thetwistedspecs

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[thetwistedspecs]

Back in the day, or even today, girls are given manuals of conduct. The feminists won't have any of that, but that's a discussion for another day. The number of rapes we have been witnessing is ghastly and spine chilling. But now, I have observed, that the predators do not seem to be biased on the gender of their prey. More and more boys / men too are being raped. And that's even more frightening. This ain't child molestation by pedophiles, but forceful thirst of lust by even minors. What are we heading to? Is it time that boys too should have a conduct manual? Where must ordinary people draw the line? How are the adolescent so aggressive and motivated to commit grave crimes at just an impulse? I'm thoroughly rattled.

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Wisdom is a state of mind which has no parallels to high education!!

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Two consecutive days, two friends, two cities, one profession... The same problem!!

So, I am disturbed, scared and worried. Two really good friends of mine, reeling under similar situations.

Harassment and violence at the behest of in-laws and husband!!

They both had pure arranged marriages and all seemed so fairytale like in the beginning. And now fast forward a few years, they are suffocating in the same marriage because of immense abuse.

What makes me write this is, I'm totally rattled by the fact that my lovely friends, remained quiet all the while before really venting out.

With women centric laws in the country, and many women using them to the disadvantage of their husbands and in-laws, I am a strong supporter of men's rights and an advocate of gender neutrality.

But then there are women like my friends, who just because of tradition, the patriarchal society and their own submissive upbringing, take all the violence in their stride.

Surprising is, both my friends are DOCTORS!! And still they ensued the trauma of the typical dowry, mental turmoil, physical abuse and neglect at the hands of their respective husbands and in-laws.

Now, both want the legal recourse for their and their off springs help, and they shall get it. But that's another long drawn process, a minimum of 5 years before they can sigh some relief.

My advice to people (girls and boys alike) getting married: love or arranged, please get a thorough background check of the family and the prospective groom. Don't be simply swayed by sweet talks and VERIFY all the provided information first hand. Don't give into unnecessary demands of expensive gifts or tours or other things. Any gifts given or any money paid, have bank statements or bills for the same. Don't disclose all your net worth right in the beginning. Any changes in behavior of your spouse and his/her family, speak about it to a close friend or family. Don't suppress information that you think will BACHAO GHAR KI IZZAT.

Don't plan children almost immediately into marriage (many won't agree to this, but it's very practical). Don't let your spouse take objectionable pictures of you.

Most often, people slip into depression because their expectations are ruined and trampled. In case you are going through some war within yourself and no one at your home understands it, confide in a friend or seek professional help.

YOUR LIFE IS PRECIOUS AND YOU ARE NO ONE'S TOY.

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After the storm

The winds of agony stop blowing,

The rains of disdain stop pattering,

The thunders of heart aches stop echoing,

The peace screams after the storm.

The silent wailing,

The dreams that were left sailing,

The hopes that went flying,

The silence shrieks after the storm.

The hearts mourning,

The souls weeping,

The minds confunding,

The still yelps after the storm.

The sun is shining,

The time is ticking,

The heart lub-dubing,

The hope gusts after the storm.

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"when u feel like doing anything do it, irrespective of the fact, u may be right or wrong...@inner_thoughts

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If oppression becomes a habit, denial to oppression is termed as rebellion!!

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Being first or last is based on relativity.

Never undermine yourself thinking you are last!!

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Chasing mirages doesn't fetch water.

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"Mere resonation of a fallacy doesn't deem it a truth. "

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Look within!

We have reached a stage, where everyone is busy finding flaws and faults in the other. Be it looks, ideology, dressing, food sense, religion etc. the list is endless. It's practically everything under the sun including the sun of course is on target.

Criticism is great. It helps fill lacunae and address problem areas. But constantly bickering about something is a bothersome attitude.

Everyone these days complains of growing intolerance on different fronts and we see and hear cases of violence for various reasons.

Has anyone pondered why is it that each one is blood thirsty of the other? What's going wrong or where is everyone going wrong?

The answer is simple. We are finding flaws in others instead of correcting ourselves and our own surroundings. Most of us are guilty as charged. We are constantly hitting at someone's negative whilst just sleeping over the issues we have within ourselves.

It's high time everyone sees the mirror, else we are determined to bring our own doom.

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Where are you coming from?

Every individual is different. I’d say unique. Unique in a million ways and distinct from the rest of the population. 

But again, we being distinct, yet so similar as we have the same colour of blood and the same or similar genome codes.

So what makes us different is something to ponder upon.

Have you ever scratched the inner grooves and ridges of the largest central processing unit bestowed by nature, that why a criminal is a criminal, a saint a holy man or your mother so affectionate?

