You know whats important to me in a relationship (both romantic and platonic) ?
Sitting in traffic. Waiting in line. Missing a flight. Running late for work. Searching for lost keys. Forgetting your wallet at home and having to circle back. Y’know when your hair gets caught in your necklace/earring for like 10 minutes and it’s not funny anymore cuz they were a gift and you’ll be really sad to break it plus it’s yanking your hair out? That too. When you’re ill does the other person comfort you and ease your pain?Grocery shopping. Bringing home the groceries and the dog is jumping on you and the cats are running in between your legs and you’re hangry. Being hangry. That’s important to me. But whats crucial is how all that gets handled. If one of us loses our cool will the other deescalate the issue or make it worse? Can we both lose our cool without blaming eachother for every little thing? How long does it take us to makeup and apologize for our hangry exchange of words? After an apology do we both feel understood, cherished and connected?
