i always think about that study where they had adults hold a baby, and when they were told the baby was a girl the adults said she was cute and small, and when they were told the baby was a boy they said he was big and strong. they rated the babyâs ability to do things and tendency towards certain toys differently. they even held the baby differently. (x) or when they rated the babyâs physical ability to do various tasks such as climbing up a slope differently, (x) & when they measured how much parents told their girl children vs. their boy children to be careful and stop being so rowdy (x), & when they measured how often girls and boys were told to be quiet. (x) this was, obviously, all unconscious behavior in the adults. theyâre not all like, raving sexists who outspokenly believe that women canât do stuff or that girls really should just be quieter, be more still than boys. like its not even counting the direct, actual messages, its just literally how every single person in your entire life treats you, and if asked they would probably deny that its even because youâre a girl. how the fuck am i supposed to believe this doesnât affect a childâs development when its literally constant throughout the entire processÂ
This shit starts as soon as early as when someoneâs still a fucking fetus. Iâve heard the saying âdiscrimination starts as soon as you leave the wombâ but it actually starts earlier than that.
GoddAMN I am so sick of genders
âDelusions of Genderâ by Cordelia Fine goes over all this in lots of detail if you want to be REALLY infuriated (and educated!)
Reblogging to second that book recommendation. Delusions of Gender covers a lot of scientific studies into perceived gender differences in children and adults - things like the study of children climbing a slope reference by OP, but also things like men being better at spacial reasoning than women. It asks the question of whether these differences are innate and natural or taught to us by society from a young age. From the title, I think you can guess where the author landed on this question.
endlessly frustrating.
Fuck gender.
âOh, I know itâs gonna a (whatever) cuz sheâs carrying high/lowâ - dude, you donât even have to be showing before that shit starts.

















