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Hello there!

I'm CosmicSquid, an asexual who's into fat, weight gain, and all that comes with it, as well as just being into romance, food, and other related things.

My blog here is more about talking fat, gaining, fat relationships, and fat-related topics, with the occasional pic reblog of other chubbies real and drawn, and my own pictures since I gain myself. If you want more of me, you can find my Reddit account that has a large archive of previous photos. Available at https://www.reddit.com/u/TheCosmicSquidy/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

I try to keep my content here SFW as possible (sexy stuff is gross) but if your not 18+ then you should probably not be here.

In any case, I hope you stick around!

u/TheCosmicSquidy: Asexual 210 lbs femboy piggy prince! My dream is to be in a Mutual Gaining Relationship. I also like to talk about fat an

Wanna come cuddle? I’d die for some belly rubs and snacks too <3

#bhm #chubby boy #fat piggy #make me fatter #fat #feedisim #getting fatter #pudgy belly #belly play #stuffing #male feedism

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waking up to your s/o rubbing your tummy - they're sleepy and like the softness and warmth of your belly, rubbing large circles into your stomach. they put a little pressure on it as they pull you closer to their chest and kiss the top of your head. you stretch out and arc your back, pushing your tummy into their hands for more pressure. you're lulled to sleep again by the warmth and gentleness of belly rubs, your s/o falling asleep soon after with their hand fitted over the soft curve of your belly, rising up and down with each sleeping breath you take

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That’s a wholesome kind of hot

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a day in the life

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things I want aspiring ethical feedists to know

because I’m tired of getting secondhand embarrassment from some of the clueless people in our community (most of which I’m guessing haven’t directly interacted with a fat person in their peer group outside of a kinky context) AND I’m trying to address some of the talking points @/anti-fat-fetishism has touched on:

“feederism” is an outdated term due to its feeder-oriented connotations, many of us have switched to using “feedism” instead

if your url is something very obviously feedist (e.g. “fatten-me-fuck-me” or “creamstuffedbelly”), or your icon/header is related to feedism, then non-feedist fat positivity/liberationist/activist bloggers probably won’t appreciate you following them

it is extremely inappropriate to try and “sneak” your kink into an everyday situation/conversation with a fat person. the general rule of thumb is this: if something a fat person says/does turns you on due to being subtly feedism related, don’t deliberately try to coerce them into saying/doing that thing. the same principle goes for posting/reblogging creep shots of fat people (seriously, there are quite literally thousands of people on tumblr who would willingly do this with/for you)

feedism as a kink is slightly different from feedist culture–feedism could technically be enacted by two skinny people, neither of which have any intention of gaining weight. whereas feedist culture is generally an amalgamation of “classical” feedism (stuffing), WG (weight gain)/gainer kink, feedee-feeder roleplaying, and showering fat bodies with the love & appreciation they deserve

eating a lot doesn’t mean you will get fat (there are plenty of thin aspiring gainers who have trouble putting on weight)

eathing “healthy” and working out doesn’t mean you will lose weight (source: my friend who is also fat has worked out for 2+ hours every day and only eaten natural, non-processed sugar over the past 5 years and all it’s done is made her feel stronger)

yes, most if not all of us have been to the gym before, whether or not we “look like it”

while soft feedism is often considered the “safest” subset of feedism to practice, it can be infantilizing if taken too far (this also applies to completely sfw fat positivity–not all of us want to be told we look “cute and huggable”)

death feedism (and other especially taboo/hardcore subsets of feedism) is based on several VERY inaccurate stereotypes about how being fat works, therefore the fat feedists who engage with/practice it not only need to look after their own mental health, but need to be as careful and thorough as possible when it comes to properly tagging DF content

when it comes to creating feedist content for a sfw non-feedism-centric fandom, tagging things properly is extremely important–one of the best solutions I’ve seen is people coming up with alternate tags altogether (e.g. “stuffedronpa” for d*ng*nronpa, “stardew fatties/fatty” for “stardew v*ll*y)

while some people find the thought of being scolded and fat-shamed by a medical professional “hot” and “irresistibly sexy”, many of us are actually *terrified* of having our health concerns dismissed by a doctor (especially if the only thing they tell us is “lose weight/work out more/eat less” when we came in for a runny nose or broken arm). medical anti-fat bias is a real problem and not every fat feedist is into that kind of roleplay, please respect those of us who aren’t

“obesity” is a heavily medicalized term (without it, there would be no basis for medical anti-fat RP or death feedism) and as a direct result, many of us don’t want to be called “obese.” please make an effort to double check that someone is okay with being called “obese”, “piggy”, “cow”, “whale”, etc. before you actually call them any of those.

