The last time I went to the gym I went with a girl friend, the woman behind the counter was on the phone and didn't look at me/I was partially obscured from her vision behind her screen, and twice referred to us as 'ladies' (apologising for the delay whilst on the phone, then again when she got off). The first time I didn't comment, but the second time I said, "Apparently I'm a lady today!" The woman behind the counter laughed, and my friend said, "It's too early in the morning!" and she said, "Yeah, I'm half asleep!" Then she apologised by referring to us as 'lady and gent'. I don't get misgendered anymore, ever, and she has never misgendered me before, but it made me slightly paranoid that I looked feminine that day (even with facial hair). I was less bothered than I would have been previously (basically thinking a bit more like a cis guy who got misgendered, I think), but even though I was quite chilled and reasoned that she just hadn't bothered to look at me and had assumed that my friend would have gone to the gym with a girl, and because I'm short, but I couldn't quite stop thinking about it. Her reaction also leads me to believe she just plain hadn't looked at me, though, because she wasn't mortified or surprised, she just kind of laughed at herself. Almost like an, "Oh yeah, obviously, haha," instead of a, "SHIT I DIDN'T REALISE, I"M SO SORRY!" Also, I used to always go with a guy, so my being short wasn't a 'thing' but the girl I went with is really tall and so I suppose it was a bit weird to think that a short guy would be hanging out with a girl that tall, especially as the assumption tends to be that you're partners if you are opposite genders (for some reason). I dunno why I'm talking about it here tbh...
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