No more relationships for awhile..
I have realized that relationships aren’t for everyone and I think I’m one of those people. Relationships nowadays aren’t fun, they’re full of “what ifs” and “maybe he is…” you never know what a guy is doing while you’re at home chilling or out with friends. I’ve been in relationships and talking to people just for it to end or not go anywhere, that shit gets old! They all ended up doing me dirty, and to top that off.. I had feelings for some of them (not all) but some of them really hurt me. So from now on, I will promise myself that I WILL NOT step foot into another relationship unless…
1. I’m serious about the guy and he’s serious about me.
2. We’ve became friends and gotten to know each other.
3. We’ve been in the “talking” stage for at least a month or two or more. (Or until I’m ready)
4. I’ve figured out whether he’s worth putting up with.
6. I know that he’s fun to be around.
7. I know he’s consistent.
8. He’s not afraid to let his boys know “hey, this is my girl.”
9. He doesn’t mind going on dates.
10. He doesn’t just brush me off when I’m genuinely concerned about something, he’ll talk it out with me until we come to a solution about the issue.
11. He’s willing to wait for me to be ready to get back into a relationship.
12. He treats me like the queen that I am.
15. He’s willing to talk to me about his problems and anything that’s bothering him. So I can try to help.
16. He’s not afraid to show some emotion to let me know “hey, I care about you.”
17. We can talk for HOURS about any and everything and not having to see or hear “Wyd?” Every two minutes! (That blows me)
18. He’s not quick to give up on me because I’m concerned about something or someone.
19. He’s not quick to give up on me PERIOD.
20. He’s sweet, easy to be comfortable around, and easy to be myself around.
These are really just the basics that will let me know “damn, he’s the one.” If I ever find that guy. Yes, some of my standards are high but that’s just because of who I am. I won’t settle for less anymore. I want what I want. And until I receive that, I’ll just be single :) I honestly recommend this to anyone female or male. Just take some time and make a list of things you want in a guy/girl and tell yourself “until I find someone who meets these qualities I WILL NOT step foot into another relationship!” And mean it. Take some time for yourself and get to know YOU! Don’t worry about everyone else getting into relationships! Focus on you!
- The Relationshipista ❤️