My Third Attempt

My name is Ella. I'm 29 (let's face it, I'm not anymore, was when I started this blog, not wanting to update this text very often so let's say 30ish), originally from Sweden, lived in San Francisco for a couple of years, and now planning to start a decent family life in Finland. I have my past, or depending on how you count them - two pasts, which haven't entirely let me go. At least not yet. This blog is an outlet for my other side that I'm deliberately not entirely liberating in my current (hopefully) final relationship. I'm highly sexual but also, admittedly, quite moody from time to time. I'm both submissive and dominating, nice and naughty, shy and kinky. I'm happy with my very good-looking man and his successful career, and happy with my own position as a corporate lawyer. But there are certain urges and feelings that I've decided, for now, to keep away from where I live. And that's why I'm having this blog. Updating occasionally, reblogging more often. I'm going to be dead honest here and I hope I can find someone to share that with. Kisses ;)

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Oh my... :p

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Mornings with you. 

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One of my dreams for so long has been this road trip with my boyfriend... A week or two, just driving across my birthland in southern Sweden... Gaining new experiences... Enjoying each others... Meeting new people... Maybe inviting some of them to our van for the night... So many nice erotic thoughts come to my mind... :)

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New leggings ;)

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I do like those leggings...:) I’m guessing it’s time for a quick workout...

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That special feeling... The need for something...

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Pretty... :)

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Ohh... she would definitely qualify as our girlfriend...

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Oh I'm way past that... :D :D

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Baby... I know you would like to watch some porn on your day off... Of course you can... Just make sure it's the best kind... The kind that turns you on beyond any limits... You need to text me about your feelings while I'm at work... I will keep the key on my desk so I remember it all the time...

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There are bold, confident, sexy girls and then there are girls like her... Wow... She's awesome...

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mmm... and some stress relief for my boyfriend too... Now that I think of it, it actually does exactly that... The focus and the intensity take your mind far someplace else... I love to be his stress release girl... :)

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👗💞🌹MY LESBIAN LOVE 🌹💞👗

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This has to be one of the sexiest kisses I’ve seen

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Ohhh... so sexy... I need a girl kiss... today...

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We have talked about this... There is something about this that intrigues me... Keeping him caged while I have sex with someone else... So he would take it all in and only focus on what I am doing... I would be controlling him in the moment even if I’m focusing on someone else for a little while... It would not be about humiliation but about teasing him... and it would be about power play... 

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Found this, I think one could turn it around for it to be about a girl asking... :)

...have to admit, I don’t know all the answers my boyfriend would give... Will definitely use this in the future.. :)

Swinging Pervie's quick guide to knowing your girl's kinks

ask your girl’s opinion on the following, on a fantasy scale 1-5, where

1 is "it's ok but only if you really want it",  3 "gets me quite started", and 5 "yes and oh my fucking yes!" (secret option 0: “I don't know enough on the subject to form an opinion")

You tell me details about your previous boyfriends and how you had sex

I tell you details about my earlier girlfriends and how I fucked them

I fuck your mouth

You ride my face

I fuck your ass

You fuck my ass

You fuck another guy and tell me about it

I fuck another girl and tell you about it

You have sex with another girl and tell me about it

I have sex with another guy and tell you about it

We have sex somewhere in public

You tell me how good it feels to have another guy's cock inside you while you are fucking him

I tell you how tight and wet her pussy feels when I'm fucking another girl

We kiss each other as I fuck another girl

We kiss each other as you fuck another guy

I watch another girl lick your wet pussy

I watch you lick another girl's wet pussy

You watch me suck another guy's hard cock

You watch another guy suck my hard cock

Another girl asks (or demands) you to lick her pussy

You ask (or demand) another girl to lick your pussy

You get a(nother) body piercing if I ask you to

You ask me to get something (else) pierced

You get a(nother) tattoo if I ask you to

You ask me to get a(nother) tattoo

You have a cock in your pussy and your ass at the same time

You get paid for having sex with someone

You make another girl wet and ready for me

I make another guy hard and ready for you

I lick your pussy while another guy is fucking you

You lick another girl's pussy when I'm fucking her

I cum in a another's girl's pussy and you lick it afterwards to taste me in her

Another guy cums in your pussy and I lick it afterwards to taste him in you

Mine and someone else’s cum mixed in your pussy

You masturbate when I tell you to

I masturbate when you tell me to

I walk up on you fucking another guy

You walk up on me fucking another girl

We fuck another couple

Your ex joins us

My ex joins us

You are the center of attention of several guys

You make another guy cum in your mouth and kiss me afterwards

I lick another girl’s pussy and kiss you tasting like her

I make you blindfolded and use you as I please

You make me blindfolded and use me as you please

You ask me to put my cock in a cage and focus on your pleasure

You wear a wearable toy in public (such as a butt plug or a vibrator)

I wear a wearable toy in public (such as a butt plug or a cage)

You spank me

I spank you

I have you tied up

You have me tied up

I put gag on you

You put gag on me

We make the ones next door hear us fucking

Leather in bedroom

PVC in bedroom

We make a private movie

We make a private movie and show it to someone

We fuck in front of someone else

We watch someone else fuck in front of us

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There's one more gift yet to be given... :)

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Boys... I need both of you to make love to me... now... Let’s go...!

