The Garden of Shadows

Anarchy. Softness. Genderfuckery. Queer Love. Art. Pain. Trauma. Cats. Plants. Soothings. Thirtysomething. Shapeshifter. Germany. Sadness is Rebellion.

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Costanza Costamagna

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“Men need therapy” has become a mainstream idea in feminist circles but the conversation never, ever moves past that point because if it did it would inevitably brush up against the implication that the way we raise boys is inherently traumatizing. And that would complicate their nice neat theories about how maleness is only ever a privilege and femaleness is only ever oppressive.

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Since this is getting a terrifying amount of notes, I want to plug the best article on this subject I’ve ever read:

I am interested in complicating your definition of maleness and of boyhood. I was born into that shitty town, maleness, in the remains of outdated ideals and misplaced machismo and repression and there are some good people stuck living there. They are not in charge. They did not build it. And I don’t feel okay just moving out and saying “fuck y’all — bootstrap your way out or die out, I was never one of you.” I want to make it a better, healthier place—not spend all my time talking about how shitty it is and how anyone who would choose to live there deserves it. And to me that means considering them with charity, even when they make it difficult to.

https://medium.com/@jencoates/i-am-a-transwoman-i-am-in-the-closet-i-am-not-coming-out-4c2dd1907e42

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I didn’t say TERFs I said feminists. This happens even in feminist communities that are passionately anti-TERF and explicitly pro-trans.

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Some found art from my walk today

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Ocean Vuong, from “Dear Peter”, Time Is a Mother

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The most beautiful kind of friend is the one who laughs with you in the fire.

Juansen Dizon (via thebrokenquotes)

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What cannot be said will be wept.

Unknown (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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Yesterday — April 7, 2022 —, Alabama passed a bill making gender-affirming health care a felony for people up to age 19. This means that trans youth who seek gender-affirming medical care, their supportive parents, and their doctors all may face criminal charges for the care that is supported by every major medical organization in the U.S.

This is the third state to pass this felony ban on trans care.

On the same day, Alabama passed another bill banning trans youth from gendered public spaces (like bathrooms), and a third bill banning any discussion of LGBTQ+ topics in schools.

Half of all U.S states are moving these exact same bills through their legislatures at lightning speeds, including my home state where I transitioned as a minor.

I have only seen outrage about Florida’s “Don’t Say Gay” bill (which affects trans people, too, by the way). Please also keep track of what is happening to trans people at the state level in the U.S. We are being banned from public life and life-saving medical care. These are children. Lives depend on us challenging these bills.

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“Nonbinary people don’t owe you gender neutrality” means “nonbinary people can have full beards and look 110% masc and not tuck and still be nonbinary” just as much as it means “nonbinary people can have long hair and wear makeup and have boobs and still be nonbinary”

Nonbinary does not mean “feminine lite” it means “nonbinary”

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Sunlit dew in Finland (Photo: Tiina Törmänen) [OS] [1280x1280] - earthmoonsun

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[thegardenofshadows]

When you stand in front of me and look at me, what do you know of the griefs that are in me and what do I know of yours. And if I were to cast myself down before you and weep and tell you, what more would you know about me than you know about Hell when someone tells you it is hot and dreadful? For that reason alone we human beings ought to stand before one another as reverently, as reflectively, as lovingly, as we would before the entrance to Hell.

Franz Kafka (in a letter to Oskar Pollack, November 8, 1903)

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[weltenwellen]

Margarita Karapanou, tr. by Karen Emmerich, Rien ne va plus

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