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I always loved how back in the day before cellphones, people were unreachable if they weren’t at home. You can call but I won’t be there to answer. You can leave a message but you don’t know how long it’ll be until I hear it. You don’t know if I’m home, but you will have to make the trip to come to my house and knock on the door, hoping I’ll be there. And if I’m not…you can’t reach me!! Now that everyone has a cellphone the expectation of being reachable 24/7 is so disastrous. And let’s not even get into read receipts. I think one of the worst times of my inner peace is when I had an apple watch and suddenly every text and phone call and notification was on my freaking wrist, even if my phone was giving the illusion of distance by being in my pocket or bag or charging in another room. I stopped using it in 2022 and I’d rather eat a jean jacket with no water than ever be so connected again. “oh you can just turn off notifications!” not the point.

maithermopolis

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For those who self-sabotage on your health journey 🍵

* Identify your common self-sabotage patterns and notice what situations, emotions, or thoughts tend to trigger them. Prepare a battle plan ahead of time when you are in the right frame of mind.

* One off-track meal or missed workout does not erase your progress.

* Set realistic goals that fit your current lifestyle rather than aiming for an all-or-nothing approach that requires an insane level of discipline and long-term self denial that you have literally never possessed.

* Keep healthy foods easy, quick and convenient while making less healthy choices less accessible.

* Create a backup plan for busy or stressful days, such as healthier take-out choices, pre-packaged meals kept in the freezer, and 10 minute equipment-free bedroom workout videos saved in your playlist.

* Never think that you’re above celebrating your small wins, including drinking more water, adding vegetables to meals, or completing a quick workout. Even if it's the same old same old. You should keep celebrating these new habits because a year or two ago you were striving to be this version of yourself.

* Avoid using food as a reward or punishment.

* Track habits instead of just outcomes so you can recognize progress even when results are slow.

* Remember your deeper reasons for wanting to be healthier and revisit them regularly.

* Surround yourself with supportive people who encourage your goals and healthy habits, even through the content you consume.

* Acknowledge your habits that lead to a setback and focus on your next positive choice rather than dwelling on mistakes. Get up, move forward.

sonofgoodie

alexinmotion

scorpionlafemme

reemillustrated

snoopy encourages you to buy a new book!

werenotreallystrangers

you don't just marry a person. you marry their ecosystem. their food. the temperature of their house. their sleep schedule. their friends.their family. their way of moving through the world

theambitiouswoman

This made me think about all the “I can change them” people and how in reality, it usually ends up changing you. The reason we become those people isn’t just control but the hope that love can create the safety we are craving. That we never got or aren’t giving to ourselves. It’s attaching to potential instead of reality. Believing that if you can fix what feels off, you won’t get hurt later. That if you can shape the situation, you can finally relax

Sometimes it comes from old patterns where love to you meant earning, proving, or holding everything together. So you start adjusting yourself your standards, your needs, your routines,trying to make the relationship work. But you don’t change someone into alignment, you choose someone who already is because that “ecosystem” isn’t a small detail. It’s your everyday life. It’s what you wake up to, how you feel in your own body around them

And if you constantly have to reshape yourself to fit into theirs, you’re not building a life together you’re slowly abandoning pieces of yourself just to stay. And this expands to everything else in your life. Just to avoid looking inward, and really going for the love you deserve