searching for that liminal space

[queercheersquad]

[lesbophobes-deactivated20220907]

everyone is deleting the caption to this but this work is called “perfect lovers” by the gay artist felix gonzalez-torres. the piece is about the illness and death of his HIV-positive partner ross laycock:

For Untitled (Perfect Lovers) (1991), he synchronized two industrial clocks placed side by side. Inevitably, because batteries fail and things tend toward entropy, the clocks would slowly begin to advance at differing rates, out of sync, having moved, however briefly, perfectly together. (x)

[neurotic-prayer]

“Don’t be afraid of the clocks, they are our time, time has been so generous to us. We imprinted time with the sweet taste of victory. We conquered fate by meeting at a certain time in a certain space. We are a product of the time, therefore we give back credit where it is due: time. We are synchronized, now and forever. I love you.” (Gonzalez-Torres, 1988)

[neckkiss]

Tea, please! via weheartit

[quotemadness]

“Don’t think. Thinking is the enemy of creativity. It’s self-conscious, and anything self-conscious is lousy. You can’t try to do things. You simply must do things.”

— Ray Bradbury

[mckitterick]

[rumade]

I’d divorce him too lmao

[sustainableseparatists]

[sisyphereantask]

It’s never JUST about the tomatoes.

[probablyasocialecologist]

Basically!

Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: He’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.

These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow-up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in 10 of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of 10, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

The Secret to Love Is Just Kindness

Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together.

[educatedsavage]

Damn, this made me think of all the “shouting into the void” social media posts everyone makes. Just bids for connection. From ANYONE.

[c-ptsdrecovery]

I think that is ABSOLUTELY what a lot of that is. Our culture is very isolated (even BEFORE covid!), and we’re desperate to connect with others. I read an article one time that suggested that childcare workers stop saying that a child is “Just wants attention” and start saying that the child is “looking for connection.” We’re starved for it even from childhood.

[seymour-butz-stuff]

[sosayset]

When they are speaking about a passion, respond to children as if you would a tenured professor at a prestigious university, and to an adult as if you would a child free of the burdens of adulthood. 

Children are desperate to teach the wonders of the world that they know, that they have just learned, and share it with anyone interested.  Adults pour passion they didn’t know they had into voluntary obligations, and crave a simple acknowledgment of that passion as being worthy and valid. 

“Dear third grader, tell me exactly why you chose <x> as you third favorite carnivorous dinosaur instead of second, as specifically as possible.”

“Hey neighbor, your vegetable garden is absolutely gorgeous this year…and no I’m not just saying that because the tomatoes you gave me last year were absolute perfection.”

[tolibrariantotwerk]

[henry-cavill]

Death is only the beginning.

THE MUMMY 1999 | dir. Stephen Sommers

[damnyouhiddles]

What’s the best feel good movie of all time?

[tolibrariantotwerk]

[thisisadecisionimayregret]

made a uquiz to figure out what your basic assumption about the world is

what is the truth at the center of your universe?

there's 8 possible results and no song lyric or pop culture questions, enjoy

[memewhore]

[dankxsinatra]

I’m so used to boomers ruining social media platforms but these fine gentlemen singlehandedly made tiktok worth it.

[y4nd3r3x]

the signs do be kinda vibin doe 👀👉👈😳✊👊🖐️🥺🥺

[ghostofadragon]

may i add

[mckitterick]

ominous sightings around LFK

[pascalcampion]

In the dark I tend to wake up early because I like the dark. I tried making a little story to explain it. I love playing with sequential art. Not simply because I want to depict a sequence of event but mostly because I like trying to generate emotions through them. #pascalcampion

2019

[amiiam22fuk]

[radical-eve]

[browngyalwriting-deactivated202]

Books by black authors to read during Black History Month and in 2021.

[thoughtkick]

“People do not seem to realize that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.”

— Ralph Waldo Emerson

[jenny-jinya]

TW: Animal death, cruelty

Sometimes I have to draw comics to cope with things. I read about this a while ago and it still breaks my heart. They smashed her eggs with a brick and she died of grief. The only message I have here is don’t be cruel.