For a long, long time I used to always be the mysterious "other woman." The only reason why I have decided to write this is because I am not about that life anymore and haven't been about it for a long time. Getting an up close and personal, very personal, inside look on who the mysterious "other woman" is. Please do not get offended as I am here to help you, not hurt you.
Before I get started though I would first like to point out that no, I do not ever date guys that are involved with another woman. I could get any guy I want so I don't ever really bother with trying to "steal" someone else's man away from them. That is one thing I never do! However, if I am single, bored, and YOUR MAN is the one chasing me and I'm just interested in sex and I have no idea who you are... then I wouldn't really give a damn if he and I fucked because that's all it is to me. Meaningless sex, but sometimes for the guy I have noticed it is something a little more than just that. Here's some of the reasons why men cheat from what I have been able to observe:
* Their wives or girlfriends are no longer satisfying them in the bedroom and along the way somehow you went from being their fantasy dream girl to their mother, and believe me, no guy is interested in dating his mother. You must remember that no matter how long you've been together or how comfortable you feel with one another, that keeping the spark going and the passion alive is just as important or most important factor in keeping the relationship working. It takes some work, but if you love each other that's what you'll have to work on. Less nagging, more confidence building, and keep it sexy in the bedroom!
* Your man feels defeated and just wants someone to talk to... someone to connect with temporarily so he can get away from the daily stresses and responsibilities that you have put upon him... all while never showing him any appreciation for his efforts. He feels unappreciated so he runs to someone like me who will build up his confidence again. Who is a friend to lend an ear. To listen to him, to make him feel like even if for a moment, that he is someone special. Most guys will never go off and admit these things or say this because they fear it's not a "manly" thing to do, but this is definitely another reason why men cheat so they can find an escape to build themselves back up again after you've beat them down so badly.
* Sometimes it's just out of pure loneliness as well. So perhaps you should give you man a little more attention and show him some appreciation. Change the way you nag at him and try something different and see how he will respond to it. Nobody wants to feel like shit and most people tend to respond more positively when they are addressed positively.
* Sometimes there are just guys out there that are douche bags. They have a good woman at home but for some reason they still stray. This is just part of some people's nature I guess, and I am sorry to say this, but it's just the truth. Some guys just want to have their cake and eat it too and these are the types of guys that you need to dump ASAP! Stop treating him like a King unless he has proven himself to be one. Another possible reason why they cheat because he knows he's got you in the palm of his hands and does not respect you because you don't respect yourself. Therefore, he cheats because he can.
* Maybe you just had his baby and have totally forgotten about him. While your kids are number 1 priority always.... you don't have to let your relationship suffer because of it either. It takes a lot of work but anything is possible. Always make sure that you two get to have some "Sexy time" together once a week or however many times so that your entire life doesn't just revolve around the kids and nothing else! This is very vital in keeping the spark going between 2 people who have kids together. Getting some "alone time" with each other will help immensely as well as remind you of who you both are as individuals... not just lost amongst a slew of dirty diapers and non-existent sex life. There's enough love to go around so why not? If your relationship is worth it then do it!
* If you have found yourself giving your man your all but he's just not reciprocating and the more he ignores you the harder you try at spoiling him... this could be yet another reason why he cheats. You are giving him too much for something he did not earn nor deserve. Every man loves a strong and independent woman who he knows would leave him in a heartbeat if it came down to it, but once you have your man feeling too comfortable he's no longer going to go out of his way to do things for you like he once did. Men love a challenge so how could they be challenged mentally and sexually if you're always at his beckoning call? It's a bit too "easy." Spice things up a little bit and learn how to be that feisty, bitch of a woman who has self-confidence and isn't afraid to kick her man's ass every once in a while. Guys love that.
I'm sure there are plenty more reasons as to why guys cheat, but for now this is what I can share from my own experiences of being the "other woman" and what I was able to observe about the types of men that do cheat. As for "why me" well you're probably thinking that it's because "I'm hot" but honestly it's not always about that because there are a plethora of hot women out there who get cheated on also!! It's about how you carry yourself. These men are just looking for someone fun, sexy, and drama free.... A quick escape with someone who could give them what they need, but at the same time won't tie them down or nag them about stuff. A friend. A confidante.
As for why I did not end up dating any of these men? Well, like I said... I too, was not interested in a relationship. Plus, I would never date a guy that cheats on his girl. I'm not stupid you know? I was just getting out of it what I also needed at the time.. which was just sex. So in this particular case you shouldn't hate on the other woman, because she wasn't the one trying to "steal" your man..... he was pushed away either by you or on his own. However, "man-stealers" are a whole different topic to discuss and I wouldn't know anything about that since that's not my style nor do I have to steal anyone's man. I could get it anytime I want with anyone I want. No need to take someone else's used product to call my own! Ha! <==== and THAT.... is also another quality in a woman that every man loves.... a little bit of cockiness and a lot of confidence all while being playful and sassy at the same time!
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