The Life of Violet

A collection of thoughts, ideas and photos that depict my soul.

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Changes

I’ve been growing lately. I’ve been practicing mindfulness each day to help regulate my emotions, and react positively to all situations. I find I am my best self while practicing meditation, yoga and spirituality. Daily meditations give me clarity to be present.Yoga has become such a relaxing ritual for me. My best days begin and end with yoga. I find it eases my body into starting the day with a peaceful wake up, and ending the day with relaxation. Spirituality is where I build my foundation. I’ve read the entire Bible, and now I’m on a journey to study it; the more I devour it, the more I realize there’s so much more to learn. I’m fascinated by miracles, events beyond all understanding and how everything is mapped out. I’m curious to see how I will grow in the next 6 months, where this wandering journey will take me.

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Walking

Yesterday, we entered a new phase. After a couple months of crawling, H took her first steps yesterday! This little girl proceeded to clap for herself after we all cheered. She’s so precious.

So if you’re wondering why I haven’t been posting, I’m currently living the mom life, and loving every minute.

XOXO

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Saturday Morning w the Babes

It’s absurdly early for a Saturday, but as I sit here drinking my coffee I can hear H and Iz talking. H is squealing, and babbling, Iz is laughing, Roo is curled up in the bed sleeping. They’re playing together, and I’m able to take a moment to appreciate all that I have, the things I used to pray for. I will never take these Saturday mornings for granted. My heart is full.

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9 Months

I love her hazel eyes, red hair and the soft dimple on her cheek. 

I love when she smiles you can see five dainty teeth, and the coffee table is forever marked by them. 

I love that she’s chunky; rolls fall on her arms, legs and torso.

I love her vocabulary is always expanding but my favourite word she says is “mama.”

I love when she wrinkles her nose as she’s breathing in and out quickly when she’s angry.

I love that she’s expressive with her emotions, her eyebrows give it all away.

There’s a million things I could list that I love about H. Here’s to 9 months of loving her.

xoxo

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After 5 years

We met 5 years ago. Here are 5 things I learned along the way:

-the right man will change for the right woman. Brock changed so much when he had heard my expectations for a future mate. 5 years later and he’s still the man of my dreams.

-dating is totally different when there’s a kid involved. I thought it wasn’t that big of a deal that Brock came with a little girl. We played it safe and didn’t date until we were sure about one another in order to protect her from getting attached. When we started dating things were different; we had to plan who would babysit so that we could have alone time.

-being engaged and not living together is uncommon. People often gave us weird looks or blatantly judged us for not living together to “see if you’re compatible.” We knew we wanted to keep somethings private for when we got married - living together was one of them.

-being married to someone who is the exact opposite of you is challenging. We are polar opposites in many ways, however we align on the core values. I have lots of friends and Brock has a solid few. But we both see the value in spending time with our friends. I love the clean, Brock doesn’t, but we both tidy the house together because we enjoy living in a clean environment.

-he is legitimately my best friend. There’s nobody who knows me like Brock. The curves of my body, the slight in my tone, the music I use for hype, the movies I cry to, or the dance moves I perform during short car rides. He knows me, all the parts of who I am.

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isolation||solitude

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Xoxoxo

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Reading

I recently read an article shaming parents who let their kids have tablets instead of books. First of all, the parenting shaming game is to be reserved for parents who are abusive, manipulative, dangerous, and harmful to their children. Secondly, there is absolutely nothing wrong with children understanding technology - this is a technically advanced society we live in. My kid has her own tablet, smart watch, tv, and access to a Switch, Xbox and PS4. She’s brilliant, and playing video games is her way of bonding with both of us. During our drives to school, she tells me the latest Mario level she’s stuck on, or what she’s built in Minecraft. However, I firmly believe children should be taught the love of reading as it’s so good for the soul. It’s a mental escape and moment of peace. My children, although small but mighty, love to read. Iz has really taken to reading, it’s another activity her and I bond over. H loves being read to, especially by her big sister. The two of them crawl into Iz’s bed or on the couch and Iz reads to H. I absolutely love it.