TL,DR: I promise you that if we all do our part to learn more about the fat liberation movement and remember that kink doesn’t exist in a social vacuum, we can make this community safer for the fat people (especially fat sex workers) in it.

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Representation of fat people in healthy, loving relationships is severely lacking everywhere which in turn solidifies the idea that fat people and loving relationships simply do not mix well. so I always wanted to see some fat people talk about cute, romantic, loving moments/dates/events they have experienced so other fat people get to read about it and maybe give them hope that they will, too, find something like that so. If you have a story like that to share, I would love to see it in my inbox!

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Feedee asks! ❔🥄

1. Do you have a goal weight?

2. Do you have a weight limit?

3. Where do you jiggle most?

4. Do you have cellulite?

5. Do you have stretch marks?

6. Do you waddle?

7. Do you find it easy to gain weight?

8. What’s sexier, weight or size?

9. Do you enjoy a stuffed belly, or just wish it was fat?

10. Is food sexy or is only fat sexy?

11. Favourite cuisine?

12. Favourite binge food?

13. Do you eat because you love gaining or gain because you love eating?

14. What’s the sexiest food?

15. Do you want to be funnel fed?

16. Into mutual gaining?

17. Do you prefer a skinny feeder or a fat feeder?

18. Would you rather be fatter than your partner or skinnier?

19. Do you like to be on top?

20. Favourite bit of fat for a partner to play with?

21. Into public displays of feedism?

22. What are the sexiest clothes to be fat in?

23. Would you rather be worshipped or teased?

24. Do you enjoy friends and family reacting to your gain?

25. Do you enjoy strangers reacting to your size?

26. Do you want fat friends?

27. Do you wish you were fatter already, or is it all about the gain?

28. Any aspects of gaining that you’re not a fan of?

29. Most underrated fat body part?

30. More food or better food?

31. Sweet or savoury?

32. Soft feeding or forceful feeding?

33. Even gain or disproportionately fat?

34. Fat with muscle or soft and flabby?

35. Active fatty or lazy fatty?

36. Do you want to stay fit or let yourself go?

37. What is something that surprised you about gaining weight?

38. Have you ever broken furniture?

39. Have you ever burst out of your clothes?

40. Have you ever got stuck in a tight spot?

41. Has your gain brought any new struggles?

42. Do you like to be measured?

43. Being tied up while fed?

44. Are you into squashing?

45. Are you into bloating?

46. Do you burp a lot?

47. How messy are you?

48. Do you wish everyone was fat, or would that make it less exciting?

49. If you are what you eat, what have you been eating?

50. Ask anything!

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Ask me things! My ask box is hungry!

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concept: feeders who love and dote on their feedees and take them on normal, non-kinky romantic outings. feeders who genuinely find their feedees attractive, even if they want to lose weight. feeders who know that it’s okay to lose weight. feeders who respect their feedees’ wishes

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Feeders who aren’t ashamed of their preferences want their feedee to meet their friends. Feeders who buy healthy snacks and food, because not every meal has to be kinky and junk food.

Feeders who treat their feedee as more than an object for sexual gratification.

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This!!!

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I love having fat friends!! Nothing more powerful than a group of fatties just being happy and loud and having a good time!!

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💖 I love being fat 💖

Reblog if you love fat, squishy bellies so I can make more fat friends

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I've been looking at the recent discussion and I have to ask - is it possible to be thin and be into feedism in an ethical way? Especially if you're not comfortable engaging with radical politics like fat liberation for your own mental health? Because honestly, it just seems like as thin people, it's impossible for us to engage with this kink (at least beyond just fantasising in private) and not hurt fat people and perpetuate fatphobia in some way. And at that point it seems like it'd be better to just disengage from the kink entirely and make sure it's a fat people only space.

