hiii omg ty for responding & not being mad at me - i was so scared you were going to be offended
i kind of want to continue this discussion bc it’s so interesting but tell me if after this post you don’t feel like responding or whatever & i’ll stop bothering you 😭
ophelia, crazed and mad and deranged because her ex killed her dad? ophelia, crazed and mad and deranged because of her ex giving mixed signals & being rude about her dad's corpse?
could be misinterpreted but i genuinely wasn’t trying to minimize her issues - i was acc just trying to convey how the original post seemed to simplify her struggle, although now that i’ve read this response that’s probably not what you meant
i was acc trying to challenge the ideas expressed. that’s why immediately after this paragraph i say “no - no, i don't think so. how about this instead”- i was trying to challenge the reductive language used in the original post.
“her ex killed her dad” & “her ex was giving mixed signals” or “her ex was being rude” was meant to correspond to “boyfriend was attacked her verbally very very badly, only for him to be weirdly flirty later” and “Then her ex murders her dad and makes “Oh no, stinkyyyy” jokes about the corpse.”
like what i really meant to emphasize was the second passage of your quoted part - this was my opinion:
ophelia, enraged. ophelia, mourning the living. ophelia, forgiving. ophelia, never forgetting. ophelia, living. ophelia, dead. ophelia, asking the nobles who dared use her as means to an end, 'can you bear it? can you fucking bear it? can you bear what i've become because of you?' ophelia, left knowing. ophelia, knowing.
definitely NOT the first part of the passage :sob: that is what i actively disagreed with.
& that disagreement is also found in the first part of my response:
her grief is not bc "her dad made her dump her bf, her bf shouted at her, he murders her dad & is mean about it" like that is . kinda an oversimplification
i already covered that i’m against “mixed signals” just like you but i also feel like “I wouldn’t call that ‘mixed signals’. I’d call that a highly unstable relationship” is an example of people applying modern, very very contemporary values (individual and societal) to fiction/fictional characters, like i feel like lowk you’re treating hamlet and ophelia’s relationship as if they’re real modern-day people in the modern definition of a toxic relationship, rather than figures and concepts. if these were real people in a real relationship, it would totally be “unstable” - but that’s not the central theme of the play.
(& also even if it was a play like romeo and juliet where the central theme is a romantic relationship, it would also be minimizing to claim that it’s an unstable relationship (“juliet and romeo were just kids like wasn’t juliet fourteen? that’s gross” & “there’s no way they fell in love and died for each other as teenagers 🙄” & cetera) since they’re not meant to be a realistic teenage couple - they’re fictional figures and concepts that explore trying to endure a world full of hatred and protect the love they share. ik this is kinda a digression but i feel like it’s important to convey my argument about hamlet and ophelia)
& i think this also applies to your depiction polonius and ophelia’s father-daughter relationship, since your assertion “She was incredibly loyal to him no matter if he was a… uh… the word is “helicopter parent,” right?” also is an example of applying modern terminology, ideas, and values (individual and societal) as if they’re real people in this contemporary era
& also i’m kind of confused about your following statement in your recent response - “Also, I don’t think she went mad from just one stressor. She had a ton of stressors.” - bc i definitely wasn’t trying to imply she didn’t have many stressors? i tried to convey this in these passages of my response:
ophelia is one of the most perfect examples of the trauma, grief, and rage contained within shakespearean women [...] ophelia, enraged. ophelia, mourning the living. ophelia, forgiving. ophelia, never forgetting. ophelia, living. ophelia, dead. ophelia, asking the nobles who dared use her as means to an end, 'can you bear it? can you fucking bear it? can you bear what i've become because of you?' ophelia, left knowing. ophelia, knowing.”
so like. the shakespearean woman is complex (grief and trauma, love and rage, logic and intelligence, facing oppression by men in their life), and i thought that depicting ophelia as an example of the shakespearean would convey the complexity of her struggle and the complexity of her identity, but i def see how it could be misinterpreted & that i should’ve expanded way more on that idea
which admittedly you did allude to the “nobles who dared to use her as means to an end” i spoke of: “Yes, she’s insane because she’s been oppressed and ignored by the entire court.”
and i did agree with this part of your response:
He was another one of her loved ones. And Hamlet killed him. Hamlet killed him, hid the body, and made jokes about it. [...] I just think her dad being murdered was the last straw.
