I don’t really go on tumblr anymore. It kind of blew up my last relationship and then faded from existence for me. But I don’t really know where else to grieve relationships, so…here. It’s not like you’ll find this anyway.
Here are the things I couldn’t say this morning (or that I tried to but wouldn’t come out when I called you to tell you I got home safely).
I think you’re brave, I think you’re strong. I think you’re kind, and you’re patient. You have an incredible sense of boundaries—sometimes too good, and your walls go up, and I would panic as I would try to bring them down. Maybe I’m wrong, but when I got frustrated with you, that’s what I felt like was happening. Me trying to kick down the walls, and you rebuilding them twice as fast and shutting me out. But I can’t shut out the memory of you telling me, “come here,” when you heard me crying last night. I’m trying, but I can’t. I keep crying just thinking about it.
We didn’t really do the cutesy nickname thing. There weren’t a lot of grand gestures in our relationship, just a lot of really great little ones. Little things that I held onto and was like yes. YES. Our relationship was never easy, and maybe it could have never worked out, but there was always that voice in the back of my head going STAY. YES. THIS. And even when there was another voice going “maybe you should cut and run,” that voice still went: FIGHT FOR THIS BOY. SHOW EVERYONE YOU CAN FIGHT FOR THIS. Right up until the moment you said you were done, I fought for you.
You see, I never really fought before. I never really had it in me. I’ve never been a patient person, but you asked me to be patient, and so I waited. I really did. I really gave it my all on this one.
I don’t really know what to do now because you were just a force in my life for the past half year, making me grow and learn, and all of these things that made me stay. It’s not college; I’m not going to run into you at the library or at the coffee shop. You’re kind of just going to disappear. I’m going to disappear.
I want you to know, that I’m jealous of the next girl. She will get a brave, smart, wonderfully kind and amazing guy. Treat her well, give her what you can, love her as much as you are able. I hope she is beautiful inside and out, kind and patient, smart, and a little strong-willed. I hope she loves you well.
Miss you already. And you don’t know this but, love always,