Adventures on a Hero's Journey

We are all on our own Hero's Journey ~ full of positive & negative adventures. As a counselor, therapist, coach, and psycho-educational diagnostician I am in the role of mentor to many on their Hero's Journey. I'm using this blog to aid others on their journey as a mentor but also because I too am on my Hero's Journey. Join me on this journey.... Also visit my blog: http://thedragonflyforest.blogspot.com/ & my Facebook pages: The Dragonfly Forest; Forest Alliance Coaching: & Decoding Dyslexia Ohio (yep I'm busy)

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Crystals That Can Help With Anxiety

The listed crystals and stones have properties that can assist in combating or soothing anxiety and negativity.

✨Amazonite - calm, peace, joy, overcoming grief, luck, success.

✨Amber - cleansing, positive energy, luck, healing, strength, happiness, self confidence.

✨Emerald - psychic awareness, meditation, peace, tranquility, sleep, healing, faith, serenity.

✨Herkimer Quartz - Meditation, stress relief, calming.

✨Jasper - stability, healing, balancing emotions.

✨Lepidolite - serenity, peace, tranquility, stress relief, overcoming dependencies and addiction, clear communication, acceptance of change.

✨Lodestone - focus, sleep, and grounding.

✨Obsidian - grounding, centering, cleansing, protection, clarity, divination.

✨Quartz - healing, drawing out pain and negativity, meditation, balancing.

✨Rose Quartz - peace, love, healing, calm, self-esteem.

✨Sodalite - alleviates fears and calms the mind, lessens conflict, soothes fears, stress relief, peace, harmony, balance, wisdom, relaxation.

✨Turquoise - Meditation, friendship, emotional balance, loyalty, divination, healing, soothing, psychic development, trust, courage

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“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anyone.”

— Maya Angelou

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“When writing the story of your life, don’t let anyone else hold the pen.”

— Unknown

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How to Build Emotional Resilience

1. Talk to someone: Sharing how we feel helps to reduce the inner tension (but make sure it is someone who cares about your feelings).

2. Work on improving your self-esteem: Self-esteem is the way you see and feel about yourself … and there are lots of lots of things that undermine our self esteem. For example, experiencing a break up, putting on unwanted weight, doing badly on a test or being excluded by our friends. It’s important that we keep on working on our self-esteem by treating ourselves well and noticing when we succeed (instead of noticing the negatives).

3. Manage your stress levels: If we’re always feelings stressed then it’s hard to cope with life. We tend to over react and have a negative mind set … which drains us of our energy and saps our will to fight. So take a look at your lifestyle and see what you can drop. You may be doing too much, and don’t have time to relax.

4. Make the time and effort to enjoy yourself: Doing things that we enjoy helps to improve the way we feel. So build in little things like having coffee with a friend, or going to a game, or taking time to watch some sports.

5. Choose a healthy life style: Pay attention to your diet and how much you exercise; try to limit alcohol, and don’t deprive yourself of sleep.

6. Develop good relationships: Do your friends make you happy? Do you enjoy their company? Are they kind of people with your best interests at heart? Do they treat you with respect and help to boost your self-esteem? If not, then work on finding new relationships!

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8 Things we can Learn from Introverts

1. Solitude and loneliness are not the same thing.

2. You can be alone and enjoy your own company.

3. You can be alone and be at peace with who you are.

4. Being alone can help you access your authentic, genuine self.

5. It can help you to discover who you want to be, and the goals and achievements that are meaningful to you.

6. Being alone can help develop your creativity.

7. It can help us to establish healthy personal boundaries.

8. It can make us more alert and sensitive to others’ needs.

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“Everyone makes mistakes in life but that doesn’t mean they have to pay for them for the rest of their life. Sometimes good people make bad choices. That doesn’t mean they’re bad. It means they’re human.”

— I Love Quotes

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“Sometimes people think they know you. They know a few facts about you, and they piece you together in a way that makes sense to them. And if you don’t know yourself very well, you might even believe that they are right. But the truth is, that isn’t you. That isn’t you at all.”

— Leila Sales

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“Do not lose hope. Please believe that there are a thousand beautiful things waiting for you.”

— r.m. drake

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“You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened… or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move on.”

— Tupac Shakur

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How to Help a Friend See they’re Not a Failure

1. Remind them of all the kind and thoughtful things they’ve done for you, and for the other people in their life.

2. Remind them of times when they’ve pushed ahead, and kept on going, even though it was hard.

3. Remind them of the times when things worked out eventually, and their efforts were rewarded, and they reached a personal goal.

4. Remind of the funny things they’ve said and done, and the times when you’ve laughed, and shared some awsome memories.

5. Show them they are worthwhile and are valuable by doing something special that makes them feel they’re loved.

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“Let them judge you. Let them misunderstand you. Let them gossip about you. Their opinions aren’t your problems. You stay kind, committed to love, and free in your authenticity. No matter what they do or say, don’t you dare doubt your worth or the beauty of your truth. Just keep shining like you do.”

— Scott Stabile

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“With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”

— Wayne Dyer

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“Someone you haven’t even met yet is wondering what it’d be like to know someone like you.”

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Iain Thomas

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7 Daily Reminders

1. My self worth does not depend on what others think and say about me.

2. My self worth does not depend on how I look or what I weigh.

3. My self worth does not depend on my marks or performance.

4. My self worth does not depend on my number of followers.

5. I am enough just as I am.

6. I can succeed despite a bad day.

7. I am beautiful and valuable – and will treat myself with kindness and respect.

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The Problem with Over-Thinking

1. It increases your anxiety, your worry, and your dread.

2. It makes you feel confused, so that it’s really hard to think.

3. It can blind you to “the obvious”, and what is best for you.

4. It can keep you feeling stuck so you wait too long to act.

5. It can interfere with hearing what your heart says you should do.

6. Thus, it can limit your success as you’re afraid to take that step!

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“Trauma shatters your most basic assumptions about yourself and your world - “Life is good,” “I’m safe,” “People are kind,” “I can trust others,” “The future is likely to be good” - and replaces them with feelings like “The world is dangerous,” “I can’t win,”“I can’t trust other people …””

— Mark Goulston