Transmed lifeeee

Selli (that is my name) - He/They/She because I don't even know my own gender! - Transmed - Cishet Ace Exclusionist (but if you want you can make your own community, you're valid) - Pro Choice - Pro Non-Binary - Anti Terf - Anti Suicide Bait (like any normal human) - Unknown stance on kin (fictionkin positive, otherkin ehhhhh) - Anti Fact kin - Bisexual - Autistic (half-diagnosed?) or speculated ADHD (possibly misdiagnosed with autism) + i have anxiety

[vyllainy]

Cis women shut the fuck up challenge

[the-drama-kid]

Literally as a cis woman I couldn’t agree more though lmao

[vyllainy]

This applies to you especially

[bushcrafts]

This is what female and male socialization looks like

[loving-women-is-rad]

this is why radfems use the word handmaiden

[sylviaplathstypewriter-deactiva]

even when kissing the feet of man, the woman is still kicked

[semper-----femina]

Real handmaiden hours damn

[vriskarights-deactivated2023012]

She was clocked in for her handmaiden 9-5 😔

[semper-----femina]

Paid in crumbs of male approval

[vriskarights-deactivated2023012]

Trans women are women *jingles cup* trans women are women *jingles cup* trans women are women *jingles cup* trans women are women *jingles c

[bean-cakes-deactivated20240411]

@the-drama-kid from this:

To this:

Was it this post? Was this the one that transed you?

[the-drama-kid]

honestly mentally blocked out everything i did on this blog but this is going on the pile of “things that transed me”

edit: thought this was a fellow trans person making a joke. this is definitely not a fellow trans person making a joke. no, this post was not the one that transed me, it was a long journey, go fuck yourself too

[bean-cakes-deactivated20240411]

@the-drama-kid I am genuinely sorry for your troubles and whatever “transed” you. Making those kinds of posts and then coming out as ftm is genuinely not a good sign. I am dysphoric myself so if you need to talk I am open.

[the-drama-kid]

no, i’m happy with my life now. i made this blog when i was 12. i reblogged that post when i was 12. maybe 13 at best. i was probably thinking about my mom or something when i did it

i’m not sure what there is to talk about. i haven’t been “traumatized by misogyny” or any other point you might bring up. being a man just felt more correct to me. i have no issues with womanhood. if there was a perfect world where men and women were 100% equal and treated the exact same i’d still be a man. but if you want to try to convince me otherwise then go ahead i guess

[bean-cakes-deactivated20240411]

😬 ok, it’s not my place to “convince” you, but you just have to understand that, hypothetically, if men and women were 100% equal, you would feel no need to transition, because you wouldn’t have that sensation that something was wrong with you otherwise.

[the-drama-kid]

that's just literally not even true but i'm just not even going to bother anymore

[vyllainy]

Cis women shut the fuck up challenge

[the-drama-kid]

Literally as a cis woman I couldn’t agree more though lmao

[vyllainy]

This applies to you especially

[bushcrafts]

This is what female and male socialization looks like

[loving-women-is-rad]

this is why radfems use the word handmaiden

[sylviaplathstypewriter-deactiva]

even when kissing the feet of man, the woman is still kicked

[semper-----femina]

Real handmaiden hours damn

[vriskarights-deactivated2023012]

She was clocked in for her handmaiden 9-5 😔

[semper-----femina]

Paid in crumbs of male approval

[vriskarights-deactivated2023012]

Trans women are women *jingles cup* trans women are women *jingles cup* trans women are women *jingles cup* trans women are women *jingles c

[bean-cakes-deactivated20240411]

@the-drama-kid from this:

To this:

Was it this post? Was this the one that transed you?

[the-drama-kid]

honestly mentally blocked out everything i did on this blog but this is going on the pile of “things that transed me”

edit: thought this was a fellow trans person making a joke. this is definitely not a fellow trans person making a joke. no, this post was not the one that transed me, it was a long journey, go fuck yourself too

[bean-cakes-deactivated20240411]

@the-drama-kid I am genuinely sorry for your troubles and whatever “transed” you. Making those kinds of posts and then coming out as ftm is genuinely not a good sign. I am dysphoric myself so if you need to talk I am open.

