[thisfitna]

I’m beyond regretful for the way I’ve been. Hurting some of the most important people in my life, particularly one person getting the brunt of it. They weren’t deserving of it. I know it’s stemming from pain, frustration, & anger with everything that’s happening around me (my therapist pointed it out to me). Which is no excuse to act the way I did. I hate it when I let any of these emotions overtake me, because I say hurtful things that I truly don’t mean. Generally when I experience these emotions, I’m quieter than usual to process these or just cry them out, but instead lately I was exploding. I was taking out my frustration/anger in the wrong way.

This isn’t me - I’m not one to cause pain or show disrespect. I’m a soft, sensitive, & gentle person at my core. I’m disgusted with the things I’ve said, they weren’t okay no matter how angry I was nor do they reflect my values. I’m working on all of my flaws. Only changed behavior is the way to go.

[lesbiandomesticity]

we speak gently to each other, always. we encourage, we support, we love, we tell the truth. our words have weight and meaning and tenderness reserved specifically for each other. you’ll tell me when i’m wrong, but you won’t belittle me. i’ll ask you for what i need, but i won’t pressure you. we communicate, constantly. the sound of your voice becomes my favorite sound. even the worst news can still make me feel safe and loved.

[kintay]

A poem, an exercise in omitting letters.

by Thomas Penny

[futuresabove]

Jeanette Winterson on Substack

[nothingbutloveforyou]

i think waiting together is a love language. wait for the train with me, so we can talk a little longer. wait for dinner with me, we can slow dance in the kitchen. wait for me until i can talk after crying my eyes out, hold me, we will figure it out. wait for me when it gets rough, i know i can get through this (with you). wait for me in the car, this song is too good to not finish listening to it. wait for the first snow with me, cold red noses and bright eyes. lets wait for each other, i love you.

[zilliondollarpussy]

My lover and I actively seek understanding that increases empathy and creating a sense of connection and healing between us so the same patterns and issues stop coming up time and time again.

[weltenwellen]

Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

[smiles-advice]

going to therapy is nothing to be ashamed of. actively seeking help and working on yourself is so brave and healthy

[javarisx-fightingthosedemons]

[xoxosvwgg]

Y’all should understand by now that communication goes a long way. It’s too fucking easy but y’all insist on complicating shit. “It’s not always about you” may very well be true, but it’s giving throwing fault at the other person.

[thisfitna]

It’s all about communication, yet most people don’t know how do that anymore // it’s easier to come off cold (whether they mean it or not) than to explain.

[weltenwellen]

Anaïs Nin, The Early Diary of Anaïs Nin, 1923–1927

[slfcare]

Our minds are naturally really good at envisioning worst case scenarios and worrying about problems before they’ve ever happened. And since it comes from your own head, of course it’ll feel like truth. But the actual probability of something going exactly the way you think it will is very low. Next time you keep yourself awake with nightmares conjured up by your fear, try to think of it like this, “I cannot predict the future, much less in the state I’m in right now,” and trust that the reality of things will be much more indifferent (and maybe even much kinder) to you than you are to yourself.

[fairydrowning]

When Edgar Allen Poe said "I remained too much inside my head and ended up losing my mind". I felt that.

[weltenwellen]

Resmaa Menakem, My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies

[weltenwellen]

Beverly Engel, Healing Your Emotional Self

[quotemadness]

“The cost of not following your heart is spending the rest of your life wishing you had.”

— Unknown

[djklmnx]

couples in healthy relationships also argue, have different opinions, feel frustrated, insecure and bored at times. healthy doesn’t mean perfect. what makes a relationship perfect is HOW you choose to move through those challenges TOGETHER

[thisfitna]

No one notices your sadness & no one notices your tears. But everyone notices once it turns into anger & frustration.