnotist anything - they have violated your limits. Dump them immediately.

[jukeboxemcsa]

This is all really good advice, and I don’t know that I’ve got a ton to add beyond signal boosting it, but if I could think of one thing to say it’s that @sleepwithgiggli​ gives advice that’s really useful to generalize to other forms of kink--and, to the degree you can do so safely, to life in general. Because the hypnosis fetish community isn’t the only place that’s lousy with predators, unfortunately.

This obviously will take different forms when it’s a professional relationship, or a familial one, because it’s not always easy to disentangle yourself from those based on a single incident, but I’d say that if you clearly and expressly state a boundary, whatever it is (that might be “no sex while I’m tied up”, it might be “no working on Saturdays”, it might be “don’t touch me”) and the person doesn’t respect it, that’s a huge red flag and you should always treat it as such. Reassert it immediately, don’t let them minimize it (and they’re probably going to try), and try to avoid situations where they have a chance to violate it again.

[secret-subject-deactivated20230]

😎

[wakewithgiggli]

Trance Tips

Here are a set of suggestions for going into trance I have shared a few times on Second Life, and I've had good feedback on them. Some of the text assumes that hypnosis is exciting for you - ignore those bits if it's not a fetish :)

There's a lot of stuff down below, but it boils down to just a few simple things. See if any of them work for you.

When a hypnotist gives you a suggestion, act on it even if you aren't hypnotised.

When you are being tranced, imagine going into hypnosis

Know that you can always reject a suggestion and wake up from a trance

If your mind wanders, don't worry. When you realise your mind is wandering, just relax and focus on the words of the hypnotist .

repeat in your head everything the hypnotist says: if it says, "you are feeling sleepy," tell yourself, "I am feeling sleepy."

Try to get into a comfortable position for the trance, and if you become uncomfortable during the trance, just let yourself shift back to a comfortable position and then relax: you might need to do this several times but you can stay in trance while doing it.

If you have a FEAR OF LETTING GO, check out that section below.

Whenever you think about how hard it is to go into trance, tell yourself, "Everyone can go into trance. I can go into trance. I just need practice." You'll get there.

Look for a safety trance and use it. If part of the reason you aren't going into trance is an unconscious fear, this will help allay that.

Don't be impatient - it'll come in time.

EXPLANATIONS

You know I said it took me a while before I started to go into trance? During that time, I joined a lot of hypnosis groups and asked for advice, and read a lot about hypnosis. Here are some of the best tips I got, that I can remember:

FAIT ACCOMPLI

Hypnosis cannot happen without consent or permission. Also, if you ACT like you are being hypnotised, this can trick the conscious mind into becoming hypnotised. This is why during a trance, hypnotists ask a lot of questions with answers that are always "yes". Every time that you agree with the hypnotist, you get closer and closer to trance. You are conditioning your mind to do what the hypnotist suggests. Likewise, if the 'tist tells you to do something, like raise your arm or close your eyes, just do it - you are training your mind to be obedient to hypnosis. If the tist tells you that you can't open your eyes, no matter how hard you try, then let yourself strain and tense your eyelids, but don't open your eyes. You know it's not real to start with, but don't tell yourself that - tell yourself it is real, you can't move or open your eyes or whatever. At some point, your mind will learn that this is the proper way to act, and you'll respond automatically. That's a delicious feeling.

HYPNOSIS IS NOT (QUITE) MIND CONTROL

In fact, no matter how deep you are or how helpless you feel, you can ALWAYS reject the hypnotist's instructions. If the tist tells you that you can't move, you can always reject that suggestion - but you will feel so good that you just don't do it. THAT is what hypnosis is - it's not being controlled by someone else, it's surrendering control to someone else. If there's an emergency, like a fire alarm, or just some disruption like an insistent knock at the door, or a hypnotist gives a bad suggestion ("give me your credit card number"), you will instantly wake up. This demonstrates that you can wake up when you need to, or when you really want to. The thing is, under hypnosis, it feels so good, that you just don't want to - so you lie there, feeling weak, helpless, and horny. Eagerly waiting for instructions.