[the-drama-kid]

no, i’m happy with my life now. i made this blog when i was 12. i reblogged that post when i was 12. maybe 13 at best. i was probably thinking about my mom or something when i did it

i’m not sure what there is to talk about. i haven’t been “traumatized by misogyny” or any other point you might bring up. being a man just felt more correct to me. i have no issues with womanhood. if there was a perfect world where men and women were 100% equal and treated the exact same i’d still be a man. but if you want to try to convince me otherwise then go ahead i guess

[the-drama-kid]

never thought i'd accidentally log onto tumblr today and have to explain that, no, terfs that found my post from when i was 12 or 13 years old, someone saying a mean thing to me online did not make me "snap and trans my gender"

[vyllainy]

Cis women shut the fuck up challenge

[the-drama-kid]

Literally as a cis woman I couldn’t agree more though lmao

[vyllainy]

This applies to you especially

[bushcrafts]

This is what female and male socialization looks like

[loving-women-is-rad]

this is why radfems use the word handmaiden

[sylviaplathstypewriter-deactiva]

even when kissing the feet of man, the woman is still kicked

[goldstar-futaba]

that “cis woman” is now a “transman” so congratulations op on making her hate herself so much she decided to jump the boat and change sex

[the-drama-kid]

no, no that’s not what happened, not even close. go fuck yourself

[vyllainy]

Cis women shut the fuck up challenge

[the-drama-kid]

Literally as a cis woman I couldn’t agree more though lmao

[vyllainy]

This applies to you especially

[bushcrafts]

This is what female and male socialization looks like

[loving-women-is-rad]

this is why radfems use the word handmaiden

[sylviaplathstypewriter-deactiva]

even when kissing the feet of man, the woman is still kicked

[semper-----femina]

Real handmaiden hours damn

[vriskarights-deactivated2023012]

She was clocked in for her handmaiden 9-5 😔

[semper-----femina]

Paid in crumbs of male approval

[vriskarights-deactivated2023012]

Trans women are women *jingles cup* trans women are women *jingles cup* trans women are women *jingles cup* trans women are women *jingles c

[bean-cakes-deactivated20240411]

@the-drama-kid from this:

To this:

Was it this post? Was this the one that transed you?

[the-drama-kid]

honestly mentally blocked out everything i did on this blog but this is going on the pile of “things that transed me”

edit: thought this was a fellow trans person making a joke. this is definitely not a fellow trans person making a joke. no, this post was not the one that transed me, it was a long journey, go fuck yourself too

[the-drama-kid]

redoing my bio to reflect my current views

Selli (that is not my name but an alias) - he/him because i found out that i am a guy and the gender questioning was foreshadowing all along - not a transmed but i don’t call myself a tucute bc i hate that term - i dont have the energy to care about ace discourse - Pro Choice - Pro Non-Binary AND xenogenders AND neopronouns!! - Anti Terf - Anti Suicide Bait (like any normal human) - fictionkin and otherkin positive (i found out i’m a therian :)) - Anti Fact kin - Bisexual - definitely autistic, maybe adhd + i have anxiety

[nonbinarypastels]

support nbs with xenogenders!

🐺 nbs with xenogenders that relate to animals!

🦄 nbs with xenogenders that relate to mythological creatures!

🌸 nbs with xenogenders that relate to plants!

🌧️ nbs with xenogenders that relate to weather!

🌠 nbs with xenogenders that relate to space!

📚 nbs with xenogenders that relate to something in books!