The answer very much lies in where we come from. Not the geographical latitudinal longitudinal assertions, but what has come into our incorporation since the time we open our windows to the world until the time we in real terms comprehend and distinguish the good from bad and virtue from vice.

If one is a sadist, or a habitual offender or a generous being it says a lot about who they are and where they are coming from.

Your character is a mirror image of your inner being. Keep it clean and dusted else it reeks of filth if cluttered with the worldly vices.

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CHEW BEFORE YOU SPIT, REFLECT BEFORE YOU PERCEIVE!!

Every day, I come across a number of people. People from all walks of life. People good and bad. And with them, comes their perception!

Passe are those days when the ‘First Impression made the Last Impression’. In this age of evolution, the pace of changes occurring merely at nano and picoseconds, those ‘perceptions’ also keep fluctuating.

Many a time, at the very first glimpse, possibilities are that the people who you come across being the judgemental beings themselves take pride in underestimating you. The lucid reason - you do not catch their eye, or precisely your physical attributes fail to ring a bell in their so called ever diminishing mass of dendrites and ganglia!!

That ultimately leads to a crime, yes indeed I call it a crime - Underestimation!!

There are two types of underestimation (I know, sounds like a subject in school). First, mental. Second, verbal. The mental type is when this category of people, at your first impression put a red stamp on your identity in their semi-solid wobbling mass burdening their shoulders. And the verbal types, a step ahead, blurt it out on your face and can put anyone to shame in their high profile unworthy filth overflowing from the brim of their lips.

As prudent as it may sound, a book is never to be judged by its cover and so is a human by how he portrays himself. There is a high probability that an ingenious mind exists beneath a tattered overall and a nincompoop draped in fortune costing apparel. 

Lastly, even a sense of underestimation in your persona only signifies and elucidates your mettle. So beware, to have the right taste of words you utter or have an apt picture before you perceive.

Therefore I say ‘Chew before you spit, reflect before you perceive.’

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Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold, happiness dwells in the soul.

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THE DAWN OF HOPE!!

Hope is what keeps the world going... Hope is born where expectations are nurtured... But the same hope dies an unnatural death when people turn their backs on you...

The storm of life that one faces is his own ordeal... How can you expect others to understand it?? The world is full of arrogant, insensitive, hedonistic idiots...

If I speak less then I observe much more, If I mix less then I definitely don't want to indulge in futile conversations, If I do not react easily then it's my humility stopping me from insulting someone...

The rabbit underestimated the tortoise, his overconfidence destroyed his triumph...

Making a noise is an act of the animals, humans should first reflect and then utter their words with great care...

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The Code of Ethics

Part - I

Ethics!! Indeed ethics!! The whole world is wagging their tongue and trying to give a lesson on ethics.

Is there a need to codify ethics? Or have they been codified already? I guess not!

As complicated and tough it may sound ethics simply mean the way to behave. Isn’t that simple? Ahh no. Not as simple as scratching in public. (well this too is a part of ethics)

So who made these ethics? And how did they come into being? Who dictates the immaculacy of these ethics? Is every act subject to have been first through a Q.C ethics check?

I know it's a legion of questions with possibly very vague answers. 

Ethics are what make us. The basic fabric of our existence lies webbed up in these ethics which are either innate, inherited, cultured or beaten up so well into you so that they refuse to leave your incorporation. Remember those Value Education and Moral Science classes in school? Tell no lies, hear no lies, sharing is caring, love thy neighbor etc. kind of preachings which we supposedly only learned to scrap away the book beneath a pile of more unwanted junk and there went the whole lot of ethics into the garbage.

Every lip has a murmur of peace in a time where blood slays blood. Isn't this paradox? How do we even get close to the ‘pea’ of peace when we ourselves let the very ethics pass on to a filthy stinking pile of dump. And then expect all of the world to exist in love, amity and peace when our own hearts and souls are stinking foul with the worldly lust, mire, avarice and what not.

Every step you take, there is ethics involved. From how you conduct yourself with yourself to your conduct with family, acquaintances, friends and of course the professional sphere and not to forget the world at large - now evidently seen as social media.

The outcome of every encounter in our life is solely founded on our ‘response’ to it which has its crux in the morals and values imbibed into us. And here is where the ‘Making of an Individual’ comes into play. We are taught to excuse ourselves when we sneeze but there co-exist such sons of Adam too who would just rub off their slimy phlegm onto a wall or someone’s pants. Sounds gross right? No, there is more gross and ribald stuff existing which you may not want to even fathom. 

This is the time to put on our thinking hats and roll our minds and dig up the long ago buried ethics and make the only world we have a better place to dwell.

Or else be prepared to take some gooey sticky mass, if not blood stained clothes, home.