RELAX AND CONCENTRATE

These two ideas seem a bit contradictory. Hypnosis is a state of focused concentration: you concentrate on the hypnotist or source of hypnosis, to the exclusion of everything else. While your mind is focused on the hypnotist, your body relaxes. Don't be disheartened if your mind wanders and you lose focus - this is normal. It happens to me in every trance. I'm being told to sink deeper, and I'll suddenly remember a funny line from a comedy, or remember a task I meant to get done. But this is fine. When you notice it happening, just tell yourself to relax, to focus on the words or the spiral or whatever - to let whatever it was fade away so you are focussed on the hypnotist again. It's perfectly natural for your mind to wander like this, and it doesn't stop you from trancing. As I say, just relax, and focus on the spiral or the words, and you'll be happily falling again.

Also, don't try too hard: if you are excited about going into trance, and desperately want to do it, this can stop you from relaxing and focussing properly. So, just try to put all that out of your mind, clear your mind, relax, and focus on the words.

One good way to achieve this is to simply repeat in your head everything the hypnotist (or hypnotron) says to you. If it says, "you are feeling sleepy," tell yourself, "I am feeling sleepy." This helps focus your attention on the trance.

YOU CAN BE IN TRANCE WITHOUT REALISING IT

I mentioned I'd been trancing for a long time before I finally fell into trance. The truth is, that was the moment I learned to recognise I was in trance - and I suddenly realised I had been going into trance for a while already. I just hadn't been able to recognise it. For many people, trance just feels like being calm, or relaxed. It doesn't feel very different from being awake. When they do it regularly, only then do they realise they were going into trance all along. People who are going into trance without realising it WILL still obey suggestions given unless they reject them. Sometimes they reject suggestions because they think they are not hypnotised. "I'm not going to do that, because I'm not hypnotised." So the suggestion doesn't work.

So, you never know, it's possible you are going into trance already, but the fact that you think you aren't means it's not working for you. So remember to follow the FAIT ACCOMPLI rule above: tell yourself you are going into trance. The unconscious will sooner or later make it true.

FEAR OF LETTING GO

One thing that holds a lot of people back from going into trance (and this was my big stumbling block, too) is some sort of fear. Fear of losing control, of being at the mercy of someone else, or whatever. Now, there is no reason to fear, since you can always break a trance and reject a suggestion. But fear is irrational and knowing there is nothing to fear doesn't always help. In my case, I only got over this by almost giving up: I had come to the conclusion that hypnosis was never going to work on me, so there was no point worrying. And then, suddenly, I went into trance.

But there is another way to get around it. Here is a suggestion that was given to a hypnosis group by a veteran hypnotist. As you are getting ready to go into trance, imagine you are splitting into two people. One of you will be lying down, falling into trance, and the other will be hovering above, watching your sleeping form. The watcher, your guardian, will be alert, ready to wake up the sleeper if anything uncomfortable happens, while the sleeper can relax perfectly in the knowledge that they are being watched over. Visualise this, and imagine watching your sleeping self succumbing to the suggestions as they are given. I have used this technique (I use it a lot generally) and it works for me. It's worth a try.

Finally a third thing you can do is go though the trance without entering trance: watch, read or listen (as appropriate), but don't fall into trance. You can then assure yourself that you feel safe doing that trance. Next time, play the trance and let yourself go - you will probably get a little deeper than you were.

POSTURE AND STIMULATION

One final set of advice: try to get comfortable. Slide down in your chair so your head is supported at the back, or get a cushion and put it behind your neck. If during the trance you start feeling uncomfortable, let yourself shift to a more comfortable position - you CAN move around, even respond to questions, while remaining in trance. If the discomfort isn't too great, wallow in it and tell yourself - "this is uncomfortable, but I can't move because I'm in trance." That is a great little suggestion you can give yourself to make a trance more effective. If a trance tells you to play with yourself, or you feel the need to touch yourself, RESIST that suggestion. Physical stimulation will easily break a trance until you're able to go deeper. Instead, imagine you are doing what the tist tells you - imagine touching yourself and imagine feeling how that would make you feel.

