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Check out this graphic novella my partner wrote! Star Citizen Noir Whodunnit!

The sounds of shuffling feet on the deck plating outside woke me. Ugh, where was I? My head was a pounding mass of pain and questionable lif

#star citizen #noir #murder mystery #whodunnit

gendercensus

How should systems respond to the census? Would you prefer that each system member answers separately, or would you like all of us to answer once?

The rule is "once per body", as far as is possible with your system.

More on that in the FAQ and also in this longer explanation.

Thanks for checking! :)

[ Take the 2023 Gender Census survey here before 9th May ]

wilwheaton

Second Amendment fetishists are some of the stupidest people in the world.

bookgeekdom

skulls-n-ivy

They also usually have free wifi. One of the few places you can use the wifi without being expected to buy something.

plumslices

If we don’t microdose delusion we won’t make it through this reality babe….

leebrontide

So I remember reading about this study in grad school where they have a bunch of clinically depressed people and a bunch of non-clinically-depressed people a game that was partially chance and partially skill, and asked them to estimate how much control they had over the outcome.

The depressed people were far more accurate in estimating how much influence their actions had on the outcome of the game compared to their nondepressed counterparts, who consistently overestimated the effects of their own choices on their chances of winning.

Then I remember this other study (CW animal testing) where they put rats in a bucket of water that they couldn’t get out of, so they’d have to swim. There was a fairly consistent point at which the swimming rat would falter, and stop swimming, fated to drown.

Except that that’s when the researchers would pull the rat out of the bucket, give it a nice rest warmth and a meal.

When those SAME rats who had been rescued before were put in the same situation again, they swam much LONGER than they had before.

Why? The risk was the same either way- drowning. You’d have thought that the fear of drowning would keep them swimming to their maximum length no matter what.

The researchers conclusion was that the rescued rats had something they hadn’t had the first time- they had more hope. A miraculous rescue could come, and that let them swim for longer, just in case.

I think we do microdose delusion because sometimes that little overestimation of our chances, of our luck, keeps us swimming that little bit longer, just in case something good happens. And sometimes, that little margin really does make the difference.

valentineish

IIRC, similar results have been found when studying self-esteem's impact on mental health and fortitude. A key part of human development is in our foundation of internal validation and self-reliance, and gaining a sense of self-worth. Without that dash of pride, new and uncertain experiences are paralyzing. Without that bit of vanity, we lack emotional insulation from failure and negativity.

This is also why things like poor self-esteem and lack of confidence are considered huge warning sign of a struggling child. Abuse and neglect (including bullying and systemic discrimination) requires prioritizing surival over growth. Health conditions can undermine bodily trust, and interrupt memory formation (as pain signals take up a lot of processing power). Imbalanced neurochemicals can make it hard for your brain to build neural pathways. The list goes on.

The good news is that humans are amazing adaptationalists! We're great at building survival skills, and have an impressive ability to grow and learn throughout our lives. It mostly comes down to putting in the time to practice.

Humans just aren't perfectly analytical machines of realism. We need hope and whimsy! We need to feel good and believe we are good!! These little doses of self-indulgence are the roots nourishing us when our environment would starve us out.

legsdemandias

Im not a parent, but I know that so many issues with kids misbehaving could be solved by giving them a simple task to complete instead of just yelling “stop” until they cry

legsdemandias

Over the summer I went to an art museum with my S/O and their son (age 10). The son wasn’t as engaged as we’d hoped, but also we probably should have known.

He whined about and my S/O said “we went to legoland for you, this is for us adults” which is fine, but that didn’t stop him from whining about.

Immediately jumping into teacher mode, I pulled out my notebook and a pen and I said “hey, every time we stop to look at a painting for a while, I want you to draw it.” He didn’t draw a single picture. I showed him how to do it, still didn’t draw a single picture…but he also stopped whining. He couldn’t complete the task, but his focus was taken away from “I don’t want to be here” and was transferred to “what does this image look like? how can i draw this”

It doesn’t always work, but it teaches kid to channel energy and focus instead of wondering what “stop” means. Because “stop” really means “do something else”.

banans13

YES OP!!!!

