[jwjdhdjsksks]

Like imagine if one day someone just came up with a new word that meant "lesbian but will date trans women" or "lesbian but like women for their personalities instead of looks" and randomly decided that the old term lesbian meant you only like cis women, and just for their looks or body parts. And now everyone is either forced to adopt the new term, or keep the original term but have to deal with misconceptions and constantly have to clarify that you aren't what they randomly changed the definition of lesbian to mean. And when you point out "actually lesbian never excluded trans women or implied I don't care about personality" and people respond by saying "oh well I still like the new term anyways its a personal choice and it's not hurting anyone" even though the literal existence of the new word implies things that aren't true about the old term. That's exactly what pansexual did to bisexuals

[lesbx]

there is no part of the terf ideology that has anything to do with ace discourse. literally none at all. if you think it does then you fundamentally misunderstand what terf means and you are beyond help. stop watering down the issue of transmisogyny. trans women are enough to fight for, we are enough to grieve for, and our problems are enough to stand up for on their own, so it makes absolutely no goddamn sense to make the issue about an entirely unrelated topic bc you can’t muster up the empathy for us to not twist the discussion around your internet arguments. tme ppl can and will reblog just keep your mouth shut for once

[joongus]

[pretzelgender]

bisexuals: talk about how much harm the “pansexual” community has harmed them and helped encouraged bisexual stereotypes and transphobia

pansexuals: this hurts my feelings :/ why can’t we just all get along :/ everyone’s valid :/

[the-edge-is-real-deactivated202]

bisexuals can't have ONE fucking post without people in the replies talking about "but what about pan/omni/poly/homoflexible/heteroflexible/abrosexual-" die

[yelloux-sims-deactivated2021113]

I'm panphobic because somehow they have managed to undo 60 years of progress in bisexual activism in less than a third of that time. The've seriously singlehandedly caused more harm to the bisexual community than straight people could ever dare to even systematically, and somehow we're the problematic ones.

[insomniac-arrest]

I think a lot about that Fruits Basket story where the onigiri (rice ball) thinks its plain and bad with nothing special about it

but everyone else actually admires it because of the delicious plum on its back that it can’t see

anyway, I’m going on a second date with a girl soon and couldn’t help but think “Why would she want to keep going out with me?? I’m like, so weird and a little crazy.”

but then I remembered that there is also a plum on my back that I can’t see and that people often like others for reasons we don’t recognize in ourselves. Be kind to yourself. There’s always something good about someone– however little we remember it.

[paeshi]

can’t believe it took me this long to realize that the reason ppl like me is because of my fat juicy ass

[allo-gays]

ok so like yes gay people are superior to straights in every way but at the same time I’m a little worried that jokes like that are part of the reason kids are identifying as a million different micro-identities… like they know they’re not lesbian gay bisexual or transgender but they want the community, they want to feel like they’re part of it… idk this is only a half formed thought but like. You can find community in places that aren’t lgbt if that’s not what you are. you don’t have to find some kind of loophole so that you can call yourself queer. If you’re not lgbt, don’t make yourself be

[knownaphobe]

what's wrong with the split attraction model? i've found it sort of useful for defining my orientation (panromantic gray-asexual), but maybe i'm not thinking about it critically enough. i'm not trying to be hostile or confrontational, btw (hopefully i was already getting yhat across but i am very bad at judging tone in both online and irl conversation)

okay so i typed out this whole long, introspective response and accidentally refreshed the page and i lost everything i wanted to say. so i’m super annoyed at myself right now - of course not at you anon, you don’t sound confrontational at all and i really wanted to answer this question properly and i’m sorry you have to settle for this mess of a response because i’m so irritated with myself. so here’s an much more poorly written version of what i wanted to say about the split attraction model:

born out of a misunderstanding of sexuality; the myth that the -sexual suffix in bisexual, heterosexual, etc. refers to sexual attraction and/or the act of sex when it refers to the gender(s) that one is attracted to.

along with this, sexualizes lgbp identities by insisting that our sexualities are inherently sexual because of the -sexual suffix.

encourages people to identify as things like “bihet” and “heteroromantic lesbian”, and to use h*m*sexual/h*m*romantic freely without realizing that these terms have been used to medicalized and pathologize (is that a word?) gay people’s attraction.

through dicing up attraction, encourages internalized homophobia/biphobia (e.g. someone who calls themselves “heterosexual h*m*romantic” might really be bisexual); the split attraction model gives people the tools to construct an orientation around internalized homophobia/biphobia rather than confront it (x).

encourages people who are not lgbt to freely call themselves q*eer just because they believe they are not “normal” when they label themselves as lithsexual, placiosexual, or something along those lines.

seeks to contain attraction when in reality attraction is incredibly complex and it is oftentimes not helpful to try to categorize each and every aspect of it; fails to recognize attraction is different for everyone and attempting to micromanage sexuality (and gender) is incredibly counterproductive and confusing for young lgbt people.

seeks to categorize what is the “normal” amount of sexual/romantic attraction when there really is no way for that to be quantified.

similarly, implants a false allo-ace dichotomy that is in no way indicative of oppression in society.

allows cis straight people to not only deny their cishet privilege, but encourages them to call themselves q*eer due to the conjured idea that not feeling a specific type of attraction makes one oppressed.

similarly, leads people to believe that the general public not having knowledge about their very precise “sexuality” is oppression.

that is all i can think to say about this issue at the moment. i know this is actually really incoherent and i’m sorry about that. i hope this isn’t too obnoxious or difficult to read, and if it is you can always send me another message and i will try to do better (because i’m still metaphorically punching myself in the face).

[dankmemeuniversity]

[xelayxes]

[xelayxes]

@matzahball

[dracophile]

For a second I didn’t realize it meant “high” as in a stoner--I thought “High Geologist” was like a rank of geologist or something and he was insulted you would challenge him to naming stones

[hamptercatapult]

great poast every one👍

[shirecorn]

I have drawn him.... The High Geologist

[stuffandylikesyeah]

[c-kiddo]

untitled moodboard..........

[indigoire]

Disasters, but make it hilarious.

[tokoshi-deactivated20191031]

my therapist: so how are you doing today?

me:

[big-gay-mike]

Is your therapist washing you?

[honted]

used her hand sanitizer

[botanical-artistry]

[financeswithwolves]

girl's night

[deliriumcrow]

That soft one in the middle, just sleeping on a bed of delicious apples

[jung-koook]

jungkook’s reaction after jimin laugh so hard when he talked using his satoori 😆

[akumeoy]

i’m gonna say what we’re all thinking: those baby monkeys were problematic a.f. for preferring cloth mother over wire mother

[carcinisized-deactivated2021112]

is he...yknow....*gestures downward to super hell*