CONCLUSION

Whew, that's a lot of text. I hope you find it helpful. And hopefully, others will add to it. I'll add a bunch of hypnosis-related names that pop into my head here and run the risk of offending a bunch more people by forgetting to include them in the moment...

@scifiscribbler @ellaenchanting @ladyruetha @jukeboxemcsa @curiosa-hypnotica @hipnoespadachin @sweettist @hypnoobiwan @tennfan2 @sex-obsessed-lesbian @theleeallure @h-sleepingirl @accidental-muse @loveablerogue1 @hypno-sandwich @deepthrall @hypnopassion @erogenousmind

[sex-obsessed-lesbian]

Delighted to be mentioned! (Only getting this notification a million years later after getting my account reinstated, whoops.) Too sleepy to add anything at the moment, but signal boosting this excellent post!

[deeperforme]

HypnoMeme Master Post

My wife @khatsha might have literally started hypnomemes. Maybe. But it has been a glorious flowering since that day, Dec 22, 2017, and in the time we have left I want to make a little lifeboat for these glorious flowers, and I don’t want them to die. Or get wet I guess.This metaphor is amazing, don’t question it. Crossposting on my more sober, less usually trashy blogger blog.

I didn’t save individual credits for all these, but the set of artists/geniuses who made them are @khatsha, @ragezdasta, @thehypnobunny, @digitalswitchgamine, @h-sleepingirl, @hypnobat98, @zanydanger, @hypno-ace, and @deeperforme (if I’ve forgotten anyone please let me know. Even more so if I’ve forgotten any meme!)

Starting with the crowning achievement of this first great era, by @khatsha, and what might be the first and second ever, by @khatsha and @ragezdasta, then in random order:

[thehypnobunny]

THIS MAD3 ME SO HAPPY XDDDD

[ringmistresslucyold-deactivated]

Howdy all you good boys, girls and toys~ Please reblog if you are into erotic hypnosis, brainwashing, etc.

I'm back and ready to do hypnotumblr again! I just gotta find all the kinky people that are left! Mind reblogging and helping me out?

[biteable-pink-pixie]

[thespiralreborn-deactivated2026]

I do this

[secretlytranced]

🫠💦

[spellbounddraws]

A hypnosis session that starts when you have to spin a wheel over what method to go through.

The needle is stuck between pendulum and lights so the hypnotist has to bring out the disco ball

[haunted-meat]

Hypnotist turns around to discover you are already mesmerized by the spinning wheel

[spellbounddraws]

How dare you be funnier than me

[thedeadlysins00-deactivated2024]

She’s an over thinker, so fuck her until her brain shuts off.

[the-bonkbarian]

Some sleepy eye checks. Had to perform them myself since nobody’s done them for me unfortunately :(

[goddess-enchantress-of-the-mind]

Sure you can fight Sure you can resist The temptations...the cravings...the long suppressed desires...the overwhelming pleasures that you feel when I touch your thoughts and caress your soul...binding you tighter and tighter to Me. Sure you can ...but can you explain why you would want to...??

[h1ghly-deactivated20240516]

take me to the club in a pretty little dress

fill me up with alcohol until all i can do is listen to you

have your friend take my panties off

bend me over the bar

let anyone use my body

[dummybimboslavecandy]

Desperately want people to send me hypno files without asking and absolutely break my mind into whatever they want me to be

[hypno-hues]

[bunnybasketcase-deactivated2024]

Did you think about me today or do I have to be more annoying?

[thedeadlysins00-deactivated2024]

Shy girls who can't make eye contact in person but go home and furiously rub their clit while talking to strange men online.

[thedeadlysins00-deactivated2024]

She’s an over thinker, so fuck her until her brain shuts off.