So many parents don’t realize their kids are BORED! That they have the same feelings and worries that you as an adult do, and that giving them an engaging task actually helps them change the behavior you have a problem with.

One of the first lessons I learned about teaching when I worked as an aide at my religious school was not to tell kids to “stop” running or “stop yelling” but to phrase things in the positive. For example - Stop running becomes “Please walk.” No yelling becomes “Use an inside voice.” This turns the request/rule into a positive action they can think about, rather than a way to shut down a negative.

Similarly, the reason so many kids use their parents phones is 1) they see you doing it all day, and they want to be like you. 2) they are BORED, and just like when YOU are bored they know the magic rectangle has entertainment. 3) parents literally forget they can make sure their kids have other forms of entertainment available.

I’m talking about your kid having a book to read, a note pad to write or draw in, small dolls or toys to play and fidget with. My mom never left the house without a bag of crayons in her purse and a little notebook. That way if we kids forgot to bring something to do and we’re feeling antsy we would always have something to channel out energy into.

This post makes me think about the time I was on the train and there was a family of four sitting in front of me and my partner. The boy was reading a books but the girl was whining about being bored and asking for one of her parents phones. They kept just saying no and not offering to engage her in any other way. Half out of a desire to help and half out of not feeling like listening to her whine I offered to let her doodle in the sketch book that I had brought along with me (my mother trained me well).

Y’all. Her eyes lit UP! What could have been an agonizing 45 minute ride for so many people turned into a moment of joy for her parents, for her and her brother, and for me. I really just can’t stand people who have nothing better to do than hate on kids when literally all they need sometime is someone to step up and care about them and their needs.

This got long, but the point is finding ways to help kids and young people find the joy is sometimes so easy, and remember: if you’re bored, they might be too.

wilwheaton

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thymewayster

Really good Twitter thread originally about Elon Musk and Twitter, but also applies to Netflix and a lot of other corporations.

Full thread. Text transcription under cut.

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stele3

Tumblr ND poll

Please respond and reblog for a large sample size.

I am…

Neurodiverse (ADHD, autism) and Dr.-diagnosed

Neurodiverse and self-diagnosed

Neurotypical

Just want to see results

Voting ended onFeb 17, 2023

stele3

146 votes and only 21 reblogs? *sigh* This is not how we get to a large sample size, guys.

depsidase

sweetheart-dot-jpeg

which celestial body do you relate to most/see yourself as?

Sun

Moon

Stars

Other (planets, nebulae, etc.)

Voting ended onFeb 15, 2023

Context: I have a theory, and i want to see if im right. for simplicity, its just the big three + the 'other' option. Apologies for no vanilla extract, i want actual data this time lol.

remember to reblog for a higher sample size!

allbollocks-deactivated20220819

reblog this if you’re jewish or your blog is a safe space for jewish people

in light of recent events as well as a new rise in creating nazi ocs I think this post is an important one to have on your blog if you stand behind your jewish followers or are jewish yourself.

thehennik

Why not both?

Now, I'm not a practicing Jew - I'm not even Jewish by faith, though that's a whole other post - but 3 of my 4 grandparents were fully, 100% Ashkenazim. The faith doesn't rely on genetics to determine who counts, and I'm not here to say they should. But the world as a whole? My heritage certainly lands me in the Jew column, and I'd be destined for the same camps as the rest of us.

That's ignoring all the other reasons I'm slated for a camp - I'm very queer and noticably neurodivergent, both unacceptable under the logic resurfacing from Mein Kampf and the Party.

My point, though, is that not only am I myself Jewish enough to be a target, but my online spaces are specifically designed to be safe for others of the culture - and the faith.