The INTJ Introvert

INTJ. My Mission: To raise awareness about introversion!

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“Please tell us a little bit about yourself”

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There is something magical about

sitting in the corner booth of a diner, alone with a laptop and food. And of course, unlimited refills on drinks.

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Silence is beautiful, not awkward. The human tendency to be afraid of something beautiful is awkward.

Elliot Kay

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Just saying thank you. From, a female INTJ

You’re welcome! Thank you for being you!

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Hello! I am an INTJ too and I just wanted to say, your blog is awesome and extremely relatable. Keep up the good content! Also what's your Hogwarts house??

Thank you so much!! I realize this is a bit late and I’m so sorry for that...

Meanwhile, to answer your question, I am super proud to say I am a Slytherin!

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It’s Been So Long...

Unfortunately, I am not going to make promises as to my activity on tumblr... school, clubs, and work keep me way too busy. I did miss all of you though

[silentaffirmation]

Me: I’m really glad we got to spend some time together.

Friend: me toooo!

Me: *hug*

Friend: *hug* Let’s get together again soon!

Me:

Me: Why?

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Extroverts are insecure about their social life too.

I know this will go unnoticed but I don’t care I needed to say this, if you notice that your extroverted friend stops initiating conversations with you it’s because they feel as if they’re a burden.

We are constantly being told that we are talkative and should try to be quieter.

We feel if someone doesn’t initiate a conversation with us, out of shyness or not, they are most likely uninterested in us and what hurts and extrovert most is being rejected the company of others, especially someone they like.

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Be nice to the extroverts, y'all.

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Needs more yellow. (via schmauf)

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@the-pigeon-king

[fifelore]

This diagram makes me a bit mad. Introverts make friends like normal people. Because we are normal people, it’s not like we’re a disease. While it’s fine to affirm that we prefer quality relationships over quantity of relationships, it’s not fine to make blanket statements that affirm that we have to be “adopted” by extroverts. Because, excuse me, but like heck I want your pity friendship. I don’t. Go pity the dog I’m apparently going to be left alone with if you decide not to care for me. That’s what you’re saying, that introvert’s only way of finding friendly companionship is via the mercy and pity of extroverts.

What kind of a statement is that??!

We can make friends with anyone, exactly how extroverts and ambiverts and people entirely disinterested in MBTI can. We can make our own friends. You’re saying the only way we can achieve companionship is through animals or extroverts who grace our poor feeble snowflake selves with their care? No.

No one wants pity friends.

Oh and introversion ACTUALLY means that we grow tired after prolonged stimulation. For the diagram to be even remotely accurate it should say “how socially awkward and shy people make friends” and then mention something about human beings with similarities and quality time enough to become mutually comfortable around each other. (Or you know, just write “friendly people wanting to be friends”)

You know… how shy people tend to make friends?

Introversion does not equal shy, same as extroversion doesn’t automatically translate to outgoing. Get your MBTI right.

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As an introvert, the best thing is finding someone who isn’t draining to spend time with

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I’d rather have a deep relationship with myself than shallow relationships with other people.

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3. What type is your partner and how well do you get along? If you don’t have a partner, what type do you think would make a good partner for you?

I do not have a partner at the moment but, in regards to type, there are a few types that are interesting to me, or at least some functions.Personally, I like Se. Or what I perceive as Se, anyway. I like the energetic people that can rally a group of people together just by talking. I like the people at the center of the group that just do things. This could be a lot of extroverts, not just Se types, which is why generally I don't try and type someone who I see act like this.INTJs are often paired with ENFP, but my personal romantic experiences with ENFP are not that good. I have good friends that are ENFP girls that I get along with but the guys end up being to impulsive for me. I have figured this is a maturity thing, as I am relatively young, so if I were to engage romantically with an ENFP, it would be later down the road when I meet a calmer ENFP.My longest, most serious relationship was with an INTP (At least, I think, because I wasn't too much into MBTI at the time). It was fun, but I did most of the initiating. I think, maybe, because that's what I want in a relationship and so I was trying to create that. We were able to discuss deep topics but also really random topics, which I think is a benefit. I still have a lot of exploring and analyzing to do with this experience (it takes me a lot of time to thoroughly go through my emotions) but I certainly don't regret this experience.With all this said, I think type can help guide a discussion in what people want in a relationship but do not make it a determining factor for your partner. Every type has variations and facets that make a person unique, and so, don't shut a person out because you think they are one type, when they could really be another. My suggestion is to go through the process: Ask the questions, explore the person, and understand them.PS Thanks for the question, anon! Hope I helped!

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So it Seems

I need to actually talk to get the extrovert's attention

[mbtvcoach]

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INTJ + Relationships is a difficult combo to understand, and yet Daniel explains it. He dives into the different types that can be growing point for INTJs, how to handle INTJs, as well as some advice for INTJs entering the dating world. Watch it and tell me what you think!

[mbtvcoach]

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This video is about how to help. Not necessarily you, but maybe someone like you. Your past might haunt you or maybe you are just constantly struggling and can't find a way out. This is for all my followers who struggle in life: Watch this video and it might help.

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Who wants to discuss MBTI?

The Myers Briggs Type Indicator. Ever Heard of it? It is a personality theory that uses 4 major dichotomies:

 Introvert vs Extrovert (I or E)    [Where do you focus: Inner or Outer world]

Intuition vs Sensing (N or S)    [How you perceive information]

Thinking vs Feeling (T or F)   [How do you make decisions]

Judging vs Perceiving (J or P)   [How do you structure he outside world]

BEFORE YOU JUST DISMISS THIS THEORY 

Feeling types still use logic, just as thinking types still use feelings and ethics. Judging types can still go with the flow, Introverts can still engage and interact with people, and extroverts can still enjoy spending time alone. It is about preference. 

You may have seen this 4 letter code around tumblr. In fact, my username has my mbti type, as I prefer Introversion, intuition, logic, and judging, AKA the INTJ. 

You can take online tests to determine your type however I don’t recommend those because the person who knows you best is you.

and here is the plug

This is the MBTV youtube page. MBTV is a company that focuses on personal development, posting videos about Myers Briggs, Enneagram, Socionics, Dating, among others.

Not familiar with these personality theories? Want to discuss theories with actual people rather than watch a video?

This is the MBTV Slack Chat. At least the sign up for it. Don’t worry, it just needs an email, nothing else. On Slack, you can find a community that welcomes you and loves discussing personality theory. And philosophy. And dating. and basically everything. Join and come talk to me :) My username is thenatcat! I love talking to people!

“Do you have anything else to add to this stupidly long post?”

Yes. Thanks for asking, although I am trying to keep it short. @mbtvcoach is the tumblr page. Last I heard, Blake [ESTJ] is running it. He wants to meet all of you, so go say hi. He is new to tumblr, so show him how nice people on tumblr are. This is the forums page. You can ask questions there as well.

I would love to talk to you all, so join slack and send me a message, again my username is thenatcat. Also, go talk to Blake at @mbtvcoach He gets lonely.

Thanks for reading!

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