Last week, country superstar Keith Urban released his new album, which includes a song called âGemini.â Supposedly written for his wife, Nicole Kidman, it boasts a line that is the definition of cringe inducing: âSheâs a maniac in the bed, but a brainiac in her head,â it goes. Aside from the fact that itâs redundant (you canât be a brainiac in your leg or your elbow, last time we checked) itâs one of many examples in modern Music Row writing that belittles a womanâs worth while trying to be a tribute to her greatness. It shouldnât be a surprise to anyone that a woman can be both smart and sexy. But writing about a partner, regardless of gender, shouldnât be off-limits, either. Romance is a cornerstone of music, and thatâs a fine thing indeed â and artists should be able to write tributes to their lovers or loved ones without shades of sexism.
Parker Millsapâs âShe,â from his new record, Other Arrangements, is a fine example of how to write and sing about a partner without ceding to demeaning language that praises a certain female while still keeping her safely in her place. In âShe,â Millsap, to a noodling and bluesy guitar, credits the woman in his life with keeping him in line, offering him strength, and putting the pressure on to be a better man. âSheâs no question; sheâs the answer,â Millsap sings, bouncing lightly through the lyrics and in a near-duet with the guitar itself. The she in âSheâ is a brainiac, too, it seems â in her head (or elsewhere). But in Millsapâs hands, her greatness isnât in spite of anything at all. It just is.












