Thoughts and tunes

20s | this is kind of like a diary but I am trying to use my actual physical diary more instead these days. welcome if you managed to find this! if you know whose sideblog this is no you don't lol

[fairycosmos]

you literally have to unironically listen to some shit like party rock anthem so you don’t kill yourself

[fairycosmos]

you literally have to unironically listen to some shit like party rock anthem so you don’t kill yourself

[fairycosmos]

you literally have to unironically listen to some shit like party rock anthem so you don’t kill yourself

[thoughts-n-tunes]

*doubled over on the ground, tearing at my hair and coughing up blood* no yeah I bit the bullet and communicated my feelings in a straightforward and mature fashion. *fantasizes about chewing my arm off like a coyote in a steel trap*

[thoughts-n-tunes]

Currently on a quest to continue developing bodyweight and cardio exercise as a self-regulatory coping mechanism. I've been really successful with it this week – I've been able to redirect a lot of my overwhelming emotions and/or intrusive thoughts by taking a moment to get up and move (mostly wall pushups or a quick stint on my stationary bike desk). Getting up earlier to fit in a warmup and some calisthenics before work has helped me feel a lot more even-keel throughout the day as well.

I'm hoping to recreate my success with developing language learning as a coping mechanism/form of escapism. Every day I am grateful to my past self for turning to skill development as a distraction back then instead of something maladaptive/harmful, and I want to give future me the same kind of gift.

[thoughts-n-tunes]

save me nonstop dance music mixes. nonstop dance music mixes save me

[despazito]

Sometimes I'll be looking at bullshit online that I know will just rile me up and I have to think of this image to get myself to stop

[meanbuddhist]

identifying a maladaptive coping mechanism is so bitter sweet like that’s great now i know what i need to stop doing. but that’s literally my something

[zerotian]

it's disorienting when you beat me with a shovel

[stuckinapril]

most freeing thing ever is practicing the phrase “they do it to themself” like as someone who used to bend over backward to keep people comfortable, and who literally felt guilty establishing boundaries around people’s behavior, it’s a new ball game being able to admit that they literally cause you to distance yourself and that if they just tweaked a few things you wouldn’t need to establish the boundaries you did. like it’s okay to admit people play a hand in your reaction to them that they can change if they really wanted you around. there’s no reason why the brunt of understanding and empathizing should be on you. never lose your empathy by any means (people these days are too caustic) but it’s also okay not to have to put yourself through the wringer for someone who’s not willing to go through the discomfort of self reflection for you

[pisshandkerchief]

i must not kill myself . killing myself is the myself killer

[gaysie]

t shirt that says I MISS EVERYONE I WAS EVER FLEETINGLY CLOSE TO SO MUCH THAT IT KILLS

[kosmogrl]

[maxxie-or-smth]

you've met me at a very "yeah i'm trying to work on that" time in my life

[helperhoopoe]

remember to cry for help without guilt-tripping. i know it feels like you’ve been abandoned and betrayed, but it’s probably not true, and it’s not okay to accuse the people around you of something they might not have done.

“i guess none of you like me” could be better phrased as “i feel unloved right now”

“but nobody cares anyway” could be better phrased as “i feel insignificant and i need reassurance”

rather than assuming others’ feelings, give them time to explain them. you’ll usually get a much better answer.

[randomslasher]

This is really important for future predictions, too. “You’re eventually going to leave me” is impossible for someone else to disprove without just sticking around forever, but no one wants to stick around when they’re being constantly accused of future abandonment. Giving someone no choice but to either stay with you forever in order to prove you wrong or leave you and prove you right is incredibly emotionally manipulative, whether you mean it to be or not.

“I get scared sometimes because I’m afraid of being alone again” is easier to address and doesn’t leave your partner(s)/friend(s) feeling as though they’re being preemptively accused of something.  

[isaipoet]

a listener need a listener too—

[lilyblisslys]

there should be a cool, chill way to say things like “I’m struggling” or “I’m having a hard time” that doesn’t imply you might have needs