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Absolutely breathtaking... very sensual... just right...

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Sex hints for experimental couples - please add your own :)

Dear fellow Tumblrs :)

I’m in desperate need for new ideas to try out… :o Please reblog and add your own verified challenges and plays that could do the trick. Below a couple of examples of that have really worked for us :p

 Ella

 Challenges that are guaranteed to spark things up:

-Sexual food for the mind every day for two weeks. Half an hour or so, every day, both of you use online for dirty sites, blogs, image galleries, video sites,… Take it as a learning journey. Expand your horizon. Important: you don’t need to be aroused before or after your expedition - you are there to be exposed. Ideas: explore what kind of sex toys are out there, find erotic stories, watch bisexual videos, find out about real life sex parties & life style, etc etc

 (we do this quite often nowdays and it works so well each and every time!)

Kinky plays that are definitely worth trying - they take your sexual encounters to the next level:

 -Masturbation. Use a toy or a finger on yourself and the other watches. Help yourself to climax. Include playing with your anal (him as well).

 (we got this tip from somewhere and the point when both of us got over the embarrassment… Wow, intense experiences..)

 -During a night devoted just for you two: He cums in a condom. Later, when things have heated up again empty the condom on her pussy (or breasts if you cannot do that) and you play that she has just returned from her lover…

 (I would do this every time there is a chance… :p I love it! We have also had this version where he would cum deep in my pussy and I would keep it there for further use…:p)

 -Record a video of you playing with yourself, and better yet, cumming, and send it (or show) to the other. Explicit or not.

 (I haven’t sent anything but have shown him how I’ve pleasured myself watching erotic clips… He sent me the hottest thing ever back… I’ve learned that recording myself alone is very intriguing… :D)

-Get yourself a cock cage. Lock him up for some previously agreed on hours. Better if you are spending some quality time together somewhere, eg. in a hotel.

(We haven’t yet tried it but I have already spent a couple of euros for a cage.. Should receive it soon.. I’m intrigued to have him do things to me locked up and unable to pleasure himself. Expanding this experiment to strapon play maybe some day… :p)

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Update and note to myself: we have experimented with the cage now and it was hoooooottt!!! Wow, we did like normal things while he was wearing it and suddenly everything became very sexual on a deep, psychological way… :p I do find sex mostly something that happens in your head - and the physical acts are just to feed the psychological side. Sometimes it’s just hard to remember when you are busy at work and it’s raining…

We spent the weekend celebrating, went to a wedding, went to a bar afterwards, spent a night in a nice hotel room… He would do favors for me… Focus on my pleasure… We played this game where he would need to work for his release… And then finally he was rewarded… ;) Oh boy, we will do this often from now on :p He tried to extend the idea to me wearing a butt plug but I’m not yet sure who will be the one wearing it… :D Damn I’m bad :D

But in any case it was him first already talking about the next time… :)

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A couple of ideas inspired by some messages sent to me, marking them down here so I can recall them later when they are needed… ;)

-the other one gives a theme and the other tells a wet fantasy about that. Fully clothed, no touching allowed. (this can be continued for many days and also done in public places. A learning trip to each other’s fantasy world.)

-he helps her put on a strap on. Very slowly, with lots of eye contact. She caresses his face with it when he’s kneeling. He tastes it. She puts it in and out of his mouth slowly. (I feel this is about getting to really feel your emotions and not be embarrassed by them)

-he blindfolds her and gently ties her up. He makes her pose for him. He places a ball gag in her mouth. Use a lot of time. Don’t rush but just let her start dripping. Maybe whip her gently. (Again, it’s very much about going deeper than just physical contact)

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So... an update and for me to remember :)

-three times helping yourself: Within a week, both of you masturbate three times and the other one gets to decide when. You can decide whether the other can watch or not. Rules:

1st time, you edge yourself as close to orgasm as possible but do not cum. At least 15-20 minutes or longer if needed. You develop a fantasy that you share with your spouse immediately after not cumming.

2nd time, the same but the other gets to decide on how it is done. Maybe some toys, piece of clothing, position, mirror,... Again, no cumming + sharing a little story afterwards.

3rd time. Like 2nd time but now added with actually going over the top. Share what finally triggered the orgasm.

-a week of submission and dominance. For one week, you stick to a more a submissive role, and for one week to a more dominant role.

His week in a dominant role: he uses her as often as he wants, the way he wants. He may tie her up, ask her to entertain him. He may want her mouth or pussy, anal maybe. She wears pretty things for him. She asks if she could give him a blowjob. She makes sure he knows she wants him to use her. She is his slut for the week.

Her week in a dominant role: she uses him as often as she likes, the way she likes. It can also be non-sexual - cleaning, dishing, massaging,... She may ask him to wear a cage to make a statement that it is about her pleasure, not his. He asks if he is allowed to give her oral pleasure. She may peg him, possible while caged. She may ask him to entertain her. She may want to tie him up. He is her servant for the week.