Because This is My First Life

Love had the reason that reason does not understand

[shitstheysaid]

[heartou]

“I miss her. Today, I lost what would have been… my one and only love”

[philomaela]

[paper-box]

- Ji Ho-yah, I love you. - I love you too.

[captainjoongki]

[kakenaku]

Because it’s my first life: Episode 15

“I envy you because you’ve seen him cry. I have never seen him show any emotions.”

[leekangdoo]

Do you realize how much I missed you? Do you realize how hard it was for me? Are you smiling now? Why? You made me go crazy. You even made me sell my apartment. How can you smile now?

[paper-box]

Thank you… for opening your room 19.

[leekangdoo]

[sseuregis]

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[taye-x]

If I had to list all things about Because This Is My First Life and all it’s little low-key gender role swaps that I’d love, we’d be here forever. But indulge me while I talk about my absolute favourite: Se Hee’s 'ottoke’ moment.

I’m sure you’ve all seen it before,when something happens to a character and they’re at their wit’s end they ask themselves “어떡해?” (or 어떡하지 in BTIMFL’s case) roughly translating to “what do I do?”. It’s an admission of helplessness and self-doubt that’s 9 out 10 times forced onto the female characters, even if those characters are self-confident and headstrong girls who really have no place saying such a thing. If we take the expression ‘at your wit’s end’ literally, many kdrama writers would have us believe that these leads don’t have much wit at all, seeing as they have such a hard time thinking independently and solving their own problems.

Ji Ho never has an ‘ottoke’ moment. Not when she realizes her feelings for Se Hee, not when she meets his ex, not when she gives up writing. Not even when she’s almost sexually abused. Ji Ho is always confident in herself and her decisions, even when she’s not confident in herself or her decisions. She may not know what to do, but she knows that she’ll be able to figure it out for herself. 

Instead this drama gives the line to Se Hee. However, his ‘ottoke’  wasn’t a ‘I don’t know what to do’ so much as it was as ‘I don’t know what to do now’.  Because he tried to work out his problem for himself. His problem was that Ji Ho was leaving, and his solution was….to let her make her own decisions.

2017 has been a great year for feminist dramas, but Because It’s My First Life really does take the cake

[denose]

‘What matters is spending time with the person next to you, right this moment, no matter what. That’s why even today, we just focus on loving each other.’

[denose]

😎

[denose]

😂

He gave Ji Ho a kiss over the phone and the reactions are hilarious 

[oshiri-sisters]

[denose]

[eunjiswife]

Watching Because This Is My First Life has honestly been one of the greatest experiences in my life. I don’t think I’ve ever enjoyed a show, at least a kdrama, as much as I did this one. It’s taught me so much about love, life and human nature. I don’t think I can accurately articulate everything that made this show so amazing but one of my favorite things was the authenticity of it all. The characters were so real and honest and flawed. All of that made them all the more perfect, somehow. I want to really take a moment to applaud the writing, which was so so sooo well done. It brought the plot and characters to life in such a way that I found myself sympathizing with people and story-lines that I didn’t even necessarily agree with. And the cast was ahhhmazing. Every single one of them did so well. I really appreciated what all the couples represented and the trajectory each took. Horang and Wonseok had a pretty turbulent relationship and I wasn’t always sold on it. But both of them showed so much growth by the end and I’m so proud of both of them. Suji and Sanggu I was also a little skeptical about but they turned out to be such a fantastic couple. Both so strong and intelligent, albeit in different ways. It made me so happy to see them bring out the best in each other and stand by each other. And Sehee and Jiho. Wow. Where do I start? They. Are. Perfection. The best in every way possible. Ironically, both of them are so flawed. But they both grew up so much during the show. Jiho finally became the striker she was always meant to be. Sehee learned to love, but even better, he let himself believe that he deserved to be loved. They caused so many positive changes in each other. and despite the bumps in the road, they had by far one of the healthiest, most respectful relationships I have ever seen. Everyone went through so much and seeing them all happy at the end just made me so happy that it doesn’t even make sense. This is bittersweet because I’m saying goodbye to something so good and characters that weirdly seem like old friends. But I’ve enjoyed this show so much that even that pain is worth it. Goodbye, Because This Is My First Life. You truly were the best.

Lastly, I want to thank everyone else who watched and posted on tumblr and made gifs and reblogged my gifs and just the whole community. Spazzing out together was a huge part of what made this experience fun for me so for that, I thank you all!  ♡ ♡ ♡