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Found this accurate little gem 💎

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Happy Valentine’s Day xoxo

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Stay warm + cozy.

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Saturday’s

I clean my house daily. I vacuum every 2-3 days or extra if needed. My dishwasher is running at least 1-2 times a day, and I do a load of laundry every single day. But on days like Saturday’s — especially when it’s freezing cold out, I do a deep clean. I wash all the light switches, door handles, cupboards, microwave, baseboards, both bathrooms top to bottom, and crank the jams while I’m doing it. Every Sunday, I strip our beds and wash the sheets. An hour of deep cleaning is therapeutic because it’s a chance to get out of my head, and make my home feel brighter + lighter.

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Honour Yourself

Honour your inner most vulnerable self. For me it means:

-Opening my bible app daily to start off the day with Jesus

-Listen intently to the same song that creates a vibe, currently Touch by Tianda

-Painting when I’m too in my head

-Reading depressing books when I need to honour the sadness that's lingering, currently Before I Let You Go by Kelly Rimmer

-Journaling when I want to remember the moment, day, feeling

-Aromatherapy FOR EVERYTHING! Diffusers, candles, scentsy warmers = whatever is going to give me the scent for the mood, currently brewing unwind from Saje

-Reading poetry to connect to my melancholic soul current addiction Homebody by Rupi Kaur

-Drinking coffee with my dad for comfort

-Dancing in the shower or kitchen when I’m feeling myself

-Lipstick for the extra bad ass bitch days

-Meditation for clarity and mindfulness, CALM app works wonders

-Collecting vinyl for visual comfort

-Taking photos for nostalgia

Just honour who you are. Love yourself so fiercely that your confidence is not defined by anyone else. Be your most authentic self because that’s what draws people in and you’ll be happier because of it. 

XOXO

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Ask for help

Today started out with a headache and a bad mood. I lacked all motivation. Slowly, I gathered myself, did a bit of housework and before I knew it, I was inspired. I began to complete my Sunday tasks like stripping the beds + washing all the bedding. Upon reflection, I was in a bad mood because I had that shitty mom-guilt of asking for help. Once my husband saw me cleaning, he jumped in and within an hour the entire house was spotless, candles burning and fresh sheets were on their way! 

Don’t be too proud to ask for help, just do it because the second help arrived I felt encouraged to face these huge tasks that I had lacked motivation towards. Now that the day is coming to a close, I feel super proud of the team my hubby + I are. We accomplished so much. I even reorganized my bathroom + make up display -- a task I had been putting off for a couple months. It’s ok to lean on your partner. 

Don’t feel bad asking for help when you’re overwhelmed.

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Monday Mood

Did the mom thing and drove everyone to their destinations, came home, turned on some jams, made a smoothie and now I’m dancing while I clean the house. This Monday morning is off to a great start 👌

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Morning affirmations

Found this on a social:

In case you forgot to remind yourself this morning... Your butt is perfect. Your smile lights up a room. Your mind is insanely cool. You are way more than enough. And you are doing an amazing job at life.

Xoxo

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2021

Hi my loves! It’s 2021! Happy New Year! I just wanted to start off this year with gratitude.

2020 was a game changer, to say the least. It was also the year that the Lord strengthened my resiliency, confidence and I learned a lot about myself.

For 2021, my resolution is to say YES! more often. I want to push past my comfort zone and experience life a little differently. On top of my resolution I made monthly, weekly and daily goals for myself.

Monthly: read one book per month. Starting off January by finishing the current novel I’m on. *book review ahead*

Weekly: actively attend church either in person or online - this is something I started doing back in November and it’s propelled my faith even more by getting connected in my community.

Daily: continue building my relationship with Jesus by reading my bible, meditating, and listening to worship.

Lastly, I’d like to pray for you.

Dear Heavenly Father, I pray for whoever is reading this. That you would bring them joy, and healing in this new year. Lord, I ask that they would feel inspired and hopeful for the future. May this year draw us close to you, and may this be our best year yet! Amen!

Xoxoxo