What? Literally all you have to do is care about fat people.

To be an ethical feedist or FA, educate yourself on systemic anti-fatness! I’m not asking you to get into heavy political debates, just to learn. Work on your own biases. It doesn’t take much to open a book. Or even just follow fat educators on social media! LISTEN to fat people you know!

Here, I even included a whole big list of people to learn from!

Aubrey Gordon @yrfatfriend

Hannah Fulhendorf MA LPCC @hannatalksbodies

Sonalee Rashatwar LSCW MEd @thefatsextherapist

Dr. Lindo Bacon @lindobacon

@bigfatscience

@fatliberation

Caleb Luna @chairbreaker

Da’Shaun L. Harrison @dashaunlh

Tracy Cox @sparklejams

Virgie Tovar @virgietovar

Jordan Underwood @jordallenhall

Saucyé West @saucyewest

Here’s even more information I compiled, with book recommendations!

All of this information is at your fingertips. If you don’t engage with fat liberationist ideas, you’ll be complicit in their oppression. Not just in feedism spaces - but everywhere. Support fat people. If that’s not something you believe you can do, then sure, maybe it would be better to disengage from feedism! and every fat person you meet! There’s nothing inherently unethical about being a thin feedist - it’s how we perpetuate the anti-fat bias we’ve been taught. Sorry if I’m being harsh, but I’m not buying it. You can do this.

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I would also challenge the idea that fat liberation is a radical ideology - it is really just "we think discrimination based on body size shouldn't exist and are going to work on dismantling the systems that create this oppression".

I think if you can grasp the ideas that "fat isn't bad" and "fat people experience anti-fat oppression and I should listen to their voices" and "fat people are whole people who require autonomy, respect, and consent just like everybody else", you're probably already on the right track.

Also, it seems like there's a lot of fear of 'getting it wrong' behind this ask. That's understandable when you're navigating interacting with a system of oppression you haven't experienced. The thing is, you are going to get it wrong sometimes. You might say something that's rooted in fatphobia and upset someone or trigger them or piss them off. But the response to that isn't to avoid any situations where you might mess up. Feeling your own discomfort and learning how to respond when you make mistakes is where you grow and deepen your relationship with yourself, individuals, and your community.

I do understand though that a lot of fat politics focuses on medical fatphobia, and reading a bunch of stuff about how diet culture is wrong and all the wrong things the medical field says about fatness means you're exposing yourself to those fatphobic messages. If I'm not in the right brain space it can be very activating for my eating disorder brain. I'll read something like "doctors say fat is bad and that's wrong" and my eating disorder brain sees "doctors say fat is bad". There are some times where you might need to put a sticky note in that chapter of fatphobia and come back to it later when you're up to it. But do come back to it, because confronting your fatphobia is just going to benefit you and those around you and this community if you choose to participate in it.

In the meantime, read up on how to be an ally in general and how to exist in a space with marginalized people as someone that holds a position of privilege. That stuff applies here just as much as anywhere else. Don't run away just because it seems hard! It takes practice, but it's worth it to learn how to tackle our own fatphobia.

In the meantime, read up on how to be an ally in general and how to exist in a space with marginalized people as someone that holds a position of privilege. That stuff applies here just as much as anywhere else.Don't run away just because it seems hard! It takes practice, but it's worth it to learn how to tackle our own fatphobia.

If a kink involves consenting adults, then it's possible to practice your kink ethically!

And, honestly, my own kink fantasies got WAY hotter when I worked on shining a light on the shame and guilt and the little ways fatphobia popped up in my fantasies in ways that weren't enjoyable for me. So like. Try it, trust me ;)

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I just wanna add some other fat activists/fat voices I’ve been reading and following bc I really like their work and have learned a lot from them! their content ranges from straight-up fat lib/fat activism and dismantling everyday, academic, medical, and cultural fatphobia to fat-positive fashion, writing, art, photography, modeling, comedy, lifestyle, travel, fitness/outdoor recreation, queerness … truly a multitude of foci!