🥄 nbs with xenogenders that relate to their neurodivergence, mental illness or disability

💖💖 support ALL nbs with xenogenders, no matter what kind of xenogender you have! there’s nothing shameful or wrong about having a xenogender and expressing your gender identity the way that is most comfortable for you isn’t hurting anyone! 💖💖

[the-drama-kid]

My god I feel so bad for actual nonbinary people this is just trivializing their struggles and making people take them less seriously than they did before

[the-drama-kid]

Note from Older The-Drama-Kid: Xenogenders are fine. You’re fine. Be a nonbinary spacegender something who cares

[the-drama-kid]

I do not remember writing half the dumbass shit on this blog. I am going back to correct myself because holy shit I was a dumb kid

[realtransfacts]

Fact #586: If you’ve ever been called a “transtrender”, congratulations, you are lovely. Your gender and your transness are real. You are valid. The fact that some asshole was so threatened by your existence that they felt they needed to beat down on you in order to feel good about themselves tells you all about them and nothing about you. You’re allowed to continue existing as yourself. You don’t need some gatekeeper’s permission to be you.

[opalsilkmoth]

But you need to experience dysphoria to be trans.

[realtransfacts]

[maedarakat]

Um, no.

Being a trans dude, let me say that since I was raised as a girl, I was taught that everything I was feeling or experiencing was just ‘female hysteria’. That it was fake and I just needed to learn to love my body. 

Doctors told me this when I came in for appointments, struggling to find the words to explain why I felt so wrong. Nurses told me this. My parents told me this. My therapists told me this.

That I was just fine, and all urges to want to crawl out of my own skin or to stop existing entirely was just me having ‘hormonal spikes’ or being ‘depressed’. 

As it was, I did not realize I was trans until my late twenties, and I had no idea what I was experiencing was dysphoria because my symptoms were frequently dismissed by trusted doctors or diagnosed as a ‘'behavior problem”.

Now this is just my experience being raised as a girl, but I have no doubt whatsoever that trans women have had upbringings that made them question if what they were experiencing was dysphoria, or just them being labeled as “messed up”, or even “hypochondriac”, etc, by family, doctors and peers.

It’s honestly cruel to question someone’s validity as trans for not having dysphoria, especially because you are entirely alone in finding out whether or not you have it. No doctor in my life has ever read through my medical history and noticed any trends and told me accurately what was going on with me.

Because doctors actually don’t know. Tumblr doesn’t know either. YOU know. You are the only one who can know, because it concerns your body. It’s hard and it hurts like hell to figure this all out by yourself, and unfortunately in our current craptastic healthcare system? It’s yourself that you have to almost entirely rely on. And being called crazy at every turn by the people who are hired to help you sure as shit doesn’t help matters.

You are strong as hell and you amaze me.

Likewise, if you know you aren’t your assigned gender and you don’t have dysphoria? 

You are lucky and also amazing and still entirely valid and I’m so happy for you. Because I sure as fuck don’t wish dysphoria on anybody.

[truscumopinions]

But you need to experience dysphoria to be trans.

[realtransfacts]

Once again: [Nope!] [And nope again!]

[fanfckery]

The idea that trans people have to experience dysphoria comes from cis people insisting that trans people must hate themselves to be valid. It’s just another set of hoops cis people want us to jump through. They feel that we have to hate ourselves for being different. And we really don’t.

There is such thing as gender euphoria. It means you feel fucking great when you’re validated as your gender or even if you validate yourself as your gender whether through dress or going “I am [gender]”.

Neither are mutually exclusive, but some people feel apathetic to their assigned sex, not hating it or anything, just they could don’t mind it, but when they get called certain pronouns they suddenly go “That feels good, that feels right.”

It’s okay to experience gender euphoria without gender dysphoria. It’s just another side of the vortex that is being trans.

[bunniesthatsaybahhhhhhhh-deacti]

I honestly can’t believe that some people think that you need to experience dysphoria to be trans. That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard

[the-drama-kid]

This is the stupidest chain I’ve ever seen. Gender euphoria is not a thing, if you like your gender, have fun being cis I don’t care, if you don’t like your gender (like not just “oh no I don’t like periods”), congrats your trans I still don’t really care.

[slayfortedk]

Give me a single valid source to back up your argument

I’m not cis and I love my gender. I love being trans. I love being non-binary. I am happy how I am.

