Can you send him a drink on me?
So ever since Erykah Badu released her “Can’t call my phone” mixtape that has been the only thing playing in my car. If you haven’t listened to it please do. It is a continuation to Drake’s, “Hotline Bling”. With listening to Queen Badu I’ve gotten this urge to just take control and take initiative. Which made me wonder how many women take initiative and when is the right time to?
Ladies, picture this… You’re out with your girls, you’re looking good and you make eye contact with a good looking guy, do you go to him first or wait for him to make a move? Or for someone in a more personal setting, you’re out with some friends and your crush is there. He seems flirting and you’re flirty, what do you do? If you’re anything like me, with the right about of alcohol and confidence  you turn into Kelis and have all the boys in the yard. But what if your not?
It seems like since birth, we’ve always been told to let a man do for us first. Approach us first, pull our chair out, or open our door; while I love the modern gentleman and all of that is nice but sometimes a chick just wanna do for herself. Which shouldn’t be an issue right? Right?! Now don’t get me wrong, if it’s a first date please believe that your are opening the door and you are pulling out the chair. However, once that level of comfortability has set in, I want to seat myself and I also want to pay the tab, occasionally. And if a man is secure in his masculinity then that shouldn’t be an issue.
Now, with taking initiative and finding your inner Beyoncé, you don’t want to belittle your man or make him feel less than you. Know that, y’all are equal and you can do for him and YOURSELF just like he can.
As women, we should not have to hold back with being upfront. The worse thing someone can say is no. And if no is the answer then you put on your big girl panties and you move on. Of course, there will be times of nervousness but always believe that you have the confidence of Trina in “Look Back At Me”.
All in all try something different, buy that cutie a drink at the bar that you made eye contact with, rub on your crush’s leg while y’all are at the game table, it’s all about taking a chance. Never know, you could find the one by making the first move.
-The Homie
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