New Year, not so new you.
Today I learned that people can claim to have a new year and new selves. But really never move on.
Insecurities and egos should be the subjects of new year resolutions. Not body images nor life goals nor achievements.Â
Apologies and moving on... they do nothing for those who haven’t forgiven themselves and resolved their stand. That much is really true.Â
You can shoulder their faults and in an instant, they see it as yours. They brand you, as their faults.
Some people don’t deal with the wrong that you did. They can’t.
They deal with the wrong they THINK you did [which equates to] the wrong they think see [which equates to] the wrong they actually are seeing in themselves.Â
Some people who happily jump back at a chance to prove a wrong from a place of peacemaking and resolve - I find that human characteristic scary. It is scary.
I’ve seen and known people who would do that - even after a direct apology, a personal confrontation, an admittance to something you’ve never done but something they have, a shouldering of their faults. Only to dive straight back at the chance of finger-pointing at any sound of backslide.
I’ve learned today that sometimes you might truly have to give up hoping someone or some things can improve for the better.
That maybe sometimes its okay for people to be truly... not okay.
That when it comes to it - you’ll have to deal with this by not dealing with this.
They’re stuck in the past for a reason. You don’t have to be.