which i tried to convey here:
i view [her grief/madness/etc] more as like. when her father died, when all the violets withered with him, she achieved something, some higher extradiegetic consciousness, some knowledge of the tragedy they're all completely locked in with no chance of escape
and also. in my passage that was like ophelia as a teenage girl, i was also trying to convey her complexity and the thousands of stressors she experiences by comparing her experiences to that of teenage girls (tgirls included, obviously)
i see ophelia as nineteen and lonely and faithful and loyal and grieving and angry and sad and. well i see myself in her i guess? i see being a teenage girl (tgirls included obviously and i'm kinda transmasc maybe but i still experienced the joys and horrors of being a teenage girl & am still actively experiencing them lmao) . like i see a teenage girl alone in her room, spiralling, in love and not in love at all, filled with love, and filled with grief, and filled with so much fucking anger.
this was like meant to be the main crux of my point here - the complexity and nuance and vastness of her emotion (although it’s important to note ophelia’s character is not just about emotion. that interpretation is used very very commonly by scholars who are cis men & usually the interpretation is in a super sexist and misogynistic context - that’s why i had the whole meta-textual analysis in order to convey her knowledge and intelligence as a character in a revenge play)
It’s extremely distressing to see a loved one start to ramble about nobody else marrying ever so no more people are created and the net evil in the world will stop increasing. Also him asking to use her lap as a pillow later is also incredibly distressing.
- well, i do agree with since that would be distressing for anyone. however i feel like this idea is also the product of cis male scholars bc they are always, always framing her supposed madness as evidence of hamlet’s actions - which, yes, ofc that’s a part of it, but it also definitely minimizes her character. analyses like this feel like they’re presenting women’s experiences as always revolving around the men in their life, you know? obviously hamlet’s actions were distressing, i completely agree with you there, but i also feel like it’s infinitely more complicated and nuanced than that
& for your last passage about ophelia as loving -
I see Ophelia as a loving person. And it hurts when you lose people you love, people who are dear to you. And it hurts when people don’t love you back. They won’t extend to you like you did to them. They ignore you. They allow you to spiral. [...] I suppose I can see Ophelia snapping at people, but I can’t imagine her truly hating or thinking in an almost meta-narrative manner.
i just. i kinda want to challenge “I can’t imagine her truly hating or thinking in an almost meta-narrative manner.” bc sure, okay, i just read rosencrantz and guildenstern are dead by tom stoppard (which i highly recommend lmao) and the whole play is centered around meta-narrative ideas and meta-textual themes, so i might have been heavily influenced by that. however, i don’t think that those ideas are confined to ragad - they are also present in major interpretations of hamlet (the play and the character)
bc okay so. the play hamlet is absolutely famous for its discursive themes in a diegetic-extradiegetic context. like it has a scene that’s literally a play within a play. and an actor being a character acting (okay that phrasing is clunky - i’m referring to the fact that hamlet is acting as if he’s insane diegetically; and hamlet is played by an actor in real life extradiegetically, so an actor is acting as someone else who is acting as someone else (like a mad version of himself)) & that isn’t going unrecognized by the thousands of literary analysts of hamlet. i’ve seen many texts that have this interpretation - hamlet trying to stop the tragedy, hamlet knowing he’s in a revenge play, hamlet knowing. the most-posed question of the play = “is hamlet actually mad?” idk if you see this interpretation, but i thought it’d be very important to analyze ophelia in the same intensity and manner than scholars analyze hamlet. bc ophelia really really doesn’t receive the same kind of analysis. scholars write her off so easily (have you seen that post that’s just like “i diagnose ophelia with Woman” lmao), & they just turn to hamlet immediately.
- i also find some issues with
I see Ophelia as a loving person. And it hurts when you lose people you love, people who are dear to you. And it hurts when people don’t love you back. [...] I suppose I can see Ophelia snapping at people, but I can’t imagine her truly hating
like to me that argument really does lend itself to the opinions of cis male scholars who enjoy romanticizing ophelia’s “tragic beauty,” her loyalty to her father, her love for her father, and her love for hamlet.
& by emphasizing her loving nature (which, yes, of course ophelia is loving, i’m definitely not denying that, it’s just the fact that they reduce her to this characteristic that i have a problem with) it feels like she’s being put on a pedestal, the pedestal of “pure femininity,” being a “pure feminine ideal” whose main trait is just “faithful love for men in her life” (and this theme is also seen in contemporary media as well) & that - well, it feels kinda problematic. i’m not saying this is the entirety of your opinion in this passage at all. i’m just saying the ideas expressed in this passage lend themselves to the same underlying and fundamental logic of sexist cis male literary analysts - that all characters who are women only revolve around men in their lives
like i’m definitely not trying to like. villainize your opinion or be pretentious or mean & i’m definitely not like. angry - i really really don’t want to offend you & i like this conversation to be honest 😭 but if you ever want me to stop and/or want to block me like just tell me you want to stop & i will 😭