[the-drama-kid]

I’m genuinely wondering if I blacked out the entirety of this account. I do NOT remember writing this. For the record I don’t and never have truly believed in my previous reblog, euphoria is real, how have I survived this long.

[themeaningofbisexuality]

Via The Bisexual Index on Twitter

[Picture is a series of tweets by The Bisexual Index which read:]

We don’t say “bisexuality is attraction to two or more genders”. We say “bisexuality is attraction to more than one gender”.

If you don’t see a difference then why not use our version?

There is a difference. 1) Saying “It’s not 2, it’s 2 (or more)” doesn’t really get away from the outdated “there’s two” model.

1a) And it footnotes other genders. No need to! 2) And as with our list of points, more than one can include ‘not entirely two’.

But again - if you see genders or your attractions purely as integers then don’t worry: More than one totally includes two.

Part of the @bisexualindex mission statement is to promote “more than one” over “two” or “two+”.

We think it’s more inclusive and reflective of the bisexual community. Other bi orgs disagree and that’s cool. It’s not mandatory.

But when people who don’t use the bisexual label tell you we’re wrong, feel free to tell them we don’t care. Our label, our definition.

This is a very interesting thread and they make some good points as to why “more than one” would be preferable to “two or more”.

I specifically dislike the “same and other genders” definition due to the way it submits to the “bi = 2″ definition and also specifies a particular gender you have to be attracted to and, in The Bisexual Index’s words, “it footnotes the other genders”. (and since the SGA discourse I really don’t trust people who use it for the whole community).

But I also feel that “more than one” and “two or more” are equally inclusive and reflective of everyone in the bi community so they can be used more interchangeably than some other definitions, though I’ll definitely consider promoting the “more than one” definition a bit more going forward.

[the-drama-kid]

For fucks sake, attraction to more than one gender is PANSEXUAL. STOP ERASING PANS D:

[the-drama-kid]

i swear on my entire life i never wrote this

[artzandtingz]

stimming should be discourse free

Stimming should be discourse free

Stimming should be discourse free

Stimming should be discourse free

Stimming should be discourse free

Stimming should be discourse free

Stimming should be discourse free

Stimming should be discourse free

Stimming should be discourse free

and if you disagree, please block/unfollow me! And before someone says “oh ur a transmed” i’m an autistic (prof dx) non-binary tucute who just acknowledge that there are autistic transmeds who don’t deserve to be excluded from something that is pretty much out of their control.

[invaderzimmo-deactivated2020061]

STIMMING SHOULD BE DISCOURSE FREE

[the-drama-kid]

incredibly good post op

[the-drama-kid]

Yes, you can like things without supporting the creator!

[the-drama-kid]

ok but does that have anything to do with the post

[the-drama-kid]

Yes, you can like things without supporting the creator!

[tepig-guy]

Time for a little controversy, my fellow transmeds

The transmed community, from what i have observed with my own two optical receivers, is full of edglords who are way too mean for their own damn good. Constantly harassing & misgendering people, and sending death threats just because they are so determined to prove that they’re right that they’ll harass people.

And we are right! But that doesn’t mean we should be disgusting little gremlins that spam tucutes with insults and slurs. And while not every transmed does these things, too many do. I think we need to have a group seperate from those people.

I saw someone say this somewhere, that transmeds oft complain about tucutes hiding away in their echochambers, but yet if anyone sounds even slightly “tucute-y” they’re bashed and yelled at over laptop moniters. And i wholeheartedly agree that transmeds need to step away from their own echochambers and realize that when someone bullies/harasses everyone who has a different opinion, they’re often the bad guy. Hell, even i have a habit of “echochambering” my blog; 60% of people i follow are lgbt related, and 99% of that is transmed/truscum opinion.

i feel like if there were a group that had tucute acceptance and niceness, but was backed by science like transmeds then that would be ideal, but i also feel like the only response i’m going to get is “No some people deserve to be bullied, we’re RIGHT and we’re GOING TO STICK UP FOR OURSELVES.”

