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Rose | 23 | she/they | mental health advice, information, and coping blog | 

[theneurotypicals]

devmicjones replied to your post: One of my best friends has been ignoring me for...

“Hey.. so I noticed you’ve been kinda distant lately.. Are you upset with me or is something going on?”

yea i’ve tried this! no reply. 

[theneurotypicals]

One of my best friends has been ignoring me for weeks now and I have no clue what I did (if it is something I did) or what’s wrong with her and what i should do

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Was reading through this blog came across post that was basically like ‘I’ve only ever had positive sexual experiences’ now I’m triggered!

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Thought my inability to talk about sex was just my gayness but realise it’s the csa lol

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Was reading through this blog came across post that was basically like ‘I’ve only ever had positive sexual experiences’ now I’m triggered!

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Idk how many times I have to tell myself to listen to my intuition before I start actually doing it.

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More importantly what did they do to the font

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Not to say that all progress is lost — I’m struggling and that’s okay, even though it’s in a way I never thought I would struggle in again. I know I’m ready to handle this (there’s reason I’m remembering now and I firmly believe that it has to do with my capability to handle it deal with it process it). I think it’s hard cause I’m not where I thought I would be. At all. My life is nothing like I expected it to be and I can’t believe how much changed in couple of months

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You can really tell how badly I’m doing based on my activity here mayb I should graph it

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i feel broken and i hate feeling this way i hate that he did this to me i hate that it’s still happening to me

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anyone could kill me but they dont. i love that. love & trust xx

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EMOTION IS A WAVE

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Hey sorry I’m on mobile and I can’t read all the things that you said to do before messaging you, but I just wanted to say thank you for posting that snippet of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, about the role self thing. It hit me pretty hard and I just grabbed a copy of the audiobook. Just wanted to reach out and let you know your post helped someone!!

oh dont worry there’s nothing you need to do that’s not.. basic human decency. thanks for sending this! i really appreciate it

[theneurotypicals]

any recs for movies that make u cry? i feel like i need a good cry

[silk101]

u kno when every single app on ur phone is so boring and u think what’s the fucking point. What’s the point of any of this shit. Why do we post photos of ourselves online why do we care what strangers are up to. Why do we keep seeking validation from strangers why is this all happening and why does it matter so much to so many of us

[theneurotypicals]

im hungover and SAD!!! and i dont want to be because i dont like the reason (it’s a Girl)

[weisenbachfelded]

soft wlw asks

1. how long have you known you liked girls?

2. talk about the girl who made you realise you liked girls

3. are you in a relationship at the moment?

4. do you have a crush at the moment?

5. describe your crush!

6. do you tend to like more masculine, feminine, or androgynous girls?

7. do you look/dress more masculine, feminine, or androgynous?

8. what’s your gaydar like?

9. tall girls or short girls?

10. intimidating girls or kind girls?

11. hugs or kisses?

12. do you have an ideal ‘type’? what would they be like?

13. what’s your favourite personality trait of yours?

14. what’s your favourite personality trait for a girl to have?

15. what’s the best thing about liking girls?

16. do you have any friends who are wlw?

17. have you ever been to pride? if so, what was your first pride like?

18. do you like the lesbian flag?

19. what was your first kiss with a girl like?

20. who was your celebrity/fictional gay awakening?

21. what’s your favourite lgbt+ movie?

22. who’s your favourite openly wlw celebrity?

23. do you wear makeup?

24. who was the first person you came out to (if you have)?

25. has anyone ever come out to you?

26. have you found a community of lgbt+ people?

27. do you have any older lgbt+ people you look up to?

28. do you identify with butch/femme labels?

29. who’s your favourite fictional wlw?

30. what experiences are you looking forward to having in the future (kissing a girl, going to pride, etc)?

[theneurotypicals]

“It’s crucial that internalizers see their instinctive desire for emotional engagement as a positive thing, rather than interpreting it to mean they’re too needy or dependent. Instinctively turning to others for comfort when stressed makes people stronger and more adaptive. 

Even if they’ve been shamed by an unresponsive parent for needing attention, their emotional needs show that their healthy mammalian instinct for seeking comfort is working well. Internalizers instinctively know that there’s strength in being interdependent, as all mammals evolved to be. 

Only emotionally phobic, emotionally immature people believe that wanting empathy and understanding is a sign of weakness.”

-Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, Lindsay C. Gibson