Parul Nigam

Poet, 23. My world is a chaos. IG: theenchantedgirl

[thenchantedgirl]

You see all the red flags and still give them everything, your energy, your time, your heart, because you want to be the savior, the healer. You aren’t meant to fix someone else’s core. You cannot rewrite their personality or install new traits in two weeks. Relationships are not supposed to feel like battlegrounds. Your sanity matters. Stop losing yourself trying to change people who do not love you the way you need to be loved. You deserve a safe space, and you cannot build it out of someone else’s chaos.

[thenchantedgirl]

You keep saying nothing is changing, but you don’t want to change anything. You self-loathe, blame others, and stick to the same routine, then wonder why the universe isn’t favouring you. Your routine reflects how much you love yourself. The way you honour your body and mind shows your dedication to your future. Seek help if you need it, challenge the negatives, but stop celebrating your victimhood.

[thenchantedgirl]

People always make time for what truly matters to them. You make time for your favourite match, for the gym, for food, for rituals, for videos, for favourite movies, for scrolling, for family. So if you’re begging someone to give you time, they’re not your person or they’re not that into you. We always find time for what’s important, and if you have to keep asking for it, it’s not love. Even if you receive it, it’ll be out of compulsion or pity.

[thenchantedgirl]

You can’t fake alignment with the universe because your energy always tells the truth. You attract what you are, not what you pretend to be. You can say all the affirmations, but if your frequency is rooted in fear or lack, the universe listens to that. Real alignment happens when your thoughts, emotions, and actions move in the same direction. That’s when everything starts flowing to you instead of away from you

[thenchantedgirl]

LISTEN. You can only meet people as deeply as they’ve met themselves. You can’t make someone see their toxic patterns if they’re busy defending them. You can’t force someone to love you better if they’re not willing to understand your pain. You can’t blame others for the chaos you’re not ready to change.

You can’t face the light while choosing to live in darkness.

[thenchantedgirl]

You don’t hate your life. You hate your routine. You just forgot what makes you feel alive. Your Ikigai was never in a job title, a soulmate, or a big purpose. It’s in the moments you overlook, when you lose track of time doing what you love, when peace feels natural, not earned. Maybe you’re not lost. Maybe you’re just distracted by what the world told you should matter.

[thenchantedgirl]

Most people run from silence, from stillness, from sitting alone, because in that quiet, the mind holds up a mirror to all the unhealed parts. That’s why we chase distractions, validation, and noise. Have the courage to meet the parts of you that you’ve abandoned just to be “loved” by others. And the day you stop outsourcing your worth and start sitting with your shadows… is the day you step into real freedom.

[thenchantedgirl]

When you over-give, chase, or settle, you broadcast a silent frequency that says your worth is negotiable. People feel this shift, even if they can’t explain it. Your worth is directly proportional to how you see yourself. When you anchor into unapologetic self-respect and set real boundaries, you don’t lose the right people, only the ones who drain your energy. If you allow people to step over you, they will. Remember, your energy speaks before you do.

[thenchantedgirl]

Why do you keep chasing the ones who cannot give you what you need? It is not because you are weak or unwanted, but because a part of you is still trying to rewrite the story of your childhood. If love once felt distant, cold, or out of reach, your nervous system learned to call that normal. So you are drawn to what is familiar, not what is healthy. Understand that love is not meant to be chased, but received in safety and presence.

[thenchantedgirl]

When was the last time you let love touch you without asking if you deserved it? Somewhere along the way you learned that love equals loss, that closeness equals pain, that vulnerability equals danger. And so you smile, you give, you pour endlessly into others, while your own heart quietly starves. The truth is, the blockage isn’t in your ability to love. It’s in your ability to receive. Healing your heart chakra doesn’t mean forcing your heart open, it means teaching it that love can feel safe again.

[thenchantedgirl]

Why does it still hurt so much? That sudden wave of emotion over something "small" is your inner child, trying to get your attention. They are the part of you who never felt truly safe or seen. Healing is not about toughening up; it's about softening, turning inward, and becoming the secure base that child never had.

[thenchantedgirl]

You don’t push people away because you hate love. You push them away because love once hurt you. Your nervous system still thinks closeness means danger. So you build walls and call it independence. But deep down, you’re just trying to feel safe. It’s not confusion, it’s survival.

[thenchantedgirl]

We live in a world obsessed with “becoming,” chasing titles, partners, wealth, and validation as if they’re passports to worthiness. But what if the truth is you were never meant to become anything? What if your soul arrived whole, perfect, untouchable, and this entire human journey is just about remembering what was always there? The chaos, the heartbreak, the loss, they’re not detours. They are the invitations to strip away what you are not, until only your raw, luminous self remains. In the end, you don’t find yourself. You remember yourself… and maybe that was the point all along.

[thenchantedgirl]

You keep waiting for someone to choose you, to love you, to finally make you feel enough. But that’s not their job. When you don’t love yourself, your mind seeks validation like oxygen, trapping you in cycles of pain. Self-love isn’t just a trend. It rewires your nervous system to feel safe, whole, and free. The moment you give yourself what you’ve been begging for, your entire life can change.

[thenchantedgirl]

Our subconscious mind is wired to seek familiarity, even if it hurts. If chaos felt like “home” growing up, calm can feel foreign. So, you unconsciously choose people who recreate old wounds because your brain mistakes that for safety. You fear being abandoned and the next moment you find yourself in situations where people leave.

[thenchantedgirl]

You don’t push people away because you want to be alone. You do it because getting close has always meant getting hurt. Because the ones who said ‘I love you’ also made you feel small, invisible, or too much. So now, you protect yourself before anyone gets the chance to break you. That’s not emotional distance. It is trauma dressed as self-preservation.

[thenchantedgirl]

What lasts longer than hope?

Loss. The act of waiting. The denial. Abandonment. Rejection. Feeling undesirable and unsafe. Suffering in the name of love. Sadness lingering in your eyes. The idea of being unworthy and unloved.