I’ve also included links to a few of their patreons, which I subscribe to and are 100% worth your money (and have low sub tiers for financial accessibility!):

Marquisele Mercedes @marquisele / patreon.com/marquisele

Monica/Fatty, MPH @FattyMPH

Ragen Chastain @danceswithfat

Stacy Bias @stacybias

Substantia Jones @adipositivity

She’s All Fat @shesallfat

Fatventure Mag @fatventuremag

Ash / Fat Lip Podcast @fatlippodcast

Corissa Enneking @fatgirlflow / @fatgirlfreedom

J Aprileo @comfyfat / @comfyfattravels

Q @qthefatmyth

Angelina @fiercefatfemme (and their list of fat liberation resources!!)

Maggie McGill @maggiemcgill

Julie Murphy @ANDimJULIE

Bruce Owens Grimm @bowensgrimm / patreon.com/bruceowensgrimm

Tommy @tommyinboots / patreon.com/tommywearsboots

Ali Thompson @ok2befat

Shooglet @shooglet

Angie Manifredi @misskubelik / @misskubelik

Miguel M. Morales @trustmiguel

Sofie Hagen @sofiehagen

Nicole Byer @nicolebyer

Courtney Shove @fat_girl_has_moxi

Fat Girls Hiking @fatgirlshiking

Fat Futures Collective @fatfuturescollective

Katie @queerfatkatie (esp for intersection w eating disorders!)

Haye @thegenderlessalien

Vast Magazine @vast.press

Fat and Queer @fatandqueer

Fat Outta Hell podcast @fatouttahell

like, the info is there, it’s not hard to find!! and diversifying your social media feeds with fat voices is a big step forward in integrating fat lib and fat positivity into your daily media consumption and your worldview.

(and also! a great way to see if an account is a good, trustworthy one to follow is to check if other big voices in fat activism follow them. it’s tricky but I always make sure I recognize a couple of followers as other people involved in fat lib to ensure that this is a good account to follow.)

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Mom! Lily Drive

Fun drive for 2021

I had a lot of fun designing these dresses.

FYI: I may explore more ideas of Lily wearing more flower themed dresses

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a rant about the romance genre.

i think the treatment chubby/fat women get in media, specifically the fact that if they're not being treated with disgust and repulsion, with their weight being the butt of the joke, then the completely and utter fetishization of fat women, reinforcing the misogynistic ideal that fat women should be thankful that - at the very least, someone will at least use them for sex. y'know, as a favour for us. its fucking degrading, how we're consistently seen as 'beggars', who can't have standards in who we're attracted to, nor expect human decency because of our weight.

Nobody seems to talk about or even address how this can affect our perception of love, or romance, which is only emphasized in lack of representation within the genre. we're masculated, often feeling 'too big' or 'too husky' or 'too masculine' to be loved in a gentle and tender way. most especially in heterosexual relationships.

Nobody addresses how much the "you might as well be happy someone is willing to have sex with you" mentality is pushed upon us, and how it fucking demeaning it feels, and we fucking internalize it.

to clarify, there is nothing wrong with being a husky woman, there is nothing wrong with being a masculine woman, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a big woman. the problem arises when we have those labels or descriptors forced upon those who aren't comfortable being labeled that against their will.

TLDR: people who write chubby readers, you are the fucking best and you have absolutely no idea how much joy or how much progress you're making.

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Treating fat people like people instead of a kink and making sure they feel confident in themselves

Little details like holding hands with a fat partner in public so the world can see that you’re proud and happy to be with them

What is your most favorite snack item?

Recently it’s been a lot of pastries like Crossaints and Cinnamon Rolls. Sometimes I also like to get grapes to snack on, there my favorite fruit.

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Reblog if it’s cool for people to stuff feedee/feeder comments/questions/messages in your ask box!

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We answer these 🙂

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Please feel free. I don’t bite. Unless there’s pizza, cake, donuts, or other goodies involved.

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