So, this new “community” of sorts. Myself, @lawliet-is-a-transmed, and @nutbvster were talking about the name; we could be called “Tumeds”, a syncretic blend of tucute and transmed. I’m thinking of some rudementary ground rules:

If you are Tumed you must

Think you need dysphoria to be trans

Not send death threats or hate messages

Respect pronouns even if they are neopronouns, and if it truly pains you to respect that, then use they/them, and stop calling everyone an attention seeking teen girl

Don’t comment just to be an asshole (ex: reblogging just to say ‘look at how stupid’ etc etc)

Don’t belittle other users, make fun of them, or their mental disorders.

Never stoop low enough to consider someone subhuman for disagreeing with you

Don’t comment on positivity posts with negitivity.

Obviously discourse is still going to happen with tumeds, but it’ll be more of a discussion than blatant rudeness and harassment.

TL;DR: Lots of transmeds are too fucking nasty and toxic, tucutes are nice but not backed by science. Tucute friendliness + transmed opinions = Tumeds! Friendly people who believe you need dysphoria to be trans, but don’t believe in degrading & harassing others with insults and death threats!

[the-drama-kid]

tumed time baybey

[the-drama-kid]

another comparison transmed thing? its like a unicorn

yeah i know the art is shit but all i have is a mouse and ms paint

anyways theres literally no way a tucute can reclaim this bc this is literally not a caricature

anyways u need dysphoria to be trans and thats literally it. you dont have to want surgery or hrt, nor do u have to bind or try to pass. u can literally do whatever the fuck u want as long as u have some kind of dysphoria

also theyre dating its canon

[sccoob]

I love that you can tell the #trender is really a girl because you gave the drawing eyelashes

#notAtAllMisogynistic #norInAnyWayTransphobic #youreReallyCoolForMockingTransPeople

[the-drama-kid]

1 im female

2. the “trender” (i didnt even say she was a trender, because LIKE ME, she was just questioning herself) is based off me

3. the eyelashes are literally,,part of the cartoon style??

[the-drama-kid]

so ur not gonna respond to this lmao

[sccoob]

I mean I Can respond to it, sure, I just figured you were so obviously wrong it didn’t need responding

1) congratulations.

2) a rose by any other name still smells of shit

3) then why does the guy on the left not have them

[the-drama-kid]

cartoon style being short for “thats how i differentiate males from females in this style”

what does number 2 even mean?? i dont,,,believe in trenders,, this was literally meant to just say “it doesnt matter if you bind or want surgery or anything as long as u have dysphoria ur fine”

[sccoob]

Do you realize you're literally making a joke of the trans community or are you not that self aware?

do you realise that kill yourself?

[the-drama-kid]

telling someone to kill themself thats so cool

[sccoob]

lmao they came onto my blog as a faceless nameless entity to call me a trender and say I’m a bad trans or w/e, you can’t get mad at me when I treat them like the trash you are

[the-drama-kid]

dude never EVER tell anyone to kill themself

[sccoob]

how about never EVER misgendering someone

[the-drama-kid]

that was unintentional, i call everyone dude, male female or non-binary

[sccoob]

The correct response is “sorry, I won’t do it again”

[the-drama-kid]

sorry, i won’t do it again

[the-drama-kid]

another comparison transmed thing? its like a unicorn

yeah i know the art is shit but all i have is a mouse and ms paint

anyways theres literally no way a tucute can reclaim this bc this is literally not a caricature

anyways u need dysphoria to be trans and thats literally it. you dont have to want surgery or hrt, nor do u have to bind or try to pass. u can literally do whatever the fuck u want as long as u have some kind of dysphoria

also theyre dating its canon

[sccoob]

I love that you can tell the #trender is really a girl because you gave the drawing eyelashes

#notAtAllMisogynistic #norInAnyWayTransphobic #youreReallyCoolForMockingTransPeople

[the-drama-kid]

1 im female

2. the “trender” (i didnt even say she was a trender, because LIKE ME, she was just questioning herself) is based off me

3. the eyelashes are literally,,part of the cartoon style??

[the-drama-kid]

so ur not gonna respond to this lmao